Dating on ageless

I met a guy from this site last week whose time enjoyed thorougly except that he asked me to kiss him about 30 times. I refused because, well I wasn't ready, but I thought he was adorable. Strangely enough, after all the " I love your lips, eyes and I wont be able to stop thinking about you" He hasn't called once. I did text him to see if he wanted to get together one night but he was busy. I haven't heard from him since.

Now I think the guy was just looking for a booty call! If anyone had witnessed his reaction to me, one would think he was really in to me. It really sucks too because this guy was so incredibly interesting and if nothing else I could have seen us being very good friends because he is someone I could commuicate with for hours. We were together for about 3 hrs and I really thought it went very good. It kinda breaks my heart that I was dumped so easily or I was so easily duped I should say.

I looked at his ad on ageless and even the ad came across real. I sure hope this isn't a start to a really bad run on dating from ageless.

So, here is my question to all the OW and YM here. What should I look out for when a YM is only looking for a night?

So, here is my question to all the OW and YM here. What should I look out for when a YM is only looking for a night?

Ummm...the same things as with a man your age or older.



I looked at his ad on ageless and even the ad came across real. I sure hope this isn't a start to a really bad run on dating from ageless.


I don't date on ageless or online at all. Tried it (elsewhere, not here), don't like it. As I've said before on this site, I can't shop for new stuff online either. I can only order more of something that I already have at home.

But, I know that there are couples here that met here, so like any site, there are going to be people posting ads/sending PMs that are just looking for one thing.

I met a guy from this site last week whose time enjoyed thorougly except that he asked me to kiss him about 30 times. I refused because, well I wasn't ready, but I thought he was adorable. Strangely enough, after all the " I love your lips, eyes and I wont be able to stop thinking about you" He hasn't called once. I did text him to see if he wanted to get together one night but he was busy. I haven't heard from him since.

Now I think the guy was just looking for a booty call! ....

You know, Loventheory, men and women are made of very different stuff.

We don't know what all was said between you and this guy before you met in person, but it seems to me that maybe you rushed things too fast or you otherwise didn't fully connect or "click" with this guy before agreeing to meet him.

It's been seven years since I did online dating, but once I'd spent time talking to a woman online (email or chat) and then by phone, and they trusted me enough to go on a date, a kiss was guaranteed on that first date :D....

and if I'd been refused one, I would've been a very hurt, and very confused young man. So from what you've told us, I actually feel a little sorry for the guy.

If someone is truly adorable and you're comfortable with him/her, I think they deserve the nicest kiss you feel comfortable with. Even a peck on the cheek is better than NOTHING. ;)

Just my $.02 worth.

oh come on!

I really did want to kiss him but it just didn't feel right to do it the first time I met him.

He was amazing though. Too bad he didn't trust that I liked him enough to see him again. But then again he had to know I wanted to since I did text him two days later. When he said he couldn't make it ( for a very good reason ) I text him back saying I was bummed because every thought of him was how his lips were going to feel.

I am not kidding either. I haven't thought about anyone like that since I was in my teens. He made me feel wonderful. I even found myself singing at work. My co-workers thought I had gotten laid...lol

He didn't respond back though so I guess he got over me pretty freaking fast!

My girlfriend said I needed to make it more clear how I felt so, I imed him and said how much of a good time I had with him and wanted to see him again. Still no responce.

Hey I am only human so I can't let this get to me more than it already has............even though I would loved to have had another moment with him, one on one.

Maybe I should have kissed him....then again what if I did and then he pulled this no contact crap. Then I would have felt worse. NOPE! I can't let this freak me out anymore.

If I do evere see him again maybe I will just punch him instead......lol...joking

I had spoken to him only once on the net, that same night to be exact and just by a need to get out I invited him to meet me where I was going. I had never done anything like that before and all my friends were freaking on me because I didn't know him but we were meeting somewhere I felt comfortable. So, in actuallity, we were just getting to know each other.

I had spoken to him only once on the net, that same night to be exact and just by a need to get out I invited him to meet me where I was going. I had never done anything like that before and all my friends were freaking on me because I didn't know him but we were meeting somewhere I felt comfortable. So, in actuallity, we were just getting to know each other.

Okay, thanks for clarifying, Loventheory.

That helps me understand MUCH BETTER now. :)

Yeah, there was not a strong enough bond to keep his interest. The first in- person meeting came way too soon. I wouldn't blame the Ageless dating scene or online dating. Sometimes you just meet flakes, and that's all there is to it.

I definitely understand why you think he was out for a "booty call." ;)


I'm sure you'll have much better luck when you let a couple of weeks (or more) pass between the time you first communicate with the guy, and the time you go on a date.

I kind of agree with Harrison to a certain point.

I recently went on a date with a guy from online last month, we've been chatting on and off for, gosh, almost a year. He finally got the nerve to ask me out, although every time he came online I would forget his name...lol. We went out for pizza and had quite a garlic, extra cheese and pepperoni pizza and although I was apprehensive about the garlic, I went ahead and ate it as I informed him I didn't plan on kissing anyone today and he proceeded on telling me that he was really looking forward to having a nice garlic kiss.

4 hrs later, after the date was over, He mentioned that he wanted his garlic kiss, and I did give him a "bubble kiss" instead (a kiss with raspberries) on the check and he gave it back to me. He's IM me several times since then but he's been really busy studying for the assistant captain's position at the ferry here. It matters not to me whethere he asks me out again or not, but i didn't feel like i was required to kiss kiss him, not because he wasn't a gentleman, but because he was younger than I would normally date and I couldn't get into it.

