Cannot call this girl..driving me crazy!!

only a 5 age gap but here goes....



I'm not gonna give the drawn out rundown of our entire situation, but basically i had an injury, she was my therapist, we had that type of relationship for 2 months and i really enjoyed being around her

she's 5 years older then me, i'm in college (we're both in our 20's)

my only way of contact with her is through her business voicemail

i'm really not sure how she feels towards me, on occasion it'd feel just like business and on other days it felt like we were flirting, clicking and generally vibing off each other

my problem is i cannot call her, i've been trying for the past 3 weeks and its like i just cannot press the buttons its driving me crazy. I think about it constantly and its gotten to where it's not even 100% about her its just the fact that i can't call her that's driving me mad....I'm an athlete, my expertise is in exercise and nutrition so with that in mind i'm regularly very energized, I eat the right things that keep my energy level high and the past week i've been DOG TIRED, like this is just stressing me out beyond belief

what gets me is i never felt uncomfortable around her, not one time, i was always calm as can be, the nerves didn't get to me in person but calling her is just absolutely crazy.

i've tried to figure out my problem on my own, and even tried other forums for advice but i haven't been able to call her yet...even tonight a few hours ago i intended to, i dialed all the numbers but couldn't dial that last number its like something was stopping me....

i guess i could be fearing rejection a little bit because in the past i've always KNOWN whether the girl was willing to go out or not, this is the first time i really have no clue, she's older which i'm also unexperienced with (every girl i've dated has been in school and around my own age give or take a couple years)

it's been about a month since i've had any contact with her, but i dont wanna just give up although up to this point it's been an agonizing failure to say the least...christmas is in three days but i'd imagine she'll be working tomorrow (friday)

i just can't put my finger on whats holding me back, i guess i'm a little paranoid of failing and what she'll think of me waiting a month to give her a call

not that i expect myself to actually call her tomorrow after a month of failing to do so but would it be bright of me to call her two days before christmas?

welcome to you!

ok, here's my advice......*deep breathe*


Pick Up The Phone and Call Her.....RIGHT NOW!!!! GO GO GO!!!!!

report back once you have. :D


Tracy

ps.....what's the worst that could happen? "rejection" *GASP* you aren't gonna physically die. truuuuuust me on this one.... i've been there more times than i will ever publicly admit :D

is it gonna be brighter to try and call her two days before christmas or after christmas?

can't call her at the moment because the office is closed and a receptionist must forward me to her voicemail

Sure, call and wish her a Merry Christmas and thank her for her services. Or you can send her a Christmas ecard if you have her email address. If she is a professional, she might have a website or her address might be on her business card.

Sure, call and wish her a Merry Christmas and thank her for her services. Or you can send her a Christmas ecard if you have her email address. If she is a professional, she might have a website or her address might be on her business card.

For her "services"....
:mad:

For her "services"....
:mad:
she was his therapist kathy. says so in the first part of his post. i don't believe for one minute that he feels anything other than sincerely about this woman.


i think christmas gives you the PERFECT opportunity to touch base with her........given that you're done with therapy, because like Cherubino said.....if she's still your therapist that could be bad news.

but if NOT......heck yeah, call her up! :D

says who?

if she's into me she's into me

if she's not i guess she could use that to let me down easy

:eek: so everyone is kind've in agreement its better to try this before christmas opposed to after

another sleepless night comin... :o

IIIII say, the sooner the better. GO GO GO! :D :p

:eek: so everyone is kind've in agreement its better to try this before christmas opposed to after

another sleepless night comin... :o

Yes!!! It's a great opportunity to say "Merry Christmas!!".... and toss in that you'd love to take her to lunch as a token of appreciation for her help.

If she's on the fence about you, lunch is very casual and gives you a pressure-free opportunity to close the deal and get a more intimate date with her. If not, you gave her something to think about. :D

Just a thought....... if you're so hung up on the "calling part".......

try the email (if you have it)...... or........

send flowers!! like some daisies (anything but roses) and add a note saying something "catchy" and add your phone # in....... I'm not too creative at the moment, but you get the drift!! :cool:

Then see if she takes the bait and calls YOU!

voicemail is the only option.....no email on the card....just name, addy, company, phone and fax


i've tried to call her for a month, ill try to call her again tomorrow before christmas...i just wish i could find out what it is that's making it so hard for me to call her, i've called her before...plus its just voicemail it's not like i have to carry on a conversation to begin with, i just dont even understand where my nerves are coming from

Some types of therapist can LOSE THEIR LICENSE to practise their job if they date a patient. I would not hold my breath on this one! Medicine considers it entirely Unethical to date patients. I would just let this go and forget it. If anyone at her work ever found out her job would be gone in less than the time it takes to tell about it!

