The Hated Mistress

Everybody use to love me, now that I've been involved with a well known man secretly for a year and a half, and openly for 6 months. I'm 21 and he's 38. I love him, but even he blames me for breaking up his family. At first, I thought I could have a friendship and not cause him a problem, but as time went on I didn't mean to hurt anyone, but I wanted him for myself. Am I guilty of being a home wrecker???????????? :rolleyes:

To be painfully honest I would have to say so, however "he" who 'blames you" is more guilty in my opinion than you are. He had a family to protect and a vow to honor and you didn't. It's something that happens, I think married men who get involved with single women more often than not are using them. Not to say this was the case as I have no idea but I would steer clear of married or involved people because their behavoir will repeat. Had won him over for yourself then one day he would have left you behind for someone else most likely.

I am sincerely sorry this happened to you and hope you find happiness elsewhere :)

homewrecker? sure, why not? along with self-absorbed, self-centered, ego-centric and selfish, to name a few.

you wanted him for yourself? like a toy you won't share with anyone? well, give my regards to humbert humbert, lolita.

[Thans for the support, john. Iwant you to understand that I have deep feelings for him, and I did't mean to break up a home. Like the saying goes what comes around goes around. I guees I'll just wait for my payback
[]:confused:

It is human nature to "want" things, some of which are unattainable or forbidden so to speak by society. Advertising tells us to want things we do not need. In your case, you say you "wanted" him for yourself. In what way ? As a lover, partner, soul mate, husband ? Only you can assess your motives. If you would like to discuss this thread, my email and IM info can be obtained by viewing my profile. One thing I can advise is to forgive yourself and move on, if you deem that possible.

Best regards,

Chris Zukowski

Originally posted by SnowPrincess
Completely disgusting.
......You reap what you sow.......


Yes you will, be it evil actions or evil words, eventually it will bite you in the a$$ !


JohnH715

Originally posted by SnowPrincess
....There is NO excuse in the world good enough for F@ucking a married person.....

Some Make Love, others are caught "F@cking".......



JohnH715

NO excuses for "fing a married person" eh? Well I can think of a few, such as being married to an abusive, lying, mentally ill addict. Outright destroying a happy marriage is the fault of both parties though. Men seem to be let off the hook because they are supposed to be "pigs," but that's ridiculous. If he's blaming you for wrecking his family, then what's his excuse? I guess it's not hard to topple a house of cards, now is it?

Sometimes it's unavoidable and it's not much fun being a mistress.

I'd say you both played a part in breaking up the marriage, but that he is more to blame than you. He was the married one you weren't. You were interested and you threw bait out there. He couldn't resist temptation, he couldn't stick to his marriage vows. If you hadn't thrown your bait out there would his marriage still be in tact? Who's to say some other woman wouldn't have come along and got his attention. I'd say he needs to stop using you as a scapegoat and take responsiblity for his actions. You have admitted your part in everything, now it's his turn.

Mirror Mirror,

Guess what, you can't "steal" someone from somebody else unless they WANT to be stolen.

I am so sick of the bs that somebody stole my wife or husband. Is it a great idea to go with a married man, no it's a rather bad one actually. BUT he went with you as well.

So stop beating yourself up here cause it takes two to tango. It's his turn to accept responsibility too!

Why is everybody yelling at a one year old thread by a member that never returned?????

Originally posted by rollsharley
Why is everybody yelling at a one year old thread by a member that never returned?????

LOL, I was wondering the same thing! Slow night er sumthin?

Don,

That is too hilarious!!!

Thanks for the heads up. I guess somebody resurrected it and we just jumped in.

LOL

I guess we had to come over here for relief!!!

From the looks of Clarabell's profile shes feeling like this hit a nerve for her I guess?

And......LOL.........you folks are welcome to hide over here till the dust settles over on your boards!

LMAO:D

I am laughing at this one, but when I did post it that far away night I did mean it.......
My husband did have an affair, well more than one, he had two and THEY actually met each other and fought at the motel room, I was just the housewife at home miles away that found out many months later, so Yes I wa bitter at this time.
But.......
My ex husband and his 24 year old GF are together now, they have a child, we all get along OK.
I am not bitter anymore,,, It was the best thing to happen to both of us, even though It really didn't feel like it at the time.
If a relationship ends it is not the end of the world. It does hurt like hell......
But my ex's new girlfriend is very nice to me and our child.
And yes someone did alot of digging bringing this one up :)
Wonder who it was?
:rolleyes:
Thanks for the hiding spot Roll, but I am gonna tag soon so therefore I will not be it.... I love your peaceful side of the board......
Hugz
~Tammy

Snow that was a real jerky thing your ex did to you as my ex did too......glad I don't give a darn anymore and glad that things worked out for you in the end (wink):)

Jezzz... I thought I was in the twilight zone again!!!!

this definatly must of struck a nerve for Clara....

These old posts resurrections need to stop LOL Its driving me nuts...

ahhh well

We must be bored LOL