I will take my business somewhere else!

Originally Posted by skatergirl
dear Trish,
i have felt these very things before...remember, you have a good heart and i sense that this guy has a problem!!!
i hope that you come back soon and share with us! ((((hugs))))

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After I read above post, I decided to take my business somewhere else. I will not do business with AL anymore. :)

Bad customer service agents

Life is short. Why waste it infront of a computer screen? I work on computers all day anyway. I decided to sharpen my polo skills. It has been a while since I played the game of polo. I found a nice polo club not too far from my house. This will be my new evening gig. LOL. If customer service at AL improves, I might post a few pics of me playing polo or else the competition site will have it. {Just kidding}

I do not want to take advantage of Trish or anyone else.

FlankerZZXX@yahoo.com

What is this all about, anyway?

This will probably be deleted shortly.....BUT....we shouldn't be the ones leaving....if anything there are some apologies due us....not that I'll hold my breath waiting to get one.

You didn't believe me when I told you I should leave a long time ago....I've been here long enough to know how things can go.

Just for the record....you certainly didn't take advantage of me....I'm going to make my drink now....another blood vessel is about to explode in my head....

Oh also for the record.....I love and adore you and I don't care who knows it or what they think about it.....if they think I'm crazy so be it....It's my life and I'll damn sure do what I want with it.....

Is it polo on horses?? I'm clueless :D .....I know we have a polo club here on the island.....
Don't worry what others think (sounds cliche i know) of if they think you're crazy.

I've talked to you on the phone many, many times...i know you were crazy BEFORE .

Personally i wish you two the best.
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Sing along with me:
I love you
You love me
We're a happy family
With a great big hug
And a kiss from me to you
Won't you say you love me too?

I love you
You love me
We're best friends
Like friends should be
With a great big hug
And a kiss from me to you
Won't you say you love me too? :D

Anyone who doesn't approve of your relationship should go fly a kite
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LOL Mano!!! You rock! :D

Flanker, sorry I'm so out of the loop...I have no idea whats going on but I am upset that you and Trish are feeling bad about this community right now. Wish there was soemthing i could do. Love to you both!

Flanker,

Cool down, take a break, and come back when you're ready.

But definitely stick around! :) This is a wonderful community even when not everyone likes you or agrees with you.

Looking forward to seeing more of your posts again!

"A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities." ~ William Arthur Ward

This is exactly how I define true friendship. I learned the hard way that not everyone has the same definition of what it takes to be a friend. But, I have also learned that even those who think they know what is best for me, have one of two agendas. They either really care about you or they gain pleasure in involving themselves in others business. I call them Gladys Cravitz's. Remember her? From Bewitched? Always meddling in others business.

But, I don't think skatergirl, who is the one who is quoted, falls into the Gladys Cravitz category. Annie is a wonderful person who loves EVERYONE. I just don't see her as being the kind who would intentionally hurt someone.

I know from personal experience how it feels to have my relationship and my bf, tried and convicted by people who don't know him. I have enough stress in my own life without the added stress of having to listen to others who live outside my relationship, trying to tell me that they think they know enough about my bf and me to give unsolicited advice that they feel that I need. Lord knows, I've done enough analyzing of my own, I don't need everyone else doing that. If I felt a need for advice, I would ask for it. And those who think that I still need their advice, even when not asked, really have no clue how damaging that is.

Damage to friendships results when someone offers unsolicited advice or opinions. And no, just because this is a message board, that does not give everyone the right to give unsolicited advice. Not on a support forum. There is a huge difference between support and advice. Support can be given without being asked for. Advice should only be given when asked for.

There is a difference between caring about someone, and then openly saying whatever is on your mind for the sake of "doing what is best for them". I feel that people should be given the tools they need to make their own decisions. I find that the best approach is to ask questions that get them to think so that they can come to their own conclusions. But, you have to be careful and know when to step back and let that friend spread their own wings and fly.

I've said it time and again, no one knows the true dynamics of a relationship other than the two involved. And, a true friend will offer guidance when asked, and not until then, and knows just when to be silent and listen.

Trish: I love you dearly. If you ever left this site, there would be a huge void that no one else could fill. When you were gone temporarily, things just weren't the same. And my heart is aching because of what you are going through right now.

Flanker: I don't know you well, but I have enjoyed reading your posts. From what I observe about your posts, you seem to be a nice person who has gone through some rough times. Yet you have remained positive while here and have made me smile on many occasions. I am glad that you and Trish have found each other.

