hi from kittylane's Adam

Life...........What a wonderful thing it is I am sure you all have your thougths on it to. Well here are a few of mine for you all of my life. I have never thought of myself as the type to fall in love espicially with an older woman. though as you all already know my wife and I are deeply in love and married for about 2 years now. We have been together for about 4 years now and let me tell you they all have been the best years of my life with her. Though the last 3 years I have been in the army and always away I feel like a force, which i choose to call God has brought us closer.

Times do get hard in life there are ups and downs and corners to be turned. Though that is what makes a relationship good, to be with your partner and take those curves and twists with them, nomatter how far they are away from you at the time. I know deep in my heart that if myself Adam and my wife Rina got threw what we have' me being in war in Afghanistan, me always travling and being in another country, the Army always making new obstacles for us to get threw, and alot more on my side of the journey. Then there is my wife Rina always being alone because im gone, taking on life with me not thier in person, facing problems with out me holding her hand and by her side, and alot more. This all tells me that yes we love each other, life is hard, but anybody with the right kind of love and understanding and morals nomatter what the age diffrence is or what the obstacles are can make it in life and that great thing called love.

So this is a mesage to all those who are struggling and those who are not. never give up, never get discouraged, but fight back and believe that life and love is worth all that it is made out to be in the movies and the fairy tales. If either myself or Rina were to give up on each other we would never of found this out and be looking forward to next year when I come home from the military and we are able to move on to the next jorney in are relationship.

As my last statment I'd just like to thank you all for being thier for my wife and the support you all have given to her. As I said above it's all part of a bigger plan and that plan is all about life, and friends are involved in that plan to for us so hold on and enjoy the ride and be there for one another like you all have been. God Bless to all and thankyou.


signed Adam and Rina sends her love to.

Thank you for that post. Your relationship is an inspiration for all of us who hope to find a deep lasting love.

hi adam! thank you so much for your service and it's great to see you posting. your wife is a doll and we all think so highly of her.

thank you again

Tracy

It is so wonderful to hear from you, Adam, although I feel like I already know you through Rina. I am very happy for both of you that you have found each other and that you have such a wonderful relationship.

Thank you for sharing this with us and thank you both for being such a wonderful example of a successful age gap relationship. You are very inspiring.

And thank you Adam for the service you are giving to our country.

Adam, Your post is wonderful. Thank you for sharing. And the biggest Thank You of all for the service you are doing for our country. Bless you and your lovely wife in every way.
Kindanice and Brownbear

Adam - how touching your post was and how true, what a very lucky lady Ms. Rina is to have a good many like you. Good luck with your military ventures and all the best when you get to come home and continue your life with your wife.

Adam,how nice of you to post here.It seems like we've known you already.By reading your post and the ones you wife have posted,you really seem like a nice couple.

Thanks Guys, I Wish He Posted More, Maybe I Will Encourage Him When He Gets Back To Italy To Check In. I Will Also Try And Get Him To Do A New Avatar, For Our Year Wedding Anniversary We Took Pictures, I Hope He Can Post A New One For Us. Love To All, Rina

Thank you Adam for such a wonderful post.

I am very happy for both of you and wish you guys the best life can bring.

Sending you two my positive thoughts~

thank you for your encouraging words!!!!! wow, i always knew true love existed!!! i pray that God continues to bless you both with miracles small & great and that your love will remain a testimony of the beauty of life for all of us who grow weary of being alone. i think that when one of us is blessed, it blesses all of us; thank you for that blessing!!!!!!!

All I have to say is
You two are adorable, and so in love...and that is such an inspiration!

Bless you both,
Karen

Thank you for taking the time to write about the wonderful relationship you have with Rina. Rina is so inspiring to everyone and also inspiring is the relationship you two share. :)

so nice to read your post..I'm going to show it to my Y/M later..wishing you both all the best forever :)

Adam, thank you for posting. Rina, we're looking forward to seeing the new pictures.

Best,
Bub

Hi, Adam! You sound just as nice as Kittylane has always said!

7am here, adam leaves today......... after six weeks together, its hard to imagine this time is over. chin up right? this is so hard, but before he leaves today we got help from dan shues regarding the new avatar, its our one year anniversay picture so its not exactly up to the moment but its much newer than the old avatar. love to all, rina

You two are beautiful...and the love can be seen even from here! :D Rina, you will survive as you have before, and again you have great memories...and US when you need to vent or just share your thoughts and feelings!

