SilentAngel84
03-07-2006, 10:40 PM
I just wanted to let everyone know that my OM and I are doing very well now. We are not engaged or anything, but have openly said that we are interested in spending forever together. We had a few problems around the 7 month mark in our relationship and we had finally discussed things a few weeks back after a fight and things have been cloud nine since. He did have some faults in the situation and admitted them, but a lot was my fault too. I am just in a scary position in life right now b/c I am graduating college soon and it makes me nervous. I also have a tendency to be unstable and scared when it comes to love because of the way men have used me physically and emotionally in the past. I think sometimes when you're used you convinced yourself that you can't find love, don't deserve love and aren't meant to be loved and when love does come your way you push it away b/c you wanna push it before it can push you. I have finally come to accept that I have stumbled onto a good thing and I can't let the horror from my past ruin that. We all deserve love. No matter how bad the past has been, there is always hope that lay ahead in the future. So I just wanted to let everyone know that I am openly and happily in love and in a stable relationship for the first time in my life with someone who truely loves and respects me and I feel the same. He's the only person I have ever really been able to be myself around. For any ladies out there that are still looking, seriously, if I can find real love anyone can. Never settle for the one you can live with, wait for the one you can't live with out. Before you can love someone else, you have to learn to love and respect yourself and I have finally done that. So the OM and I celebrate 9 months this month and things are going strong.
Anyone else have any good updates?
deryl d
03-08-2006, 03:54 AM
thats was a great update,ive got one too,my gf[scotland] has finally moved out of her abusive husbands apartment and into her own place,she now has the freedom to live a normal life..no more verbal abuse,insults,intimidation and the rest. Im very happy for her and can enjoy our time online without the clown ruining our time together, shes quite happy to be free of his abuse and controlling paranoia.She has along way to go and in the end will be rid of a pest. :)
Wallypop
03-08-2006, 06:37 AM
Not so much a good update, at least not in such a dramatic way... but one of the things Loripop and I have discovered is that falling in love, deep love, requires a big eraser.
It's not that our past was somehow wrong, it just was. And we humans tend to interpret the present in terms of the past... in fact it's been shown that's how we remember things, by associating new information with old. So the past we need to be erasing is our own, not one another's.
It's so exciting to break out... to be able to something with all new materials... something that's going to look totally different than anything we've ever seen or experienced. We think it's because the other person is so different (and that may be true), but it's also because we can be different with him or her.
Thus, I love my Loripop for who she is, but also because of who I can be when I am with her!
MerAlove23
03-08-2006, 08:51 AM
Thats great!!! I'm so glad to hear great updates....
Our updates are steady... You guys know I'm Married with a gorgeous baby boy.... We always have our ups and downs.. More ups...we have gone thru a rough patch also.. USually people who have small children together sometimes go thru a very rough patch and we did..we both disconnected from each other but now we reconnected and My husband and I are back on track!! Very much in Love!
kindanice
03-08-2006, 09:40 AM
Congrats Gurl! Sounds like you two are happy together. We all climb a few mountains every now and then. It just makes you have a lot of respect for life and helps you gain a little more wisdom with every step. I can appreciate your nuggets of wisdom that you shared ;) It is true-there is always hope.
Brownbear and I have shared a lot of mountain climbing together. But we will soon reach the 13 year mark of our marriage. :D I have to say that life can sure throw some things at ya. When you reach the tops of those mountains and get to stroll down the other side knowing that you made it thru it is a wonderful feeling. Heres to you and your fella *lifting glass for a toast*. May you have lots of happy long strolls together on the steep AND the not so steep walks you will take. May there be a lot of "walks in the park" for the two of you. :)
SilentAngel84
03-08-2006, 09:57 AM
I think you married ladies are correct, there has to be the ups and downs. I mean think about it we have family members and friends we fight with from time to time and then we make up and still love them, so why should our romantic relationship be any different? Life can't be perfect b/c no person is perfect.
jesique
03-10-2006, 10:24 AM
SilentAngel84...
Thats awesome!!! I love to hear good updates! :D
My update is that things are moving smoothly. Alec and I got a joint checking account (we had to in order to deposit my student loan check...lol) and we've got a lot of fun stuff planned to do in the summer. Financial things are finally streightening out...and thats really exciting. I'm adjusting to life in North Carolina and my new job and such. So things are good! :D
Nadine.
CabinFever
03-11-2006, 12:10 PM
That's great SilentAngel!! I love to hear stories like that....it sounds like you've been through some rough stuff and now it's payback time! Enjoy it...you've earned it!
Update on us: well not much to say...it's been great, it is great, and I'm looking forward to the future. We're learning more about each other and about our feelings for each other....it amazes me and excites me that I finally found someone so perfect for me in every way, and makes me feel so wonderful to know that I'm that perfect match for him as well.
