ow 46 - ym 37

I am in the most loving relationship of my life. It is real. I know he really loves me. But, I am sometimes insecure with the fact that I am 9 years older, and I dont want to compete with younger women as I get older. I am fine now, but how do I get over this stupid but real insecurity. Who else has the same problem help!!!

You're age gap is small, you are both confirmed adults in similar stages in life....I think you should just relax and enjoy the blessing of having this wonderful man in your life, honey!

The WORST case scenario I could see here would be that he would suddenly decide that he wants children and that you won't be able to give them to him. I think you should go to the OB doc and see where you are hormonally. Are you in this position? Could you be in this spot with him? I'm your age and that is what I think about with guys I'm dating who are younger, will they wish they'd opted for someone ten years younger instead of older for childbearing reasons. Of course, it is entirely possible to have a child at our age, you just have to work at it *wink* harder.

Welcome to Ageless

Ali

Are you insecure because of some way he is making you feel, or is it all in your head? If it's because of things he is saying to you, then that's one issue. If it is truly your own insecurities, then you need to talk it out with him, or talk it out with a friend or therapist. But you do need to get over it, because otherwise it'll eat away at you....and that's a ridiculous way to live.

Hey, Sparky,
I'm new to this site and posted recently, feeling quite insecure like you. I'm 49 and my sweetheart is 35. This site has been a real eye-opener for me because as someone else pointed out, the age difference in your case and mine is exceptionally low compared to most folks on this site.
Anway, the other day I was telling my sweetie about something I had read on this site that related to my insecurities of being older and I said, "Well, any comment?" His reply was, "I've believe we've already covered this territory before." So wonderfully matter of fact!ha! i.e. He's not going to keep reassuring me; I have to believe what he already told me. More importantly, I think about his actions. How he acts around me in front of others, in public, etc. Never any hint at all that's he's ashamed or embarrassed to be seen with me. We hold hands and kiss in public all the time.
Enjoy! :D