My best to you and Adam...

thank you suicide, i was not always on best behavior with adam, i spose i had my own p.t.s.d. post traumatic stress disorder, i went thru depression to numbness to not knowing how to be, act, relax.... funny me being in florida and safe. weird.

he is gone again, i promised myself for three years that when we were in our last year i would be ecstatic. stop loss really messes with my head, plus they tryed to move him to infantry and i freaked....not that i could care less if they dont get deployed again before his service is over.

so we did hit glitches, not in our love but in our emotions, our rubber band got stretched tight, but its the unbreakable kind. there are days i am so filled with gratitude for this gift of love and then there are days i am so worried about the future. i had a big proud head being a military wife and was so proud of adam until i got knocked on my butt by the wives that have been thru multiple deployments... i am humbled. utterly humbled and hushed about my little experience when there are those so strong before me.

fact is, i am gonna be in italy in a few months and hopefully stay for at least a month or more. just wanna be a wife.

i am sad he is gone but know we are gonna see each other VERY soon, he is a wonderful person and friend and strong shoulder and one day we are gonna be able just to be a normal couple.

civilians!!! i am gonna relish that day.

Rina, I just now saw your new avatar. WOWWWWWW!!!! What a beautiful couple you two make. It's lovely.

Hang in there gal. You can get through this one last separation. I know it. And we are here for you anytime you want to vent.

Such a beautiful avatar and inspiration of love.

Ya know one of the things that draws me back to this site? It's couples like you and Adam. When I feel like "love" is a hoax and not something real or tangible, I'm reminded of how wrong I am reading posts such as these.

Thank you for sharing that light with others.

~gypsy

wow, guys thanks for the compliments, it was our one year wedding anniversary present to ourselves, i have larger ones framed in our home. gypsy, i understand what you mean about thinking love is a hoax. i felt that way too, but this relationship shook many ideas that i had about love out of my head. love is not what you think it is, i suppose what i mean is, love comes from the most unusual of places sometimes and does not always present itself in a perfect little package. when i met adam, he "WAS" really a very young guy, who had a notion he was gonna be with me, i wasnt very cooperative at first, embarrassed really.

he had lived thru alot but still was so green to the troubles of a 42 year old divorcee who was really pretty depressed, although we were very different what we did share was a need to find a spiritual connection to God, i suppose it was the glue that really brought us together, not intentionally but it sure ended up that way, in fact, we feed off eachother's learning, we went to the same church learned the same principles and we both got very grateful when we found ourselves in a relationship. i am so far from perfect its sickening but i do feel that adam and i are on to something with connecting to God.

there is a saying that we are spiritual being's having an earthly experience, not earthly beings having a spiritual experience. we believe that.

the Pastor at my church recently had a nervous breakdown of sorts, today he told us that it was he felt he was in a hampster cage on the wheel and was constantly getting spun off.... the point was that he had put all kinds of limitations and expectations on himself spiritually and found he could not live up to them in the end and he broke.

i suppose thats what we also do in love, we put alot of expectations and limitations on what love is. its pretty simple, just like a relationship with God is pretty simple but we sure do complicate stuff. maybe love is really all around us like God, we just dont see it, because we make it out to be something we "think" it is, maybe there are possibilities out there if we are open to them.

i really dont know why i was given this gift of finding a guy who really loves me? confusing. but i can tell you that i had given up, i had no more joy left in me. i liked men but was just all twisted up inside on how to deal with them. adam and i were friends first and it was a true friendship, i wasnt considering him as a romantic partnership cause of his age, before i knew it though he told me he wanted more.

i initially was drawn to him because i really liked him as a person first, it sounds simple but maybe thats what we need to be looking for. when you meet people that really touch you in some way beside just outwardly attraction, take a second look there may be a diamond there. love is not always what you expect it to be.

this relationship opens me up to other possibilities and it also shows me what i need to work on. its not all roses and love songs, it really is a gift to grow with someone and get a chance to work on yourself along the way. i never had that before, it was just one trouble after another, one insane situation after another, this is nice cause we are past all that and just into being married and growing as a couple. like i said love is not what i thought it was, its harder in some ways but more than i ever expected it to be also.

sorry for such a long post...... but again thanks to all for you love and kindness, it really means so much to me. rina

Thanks for that very moving and beautiful post. And for being so open and honest.

You both really are an inspiration. Thanks to Adam for his post, also.

I wish you two the best of everything...

I havent been on here much...going thru alot... and reading this thread moved me like you cant imagine...i needed it today.

thanks again.

Ageless people are the best :)