The one lesson that I hope you both take from this is to understand that people mean well and care about you. And, since only you two really know yourselves, then listen to your hearts and do what is best for you.

Like Harrison said, this is a great place. People are people and just like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get around here. But, you take what you need, and leave the rest.

Good luck to you both, Trish and Flanker, in whatever you decide to do. I don't know much of your story, in all honesty, outside of your public declarations of love.

Sometimes being in the dark is the best place to be :) I hope you can regroup and move forward from here.

Best,
Bub

First of all I would like to say to Katrina, I agree with you completly. True words of wisdom, and and you made your point quite eloquently.
Secondly I would like to say "kudos" to the mods for yanking that thread the other day so quickly. It was a concern that should have been addressed privatley and I believe the person who wrote it didn't mean to be malicious.
And finally, Trish and Flanker, I emplore you both to please stay. You both add color and humor to Ageless and you both would be sorely missed. Like Harrison said to Flanker, "Calm down and don't overreact."
Give this a little time to blow over. I'm sure everybody learned something from this whole experience.
Now Trish and Flanker!!! Do Mano and the rest of us really have to hog tie and ducktape you both until you come to your senses!!! lol!!! :p ;) :D

Can you hog tie and duct tape us together????!!!!!

Damn! I better shutup! This is what got me in trouble in the first place!! :p ;) :D


LOL!!! Thats my girl!!! Now thats the color and humor I was just talkin about. Thats what I meant originally, I forgot to add the "together " part! lol!!!

You are a fabulous woman! If you haven't slept all night over this, it's time to reevaluate....losing sleep and effecting your health....hmmm....this board is wonderful, but certainly not worth risking your emotional or physical well being over. Step back, and go to bed!

To Flanker and Trish

You two are both grown ups, who has the right to choose your own path.

For more that people care for you Trish, is not up to them to choose whom you should or not 'date'.

Flanker my friend, you shouldn't let that bother you, you know who you are, you don't need anyone's approval.

I only know that you two made each other laugh, and that is all a friend needs to know to support both of you.

Please re-think this over and even then if you decide to leave us, I will be sending you my positive thoughts.

Sends my love to both~

Thank you, Sweetie....
I loved talking to you on the phone yesterday....thank you so much for calling me.
You're a wonderful new friend.....
Aww sweetheart,

I loved talking to you too!
Soldier on, things will fall into place.

many hugs~

You know..I just want to step in for a second and speak for Annie.

You know what, the first time I read it, I read it the way I think she intended it..and I was surprised when Trish got upset at first, until I read it the way Trish did.

She had read a post where you said something along the lines of...

Something about him being upset and maybe he wouldn't ever speak to you again?

And she took that and intended to come across like...

I know you and I know your wonderful. If he is upset with you and wont' talk to you..he must have a problem.

Does that make sense?

I guess what I am saying is..I think she meant for him to be upset with YOU, he must have a problem.

I think it's a misunderstanding

**jumping in**


I read exactly as you did Jody. I just dont see Annie and being the kind of person to speak without thoughtfulness.

Im also going to add that Annies post was benign to what originally transpired and only got caught up in the ensuing drama......


Annies a wonderful person, Im sure Trich realizes that :)

Im just so sorry this had to happen to two wonderful people on these boards....

You know..I just want to step in for a second and speak for Annie.

You know what, the first time I read it, I read it the way I think she intended it..and I was surprised when Trish got upset at first, until I read it the way Trish did.

She had read a post where you said something along the lines of...

Something about him being upset and maybe he wouldn't ever speak to you again?

And she took that and intended to come across like...

I know you and I know your wonderful. If he is upset with you and wont' talk to you..he must have a problem.

Does that make sense?

I guess what I am saying is..I think she meant for him to be upset with YOU, he must have a problem.

I think it's a misunderstanding

Yes I think so too.
However I don't really think that was what is really bothering Flanker or Trish, more like the PM he got from someone else.

Skater's post just pulled Flanker over the edge.

sign~

I'm not going to speak for him....but I believe Anjiana is right....
It was the straw that broke the camel's back....

I took the words literally and my response was a defensive one....

