Army Guy

Hi, I am in a similar situation as someone above. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and he is a Chief Warrant Officer 3 in the army. I have never been so in love with anyone like I am him, and I know he is also deeply in love with me. He has been living the single life for a little while now, so I think he work has been his life, and is the reason for his job to take up most of his time and sometimes interupts our time together. I know he has a very demanding job, but sometimes it can be very difficult for me especially since we are also in a long distance relationship, and our time is limited when we are together. He has several years before he will be able to retire, and a few years before he will be off of active duty. I feel like the next couple of years in our lives together is crucial for us because of marriage and children being definite possibilities for us. Because of his job being such a major facor in this point of his life, should I even pursue children and marriage with him? I feel like because of his age I would like to achieve this sooner rather than later.

my bf is also a CWO3 but in the Coast Guard,we are in a LDR too (though i am in Spain),15 years gap,and i have never been more in love than i am now... :eek:

i could have posted exactly what you said...so i want to think the answer for your question is: if you love each other and both want children/marriage,that is the first step for things to work out great between you both,why would you give up? :)

~hugs

what does he want to do, i am of old school and i hope i dont landblasted here, but does he want to pursue you.

time and time again, age differences are dealt with, long distance is dealt with, military life is dealt with....if the guy wants it.

my husband pursued me to a point of i had to give it up. it was like ok, ok, i'll give this a whirl.

the military life is one of uncertainty, the military OWNS your boyfriend, if you can live with pride of the job he is doing and knowing that you may have encountered a true hero then you have the right mindset, it aint easy, many good people have not been able to endure the real deal, i cant say that i blame those either. i dont think i am of remarkable character at all, i hooked up with a remarkable character who brought me up to his level.

i am in my last year (hopefully baring stop-loss) as a military girlfriend turned wife, i loved so much about it and am exhausted by it also. i also had tremendous lonliness because of it, my husband turned out to be one of those guys in a million, if your man wants you and is willing to do what it takes then go for it.

The best way to deal with it is like being addicted to a drug.
It hurts not haveing them, it hurts not hearing from them.
You love them so much you want to put them in a little box just you and them and stay there forever.
But you can't.
So you wait, and worry and wonder and cry, omg do you cry.
So you find other things to occupy your time. ( I play eq2) ( I clean house, play with my daughter)
And eventually the seconds turn to minutes, the minutes into hours, and the hours into days, weeks and months.
And you go on. Trust me at first I was so sure that I would die of the pain.
But this is the life we discussed, this is the way for him to better himself and his family. (us)
Cheer him on, but also remind him that you no matter what happens you will be there for him, you are his and he is yours no matter what comes.