Having said that, if this guy would've ask me to kiss him 30 times and he laid in the "cotton candy, over sugared" sentences all through the date, I would've had to give myself and him a shot of insulin and hope he calm down. Its so high schoolish to be begged for a kiss. And I really have to like you more than on the screen to want to kiss you.

So yes loventheory, if a guy made me feel like I needed to reward him for 3 hours of talk time, he can kiss my arse instead. You have to be comfortable with where you are and how you are in any relationship and this is a connection, obviously not a "WOW" moment. There will be guys who you will feel such moments, you will want to kiss them on that first date and every date after that, but those are the guys who are geniuely glad to be in your prescence and are not cheaping the date by begging for affection.

Paris

Well... there you go... you just met him online that night and met him in person... that was quite risky, I might add... however, just because someone posts an ad on this site, does not mean they want a relationship and sometimes people will say anything, just to get laid... live and learn, right? :)

... Its so high schoolish to be begged for a kiss....

Absolutely, irparis!

I'd say junior-high-school-ish, even.

Now, have I begged for sex before?? :eek: You bet! Didn't get it, but I sure tried. :D lol

Absolutely, irparis!

I'd say junior-high-school-ish, even.

Now, have I begged for sex before?? :eek: You bet! Didn't get it, but I sure tried. :D lol

LMFAO! :p

Harrison, you're such a sweetheart...I hate the idea of someone hurting your feelings:)

So I hope you don't mind that I agree with loventheory.......I think this guy had made up his mind already that he didn't want a relationship, and so he was trying to get laid quickly, before any awkward `where is this going' type conversations could arise.

I've experienced it before. In fact the last time I experienced it was when I dated someone in my town I'd come across in a chat room. He was a motivational speaker for Tony Robbins....a swish, handsome Indian guy, very charming & smart, he even turned up in some latest model beamer. We had coffe, then we went down to a riverfront park to chat some more......well *I* wanted to chat...all he wanted to do was touch and kiss me! It was really, really full on because he was still a stranger to me in most ways.

Well I finally got him to admit that he wasn't looking for a girlfriend at all and that he was offering me `an experience'. I said `no thankyou, I'm looking for a boyfriend. Sorry'. Well at least he didn't lie:)

Hey, but if I didn't ask very directly, I could have easily misinterpreted his `full on' behaviour as genuine interest in me.

Harrison, you're such a sweetheart...I hate the idea of someone hurting your feelings:)

So I hope you don't mind that I agree with loventheory.......I think this guy had made up his mind already that he didn't want a relationship, and so he was trying to get laid quickly, before any awkward `where is this going' type conversations could arise....

Thanks for the tender words, Bella. :)

I don't mind at all. After loventheory explained that they met online and had a date all in one day, that changed my opinion.

Women should not let that situation develop, as 1love hinted at. Most guys who "luck out" like that are probably going to think "Wheww... I am going to GET some!" :D

I believe we should be made to wait a while after we first meet the lady.

"So I hope you don't mind that I agree with loventheory.......I think this guy had made up his mind already that he didn't want a relationship, and so he was trying to get laid quickly, before any awkward `where is this going' type conversations could arise."


Turns out I was wrong. Wont be the first time or the last but not a good time right now.

He just left me a message saying he enjoyed himself with me however what he wants is a relationship and since I was clear that I was only going to be here for 4 more months he didn't see it going anywhere.

I am also going through a divorce. It is not legal yet but the YM in question doesn't like the idea of me being married/separated. I understand that and anybody looking at my life can see how clearly I am to be happily separated from a man who I have not loved for ten years nor had he ever loved me for 20 years. Getting a divorce will happen but not until I go back to Florida and file the papers. When I asked him for the divorce I left 3 days later and moved here to Texas.

I guess it was me who had too much baggage. I don't blame him, now. But geesh what am I to do? Sit around and not date or enjoy my life for the next few months? I was honest with him about what I am doing but didn't talk about if for more than 5 minutes since my life is moving forward and I wanted to learn about him.

What really pizzes me off is that he assumes that I can't make a commitment to someone that might actually love me....in time. It wont take long for me to know whether or not a guy has my heart or whether I have his. I am just so sad this happened. He holds all the keys I need for a successful realtionship on the side of the man. He is smart, successful, goodlooking, sweet, and doesn't mind talking. Except to me, now. He wants to leave me a message and then get off really quick before I can respond to him.

He is not playing fair!

Looks like you....were right!

I concede

Well... there you go... you just met him online that night and met him in person... that was quite risky, I might add... however, just because someone posts an ad on this site, does not mean they want a relationship and sometimes people will say anything, just to get laid... live and learn, right? :)

Good point, 1Love. Could have been risky. Loven, hope you were cautious!

And, yep, pretty much anyone can post an 'ad' on this site (right?), just like most other datings sites.

As far as the first-date kiss, no one should ever assume that they're going to get a kiss on the first date. I think the fact that the guy never called back shows that he either decided that he was not interested in Loven or may have been just looking for a booty call. If he was interested, he would have called whether he got a kiss or not.

The fact that he asked her for a kiss about 30 times is to me a sign of someone trying to create a sense of intimacy way too fast in order to get into the other person's pants.

Loven, really, no loss, eh? Dating is a numbers thing - statistics, you know. Next!

Edit: LOL! Didn't get to the bottom of the page in time. Just saw Loven's last post. I still think that asking for a kiss so many times was forcing intimacy in hopes of getting closer, quicker.