Am I too old to learn to play polo??
I'd much rather be doing that than dealing with this.....lol! :D

I'm a little punchy from no sleep....and I'm a goofball anyway....
But, seriously, if I don't laugh....I'm going to cry..... :(

-You not to old for anything sweety, I don't know how to play polo myself, but I find it very interesting.-

I hope you can get some sleep soon, Flanker is problably relaxing and things will be better soon I am sure.


hugs Trish~

You know, I could be wrong, but I don't even think Annie was aware that the guy Trish was referring to was Flanker. I think she never even realized it was someone from the boards. I truly believe she thought it was some guy from the outside world that had hurt her beloved Trish. My original thought was, "Ahh Annie doesn't know who Trish is talking about." I will stick to the belief that Annie is totally innocent. *nods*

I also have no ideal what 'really' went down to cause this and its none of my business, but I do believe that it has nothing to do with the dearheart, Annie.

Trish and Flanker, people have their opinion and we will never be able to change that. Do not allow the opinion of one person affect your decision to stay here or your decision to care about eachother. You are both very loved and very appreciated here.

*hugs to you both*

~Shan

TRISH LAUGH YOUR A** OFF THEN!!! a la Spanish! jajajajajajajaja :)

In Spain is 5:45 p.m. so go ahead and have on me..... SALUD! ;)

I didn't follow the story either, but you know sometimes this happens to me in real life. A dear friend and I get into an argument that goes on forever, "you, said, I said, then you said, then I said again, because you said etc..... etc....."

Usually at some point I say "stop ! what I need to know is: do you trust me as a friend and do you really think that I would do anything to hurt your feelings, this is all what matters to me and nothing else?"


That's when the person realises that it was all a problem of misunderstanding, and that WORDS are a source of misunderstanding, and only feelings and intentions count.

I think the same way about Annie. She has an AMAZING heart and I KNOW, I just know that she would NEVER, EVER purposely say anything to hurt anyone.

just wanted to add my €

Oh my gosh....this has nothing to do with Annie.....NOTHING....the sweetheart just happened to be at the wrong place at the wrong time.....
Yeah, that's really lame of Flanker to pick on Annie. She's probably the most benign person on this forum.

Yeah, that's really lame of Flanker to pick on Annie. She's probably the most benign person on this forum.
Flanker did not pick on anyone, he is hurt that someone accused him of taking 'advantage' of Trish. And when he saw Skater's remark he exploded.

We all know was not what Skater meant, he didn't because he is upset and have the right to be too.

Who the heck is "Annie" and what the heck does "Boooooooyyyyyyaaaaahhhhhh" mean????

"Life does not need to change, only our attitude does." ~ Swami Rama

"Life is like a pomegranate: take a big bite, suck up the sweetness, and spit out the seeds." ~ Chatterbox

If you have scores of people that enjoy your company and one not-so-much, who ya gonna listen to???? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?

PS GIANT HUGS FOR ANYONE WHO'S FEELINGS HAVE BEEN HURT: That sucks!
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Ugh! That's IT! I'm not going to sleep anymore cause I keep missing everything! LOL!

Trish, Flanker - don't know what happened but ((hugs))

Trish and I both came to the same conclusion on this very day and it was an eye opener for me, irony for her... we love each other, but have never talked on the phone... can you imagine? It really can happen. Trish, I am apologizing to you and Flanker for comments made in a pm, it was none of my business. It should never have gone public, however he and I both acted out of anger. The two of you know your situation better than anyone else and you are right Trish, I would rather see you happy than in the misery you have experienced in the past. (((hugs)))

Trish and I both came to the same conclusion on this very day and it was an eye opener for me, irony for her... we love each other, but have never talked on the phone... can you imagine? It really can happen. Trish, I am apologizing to you and Flanker for comments made in a pm, it was none of my business. It should never have gone public, however he and I both acted out of anger. The two of you know your situation better than anyone else and you are right Trish, I would rather see you happy than in the misery you have experienced in the past. (((hugs)))


What a wonderful person you are for publicly apologizing to them both. :)


((((( hugs )))))

Originally Posted by skatergirl
dear Trish,
i have felt these very things before...remember, you have a good heart and i sense that this guy has a problem!!!
i hope that you come back soon and share with us! ((((hugs))))

-------------

After I read above post, I decided to take my business somewhere else. I will not do business with AL anymore. :)

Bad customer service agents

Life is short. Why waste it infront of a computer screen? I work on computers all day anyway. I decided to sharpen my polo skills. It has been a while since I played the game of polo. I found a nice polo club not too far from my house. This will be my new evening gig. LOL. If customer service at AL improves, I might post a few pics of me playing polo or else the competition site will have it. {Just kidding}

I do not want to take advantage of Trish or anyone else.

