places to go things to do in Texas?

Is there anywhere in TEXAS .....Ft.Worth/Dallas to be exact, that OW can go to meet YM who want to meet OW? I really want to meet some guys face to face.

Hi Loventheory,
As a YM,have to ask you the same thing.Where is a YM to go to met some interesting,and interested OW.I mean....for me,I dont go to bars or clubs,or anything such as that.

As for as meeting a YM,look all around you..we're all around.We may be at,the local super market,at the video story,who knows where we may be.

As for as me...LOL,Im down south of you,near the Beaumont/Orange area.Have been only thur Dallas/Fort Worth once,on a trip to Oklahoma once.


The Shadow

Well, I'm not in Texas but it seems to me that in order to meet someone that you might hit if off with, you need to go to the same places that you would go to meet someone your own age.

What I mean is that it seems to me that if you're interested in, oh, say, NASCAR, you can meet men of all ages at a NASCAR race. (BTW: 2 races in Fort Worth over the season http://sports.yahoo.com/nascar/nextel/schedule;_ylt=AjwWx20ImRnvTKfxW1QnTsDov7YF). Plus, in person, the races are awesome.

Pursue your own interests (well, perhaps focusing on the ones that involved both genders or attract both genders) and extend yourself toward men that you find attractive.

If you specifically want to meet younger men, go where they hang out. Clubs. Take a class at the college. Go to sporting events. Or take up a sport that younger men enjoy (here, it's snow sports but I imagine that there's not much of this going on in in Dallas).

That's my generic input. Maybe someone in Texas can give you more specific input.

Shadow, you answered your own question within your post. :)

You are probably in the best area for the OW/YM relationship to happen and be accepted.

I met my sweetie here on this site and discovered we only lived a hop, skip from each other . . . me in Coppell and him in The Colony.

I'm not really familiar with all the hot spots out there because we tend to be homebodies for the most part, but you might want to try Carson's. We have been there a few times and it is a hopping place. It is either in Carrollton or Addison, you know they all run together.

Good Luck! :)

When I go out to a club there are so many younger women, looking very good, that I wonder if a young man might choose not to come up to me for fear of what his friends might think.

I went out with one of my G/F's on Fat Tues to a place called City Lights and I was having a pretty good time until a guy came and sat down at my table and told me "I don't fear you". I was like " Excuse me?" and he then he moved on.

I danced with my g/f's a bit but not one guy asked me to dance. They looked and caught my eye more than once but didn't make a move towards me. Even when I was on the dance floor I could tell that a few of the guys I had been watching were watching me. But again, no move.

I wasnt wearing any beads but my g/f had about 50 on. A very nice looking guy walked past me and put a very nice row of longs beads around my neck but said nothing else as he left the building.

I don't sit there like a knot on a log but I do have a tendancy to observe what is going on around me and people watch. Like I said earlier I danced to at least 10 songs with my g/f either standing up at the table where we were on on the dance floor.

Even when I was younger guys rarely asked me to dance but my girlfriends were always on the floor. And dang! it I can dance pretty good. I can hold a friggin beat.

So, am I too old and don't understand that I have to make the first move? I am from the times where if a guy is interested he will let me know. But have times changed that much?

Have you been in a relationship with a younger guy before? If not, then you need to know that sometimes they do need some encouragement because some of them tend to be somewhat intimidated by us until they see that we are, indeed, interested.

When you are out at a club, approach them if they seem interested. You have nothing to lose. If they are not interested, you will probably never see them again anyway so what's lost there?

Flirt!! I'm beginning to believe that flirting is a lost art! Maybe they need to offer classes so people can relearn it.

According to my YM there are plenty of YM in the DFW metroplex who are very attracted to OW and would love to have a relationship with one.

So, am I too old and don't understand that I have to make the first move? I am from the times where if a guy is interested he will let me know. But have times changed that much?

Loventheory, I don't know about that. With my current boyfriend and the YM I've dated, I've not made the first move. Well, not blatantly anyway. I may have, if you consider a smile, a glance, a hey-how-was-your-day....to be the first move. I'm friendly and talkative and will strike up a conversation with a guy sitting next to me at a bar, on a bench, whereever - even if I'm not interested in them 'that way'.

A girl friend of mine and her boyfriend moved to a new place where she was re-entering college and he was not. She was making friends on campus and in student housing but he wasn't making new friends at work or anywhere else. He kept complaining that he didn't have any new friends in that town. She said: Mitch, you can't expect people to come knock on your door and say 'Hi, I'm your new friend!" It works the same way with meeting new potential dates/mates.

You said:


Even when I was younger guys rarely asked me to dance but my girlfriends were always on the floor. And dang! it I can dance pretty good. I can hold a friggin beat.

Is it possible that you're not putting out the right vibe? Check your body language. Are you smiling? At them?

I have a girlfriend who is friendly and outgoing most of the time. She has a college degree, owns her own home, has a great job, etc. But put a guy near her that she thinks is attractive, and she suddenly reverts back to being the wallflower that she was in high school. She looks at the floor, hardly speaks, etc.

Peachy just said it: Flirt!

Peachy, I completely agree - flirting is becoming a lost art. And it's really not that big of a deal. Meaning, it's not difficult. It doesn't have to be a big production or anything.

It can be just smiling, making some eye contact, making sure that your body language says "Hey, handsome!". It doesn't have to mean turning into Ms. Seductress Extraordinaire.

I was interested in a YM and had hoped it would progress but you guys helped me realize, he wasn't interested, which was a major blow to my ego...lol. By-the-way, for anybody who remembers that situation, he has been keeping up with my doings through another YM who is just a friend. Even my friend has found it odd that the conversation always turns to how my life is going and what I am up to and whether or not I am dating anyone. BUt I do now believe he was caught off guard my my attraction to him and couldn't handle it. BUt dang it I want to be handled so, I have moved on....again, thanks to you guys.

I do understand now that I do like YM more than I ever thought I would. OH yea I am going to ask you guys another question but leave it for another thread because I am totally baffled about a semi-datelike I went on last week.

I've heard that H-E-B is a good place to meet ym. *grin*

Nadine.

Hmmm . . . I don't think we have HEB up here . . . haven't seen any . . . they are further south than Dallas . . . don't know if they are located anywhere north of San Antonio. But a co-worker of mine did meet her guy at the grocery store in the produce section! :D

Hey, I met a great YM yesteday at the Farmer's Market downtown. (I'm in Florida.) Not that it'll be anything, but he did give me his number, unsolicited. You know what I think the hook was? My granddaughter!!!!! Yeah, no kidding! She is 7 years old, very outgoing, biracial and cute as all get out. Better than a puppy!
He started talking to her, then me, and then it turned into a long conversation!

You never know!

Hmmm . . . I don't think we have HEB up here . . . haven't seen any . . . they are further south than Dallas . . . don't know if they are located anywhere north of San Antonio. But a co-worker of mine did meet her guy at the grocery store in the produce section! :D

My old roommate lives in Dallas...and she says the HEB's there suck big time!

Which is a shame cuz further south they're the best. I wish we had them here in North Carolina!! :D

But grocery stores are supposed to be good places to meet men...that and bookstores. *grin*

Nadine.