Do you want to do this to this young woman?????


Welcome to Ageless!

Ali

Some types of therapist can LOSE THEIR LICENSE to practise their job if they date a patient. I would not hold my breath on this one! Medicine considers it entirely Unethical to date patients. I would just let this go and forget it. If anyone at her work ever found out her job would be gone in less than the time it takes to tell about it!

Do you want to do this to this young woman?????


Welcome to Ageless!

Ali

i've never heard of that with a physical therapist

i've heard on occasion psychiatrists are frowned upon for dating patients

i had a injury playing a sport, i went to therapy for the proper exercises and treatment to heel the injury and if by chance her and i started dating our relationship is not going to affect my old injury or the place where she works

i think what your talking about is heading more towards the mental therapist field, where dating could lead to some type of relapse for the patient

i just don't think i can just let it go after a month without eventually finding out what could be, or could've been, or if nothing was ever meant to happen at all

Oh, GOOD GRIEF!!!!

She was his PHYSICAL therapist. She applied ice and hot compresses to his injury....maybe some massage and exercise. She didn't attempt to "fix" his wounded psyche for crying out loud.

I almost spit coffee on this post sis! ROFLMAO..... I love the way you put it so bluntly. I remember Salt swooning over that gal. I totally agree, ya never know until you try!! ;)

i just wish i could find out what it is that's making it so hard for me to call her It is fear of rejection. Quit analyzing in order to procrastinate. Feel the fear and do it anyway!

Mentally practice, dialing the number, smiling while you are talking to the machine. Talk slowly. Then call the number and say "This is X, I couldn't let the season go by without telling you how much I appreciate what you have done for me. Please give me a call when you have a moment and allow me to take you to lunch. My number is 123-123-1234. Happy Holidays. "

On most answering machines in a office, you can hear your message and re-record if you are not pleased with it. Go for it tiger... :)

Feel the fear and do it anyway!
Go for it tiger... :)


lol YR, first thing that popped in my head when i read your great post.......



Be the ball.

lol :D :p

It takes courage to face possible rejection. No one ever died from being rejected, so I feel pretty safe saying it like the commercial ........ "JUST DO IT!"

Courage comes from forcing ourselves to do the very things we "think" we cannot do. Self confidence comes from succeeding, when we were convinced we'd fail. Regrets come from never trying.

yeah....but i may be looking for a mental therapist soon.... :eek:

yeah....but i may be looking for a mental therapist soon Oh baloney! :D You are making this way too important. Quit letting your brain making it a catastrophe :) You need to develope an attitude of "what will be, will be"... no big deal if she doesn't come through and it is just dessert if she does! ;)

Yes, do call tomorrow. Just remember that your fellow Ageless members are all thinking of you and mentally holding your hand.

I kind of like the flower idea, too, so if you really can't let yourself make the call, then you can try that.

Let us know right away what happens! :)

well i didn't call her friday...once again i intended to i just waited and waited and never did it,basically a replay of how it's been

i still intend to go for it monday, or tuesday depending on if they are open the day after xmas....i have come to the realization that not doing this is aggravating the hell out of me and it's gotta be a relief when i finally get it out on the table whether she replies with what i wanna hear or not, atleast I'll know and won't have to deal with the "what-if" about it all day right?

Just out of curiousity if anyone women here have had a similar situation....how will it come across that it's been nearly a month since we last spoke and now I'm calling her up possibly out of the blue?

Is she gonna take it like
a. I felt she was a 3rd or 4th option, as if i tried dating a few others before giving her a chance
b. I just randomly thought of her and called her up for a "quicky"
c. I wasnt attracted to her enough to begin with
d. I was intimidated
e. other....

i now wish i would've taken care of this long ago, but i wanna make it clear that I didn't hold off because of her....in a way "fear of rejection" i guess, but i had school, work, christmas, people coming into town for christmas....i had excuses that really aren't that legit of excuses (i could've called i kno) but excuses nonetheless

its definetly not from a lack of a spark between her and i as far as i'm concerned

You know, where I work, customers come in during the holidays to drop off gifts of candy or cookies to the department they have done business with during the year or they send them in the mail or have them delivered. Since it looks like you are procrastinating to the point of no return, why don't you just send flowers or candy and say what you have to say in the note?

i still intend to go for it monday, or tuesday

O, really? You have not called her before you had a good chance. Are you going finally call her?

You have developed some attraction to her and it’s nice, but stop wire yourself about what if and what would, instead find out. If she developed same feelings as you, she would be more than glad to hear your voice. Dial that phone, as Yellow Rose suggested, find out, face reality, and move on.

I did not mean to be insensitive, but sometime you have to.

H/tip. New Year is coming, good chance!
Wish you courage and luck in your love life.