insecurites :(

my OW told me that she needs some time to think about my age(19 birthday was in Nov. :P). that she can't get over the AG. As I heard this I couldn't bare the thought of her love not being around me anymore. I was so happy and glad to have found her. Now I feel that I have a hole in my chest that won't be repaired. What should I be thinking? I still belive and hope in her every second of my breathe and still love her completely. I just sat from 11pm to 5am on saturday all depressed and what not. Will she get out of this phase? I have shown her emotions that no other person has ever seen from me yet I guess they trouble her somehow. ugh.

Will she get out of this phase? I have shown her emotions that no other person has ever seen from me yet I guess they trouble her somehow. ugh.

It can be overwhelming to be everything to one person. Maybe she feels that you're not spending enough time doing hobbies and other things to make you happy and she's worried that you two are not on the same page just yet, despite having strong feelings for each other.

Since you haven't spent time together in person it's hard to say whether what you feel will even be real in person--for me it was even more wonderful to meet him in person--so her doubts could be related to that also.

All I can suggest to you is patience and to have realistic expectations. Even people who are in love with each other sometimes have difficulties coming to terms with other aspects of a relationship.

I hope you feel better soon Zukoz.

Zukoz, have you told her about Ageless? I think that most of us OW have had some worries about the age of the YM. The people here at ageless helped me, maybe if she got to read some of the stories here; things might become a bit easier for her.

i haven't asked her if i am clingy but in my opinion i am not. i do try and talk to her all day long though. i love every minute of it. i get a lot of good response though from her about what i say. nothing bad at all. i have shown her Ageless though. I think she reads the forums but i am not sure.

Its not easy being with someone as young as you are, which its why I never give guys your age a chance because relationships are hard enough as it is, especially agr, without my bugging him about my insecurities about his age. So you have to give her some time to regroup. You're so young that in the next few years there will be alot of changes for you and she's either remembering how much one changes or feels inacdequate to support you or doesn't know how she's going to handle it, either way, its something that she's has to handle alone.

All you can do is be supportive of her, love her and show her that you can be just a good a friend thoughout this adjustment period as you are a b/f. But this is her fight to overcome, she's gotta come to terms with it on her own. Stay sweet, continue to talk, give her the room she needs to readjustment, so she can find the spirit to go on loving you.

Paris

One answer to all questions was given to King by elderly when he asked for the advice. Wise man set for a long time and gave him written words “This too will pass”


“If this too is going to pass, it is not yours.
The defeat was not yours, the victory is not yours.
You are just a watcher. Everything passes by
We are witness of all this. We are the perceiver. Life come and go. Happiness come and go. Sorrow come and go.
Now as you have read this story, just sit silently and evaluate your own life. This too will pass. Think of the moments of joy and victory in your life. Think of the moment of Sorrow and defeat. Are they permanent. They all come and pass away. Life just passes away.
There were friends in past. They all have gone.
There are friends today. They too will go.
There will be new friends tomorrow. They too will go.
There were enemies in past. They have gone.
There may be enemy in present. They too will go.
There will be new enemies tomorrow and......they too will go.
There is nothing permanent in this world. Every thing changes except the law of change. Think over it from your own perspective. You have seen all the changes. You have survived all setbacks, all defeats and all sorrows. All have passed away. If there are problems in the present, they too will pass away. Because nothing remains forever. Joy and sorrow are the two faces of the same coin. They both will pass away. Who are you in reality? Know your real face. Your face is not your true face. It will change with the time. However, there is something in you, which will not change. It will remain unchanged. What is that unchangeable? It is nothing but your true self.
You are just a witness of change. Experience it, understand it.”

Love makes us week but it makes us strong.
My heart goes to you, but you will attain strength and courage. Believe in yourself.
Best wishes