newcomer. is love ageless?

i am just looking around this webpage! i see some really positive and supportive friends. great inspiration. i am 29 and madly in love with my 18 year old boyfriend. madly, madly in love with him. i know that whatever age he happened to be, i would have recognized that he's perfect for me as soon as we met. he's so grounded and kind and thoughtful, where i am flighty and impulsive and rash. he calms my soul. i love every little thing about him, and we're happier every day. but it's interesting to me that everyone who knows us agrees that we're perfect for each other, and age is meaningless, but i wonder, is it really? because everyone i've ever come close to falling in love with is signifigantly younger than me. so age must be a factor afterall

Hi and welcome.

Look around this great community and read other peoples stories.Like you,I had a lot of doubts when I first started seeing my YM(I'm 31 and he's 20)but once I got over the age thing,it has made my life much easier.I can enjoy beeing with him and not thinking about our ages for one second.

Sounds to me like you're a little immature for your age and he is a little mature for his age. That's what it was like with me and my YM. I have always been about ten years more immature than others my age. That's probably why you have always sought out YM. Just take this relationship day to day. He is awfully young -- but, I do know he may be very mature for his age. I certainly would not put any high hopes out there -- just enjoy and do not worry about the age gap. Have fun! ;)

Once you're over the age gap bit, and you settle into the girlfriend/boyfriend stuff, it's cool.

But by God, I had a few issues with the gap!

Luckily, this place is full of advice and the best thing is, you know it's not just you !

Welcome!

Age was something to think about at first for me, but I soon accepted that the woman im pursuing is 8 years older than me. Age doesnt change the fact that shes lovely in every way. I do sometimes wonder if she is comfortable with seeing a guy 8 years younger? :rolleyes:

At first I tried not to feed into the fact that I like this ym but then the more we talked and the more we became closer I knew I was in love. He knew before I did but was waiting on me to get comfortable with the situation. Then he asked me to be his lady and I was flattered. I've learned a lot over the last few years and when true love comes you better pay attention. Age doesn't have anything to do with it (as long as they are legal :) ) a person maturity level and values does. My ym to me is a om. I kid with him about that all the time. I'm new to this site too and love it....

I'm engaged to a man 10 yrs younger than I am. It's the first ym I've ever been with. At first I was alittle nervous about age difference.....he's 38 and I'm 48.. But I really believe age is but a number...I think it all has to do with values and experiences a person has. I've seen some pretty immature 50 yr. old men..With my ym we just clicked from the start.
good luck in your relationship....

Hi, I was in a ow/ym realtionship a couple of years ago. It began when I was 36 and she was 42. We never had any age issues. We fell in love quickly and she took my heart, and soul. I never loved to that degree before and never will again.
We made a great couple in every way, and I miss her so much that I live in a heart broken state everyday of my life. The sense that a small gap brought was how she was so open, no boundries, just carefree and wanting to share our lives this way.
We broke up over some ex issues a couple of years later, that I believe could have been resolved All I can say is that I wholeheartedly love an older woman and how she changed me forever. I would sell my soul to have her back. Please don't let age be a factor of loving someone that could make your life complete and fullfilled.
So, enjoy the moments, embrace that special person, and love each other eternally...it's wirth the trip... :)

Hi there Tink, welcome to ageless...

Your story sounds all to famliar. I felt the same way. My best advice is know matter what anyone says or does or thinks or acts out...don't give up!

I was 28 and he was 18 and I can honestly say I've never felt that way before and I have my doubts I'll feel quite that happy again. I listened to everyone and didn't listen to my own heart and left him.

I miss him so much...

tink....welcome....
here is a thread started a while back by bubblebee that may interest you...it's called "the Cardinal Rules to Relationships with vym (very young men, in the 18-21 year range).

http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?t=24139&page=1&pp=15

Many of us here believe that partnering with a vym can sometimes work, but at 18-19 all young people have a ways to go before being full-fledged adults, which can contribute to unique issues and/or a bumpy ride for the two of you.

Personally, I believe age DOES matter (in terms of being truly "ready" for a long term adult relationship) when one person is very young.

I listened to everyone and didn't listen to my own heart and left him.

I miss him so much...

sorry to hear of your pain.....

I had the opposite experience. I listened to my heart, while everyone around me told me to leave him.

They were right, and I should have left a lot sooner.

My point? There's never "one right answer."

Hey kat is right there is no standard answer....each couple is different, each situation unique...I recently ended a 2 year relationship with a guy 20 years younger...in the end we both wanted different things and we couldn't see how to get there together....it would have meant too much compromise, and i was willing to compromise much more than him....but we were very happy and ended it well....so we took away the good things and not the bad.....it was a learning curve for both of us and it worked well for a long time....life it goes on...... :D

Once you're over the age gap bit, and you settle into the girlfriend/boyfriend stuff, it's cool.

But by God, I had a few issues with the gap!

Luckily, this place is full of advice and the best thing is, you know it's not just you !

Welcome!


what she said. :p