FlankerZZXX@yahoo.com

i had zero idea who the guy was (thought it was someone she was dating) or what the issue was...just offering support sheesh!!!! again i had absolutely no idea it was Flanker and still have no idea what on earth is going on. Thanks to everyone who knows me and stood for me...WOW, talk about jumping to conclusions.

[QUOTE=Amina315]I am sooooo, sooooo confused. I have no idea what is going on, and when I tell you that I have NO idea, I mean NO idea.

From the original post I honestly see nothing terribly offensive about what Skatergirl said...especially if when she posted that she did not know that Flanker was the man being spoken of.
thank you..i didn't...i was just innocently adding my 2 cents & now this!!!!! :eek:

So much drama.....more drama for ya mama....or llama....whatever....

So much drama.....more drama for ya mama....or llama....whatever....
ummm yeah, definitely NOT cool.

ummm yeah, definitely NOT cool.
Oh and here I am wanting to be so popular.

Oh and here I am wanting to be so popular.

no i didn't mean you of course!!!!!!! i'm just a little ticked that someone would mess with me like that!!!! :mad: but again, thanks so much to all my friends who stood 4 me.

no i didn't mean you of course!!!!!!!

Oh...hehe...sorry....lack of sleep!! :p

Oh...hehe...sorry....lack of sleep!! :p

no worries!!! :)

Welp, as usual, I'm a day late & a dollar short; whatever went on, I completely missed it!

Anyway, this probably is completely pointless now but I wanted to tell you guys, when Tim and I first got together, I was bombarded by "well meaning" friends who told me not to waste my time on him.

Not listening to those people was the wisest decision I ever made.

Does my little story (true, by the way) even apply to this thread anymore? I'm sure it did at one time but now? ... not so sure...! :confused:

Welp, as usual, I'm a day late & a dollar short; whatever went on, I completely missed it!

Anyway, this probably is completely pointless now but I wanted to tell you guys, when Tim and I first got together, I was bombarded by "well meaning" friends who told me not to waste my time on him.

Not listening to those people was the wisest decision I ever made.

Does my little story (true, by the way) even apply to this thread anymore? I'm sure it did at one time but now? ... not so sure...! :confused:


Poor Mrs.HedgeHog. I feel your confusion and your desire to be helpful. However, I can offer no reassurance since I, too, have no idea what happened or what continues to happen around whatever happened.

I won't add advice because it was not requested.

Boooyyyaaaah is a statement by Ron Stoppable from a cartoon called Kim Possible and is definitely a compliment.

The only thing I wish to add is that I have always enjoyed postings from both Trish and Flanker and would miss them if they stopped. Good luck to you both and I hope it all works out the way it should.

Boooyyyaaaah is a statement by Ron Stoppable from a cartoon called Kim Possible and is definitely a compliment.

Thank you so much, spenser! I haven't been able to sleep a wink since that was posted.

Now, can you use it in a sentence, please?

...is a sentence unto itself and should be yelled with great gusto. :D

LOL

Oh yeah, and bringing myself up a few decades:

Hey, Trish, boooooooooooooooyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh!

Okay, all the oldsters - lets get together, dance the Bunny Hop, do the Hokie Pokie, and talk Pig Latin!!!!!!!!

Okay, all the oldsters - lets get together, dance the Bunny Hop, do the Hokie Pokie, and talk Pig Latin!!!!!!!!


What?????? No takers????????????????

Count me in for the Hokey Pokey.....

Is that some new sex toy??? :p ;) :D

ROFL

Oh my stars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey! If my honey isn't coming back I'm going to hijack his thread and talk about sex! http://bestsmileys.com/lol/10.gif
That is the spirit!
Nothing better then that talk to cheer up the heart. lol


P.S: Flanker better check this thread soon, before gets moved. :eek:

hugs~

Count me in for the Hokey Pokey.....

Is that some new sex toy??? :p

(please pardon that I am a bit slow on the uptake this evening)

No, that would be the Holey Pokey! :D

~~ :eek: ~~

I won't add advice because it was not requested.

Boooyyyaaaah is a statement by Ron Stoppable from a cartoon called Kim Possible and is definitely a compliment.

The only thing I wish to add is that I have always enjoyed postings from both Trish and Flanker and would miss them if they stopped. Good luck to you both and I hope it all works out the way it should.

I always thought that "booyaka" was the sound of a shotgun and that "Booooyyyaaaah" was derrived from that.