new to this, and confused

I am finding myself falling for a much younger man. I have no idea how he feels about the age thing. We work together and talk quite a bit. how can you tell when the interrest is there? I sometimes feel like he feels it too, but its so hard to tell. I've never been very good at being able to tell if someone is interrested, and I'm not the type to just come out and ask. Any replies to this would be greatly appreciated.

flirt with the dude. If he's interested, he'll respond. Seems like you should have figured that out by your age. :p I could not help but see that my YM was interested -- does make it easier. Just forget about the age thing and treat the whole situation as if you were both the same age. FLIRT!

thank you for your advise Sue,,,I'll try it :)

flirt with the dude. If he's interested, he'll respond. . . . Just forget about the age thing and treat the whole situation as if you were both the same age. FLIRT!

Amen to that! Knowing that OW/YM relationships aren't for everyone, I'm often nervous about broaching the idea of dating with OW who interest me. I wonder if they'll be shocked and put off by the idea--"you're just a kid!" and all that. So, speaking from experience, I like to get signals that she's interested too, and then my hesitation goes away. So absolutely, flirt with him! Do you work in my office? :D

I am finding myself falling for a much younger man. I have no idea how he feels about the age thing. We work together and talk quite a bit. how can you tell when the interrest is there? I sometimes feel like he feels it too, but its so hard to tell. I've never been very good at being able to tell if someone is interrested, and I'm not the type to just come out and ask. Any replies to this would be greatly appreciated.


I agree you should put the age gap out of your mind and just try to get to know him better, flirt a little, see what you have in common and maybe suggest going for a drink or something to see how he reacts.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Be brave! :D

Dusky
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How would you tell if there is interest there if he were your age or older? LOL!

Guys aren't much different in that aspect, regardless of age! My guess is he isn't interested beyond friendship and flirtation or he would have stepped up to the plate. A younger man who is confident in himself will do that. And it will take confidence and perseverence for them to succeed! LOL If they don't have those characteristics, they aren't generally made for OW/YM relationships, IMO. Most relationships here started with the YM pursuing or mutual pursuit. Very rarely is it successful when the woman pursues, unless she already knows he's very open to OW/YM possibilities (like LADave here is.)

Dave - you gotta go for it - most women aren't going to even think a much younger guy is interested in her and wouldn't risk the embarrassment (read humiliation)! The worst you would would probably get is a "Oh, that's sweet but..."

I was lucky, too. My guy left little doubt - he pursued me big time!

IMO, you have gotten good advice here on dealing with a guy . . . but I wouldn't encourage you to initiate anything with someone who works in the same office that you do.

First of all, I believe that inner office relationships are recipes for disaster.

And second, with today's harrassment laws, I would hesitate to do anything that would be fuel for someone to use against me.

Just a few thoughts. :)

Excellent advise from all,,,and thank you guys very much for your input. This sight has helped in many ways,,and im glad i found it.

I was in the same boat as you. I couldn't tell if he just wanted a friend. He seemed to flirt with me a lot and always emailing me. But, he seemed flirty with other ladies as well. I suspected he was confused and didn't know what he wanted. He arranged for a work-related outting that took a whole day. It like magic and has been ever since. We just clicked. Now, we try to be together as much as possible. I miss him more and more. Every weekend that goes by, I think about him and I know he does to, by his reaction when I come in to work. I want to be with him all the time. I cannot tell you where this will end. All I can say is that when it's right, it feels so right. Every thing he does, his laugh, his jokes, his voice. I haven't felt this way in so long. It feels so good.

thats a great story young at heart,,,,,,,i still have no clue how to read this guy,,,,,,sometimes i feel yes,,sometimes no,,,but i enjoy being around him so much that i guess it doesnt matter. if its no,,at least i found a great friend,,lol