Greetings and Salutations to Everyone!

Hello everyone!

I came across this site last week and I’ve been reading the posts in this forum and everyone seems really open and helpful here, so I thought I’d introduce myself and give you my story.

My name is John, I’m 21, and I recently got out of a relationship with an older woman. She was 35 and I can honestly say that the last 7 months were some of the best of my life. I’ve never felt such a connection with someone before. I was able to talk to her about things that other people wouldn’t understand and I had a smile on my face whenever I was around her. I achieved a level of intimacy I never thought possible. Sex was great with her, as we were able to fulfill each other’s needs completely. She made me a better person. It may sound lame, but it’s how I felt.

Anyways, things were going along perfectly, until she was offered a job in the U.S. about 2000 miles away from where I am here in Ontario. We reached a crossroads as we both wanted to stay together but knew it wasn’t really possible. She asked if I wanted to come with her, but after much thought, I knew I just couldn’t do it. I wanted to stay here to finish my education and her job offer was to good to pass up. So, we parted ways about six weeks ago and I’ve been left heartbroken ever since.

This has left me searching for something more. I don’t find the same connection with women my age, both intellectually and emotionally. I’ve never had a problem meeting women my age and before Andrea, thought that was where I should be looking. But now I’ve come to the realization that I share a deeper connection with older women. I’m very mature for my age and I know what I want out of life, and I’m not into the head games that women my age play. I think I deserve more than that...is it too much to ask?

So that’s my story. I don’t know what I’m looking for by joining this site. Support for sure, maybe more...I’ll just have to see where things go. I’d put a picture of myself up like some of you, but I’d rather not until I get a little more comfortable here. I hope you can understand where I’m coming from.

I look forward to getting to know all of you!

Welcome, John! I think it's great that you had a good experience with an older woman; sorry that you're hurting because it ended; and glad that you know that you're going to get through the pain.

thanks chatterbox.

it was tough for awhile, but i think i'm in a place now where i've begun to move on and am looking towards the future, which is nice for a change. i'm looking forward to seeing what lies ahead for me....

Why don't you just follow her? You're only 21, you'll be moving to an English-speaking country, there are schools there, jobs. What's wrong with trying to live in a new country? it's not like you'd be moving to a jungle where people speak a language that you'd spend 20 years before you learn how to say hello I need 6 eggs and a bottle of milk at the store.

If you don't like it there, you can always move back home and you'll still be at an age where you can carry on with your education and job-hunting.

Welcome to Ageless by the way, I'm Aline.

Believe me, I thought about it for a long time and it was by no means an easy decision. It was only after much consideration and advice from others that I decided to stay. I'm in the middle of a 4 year university program at a very good school and I have very promising career prospects where I am right now or I could go and take graduate studies.

When it came down to it, I just couldn't leave what I had started here. The way you put it made it sound easy to pick up and leave, but I don't see it that way at all. Plus, it had seemed like we were slowly starting to drift apart anyways, as we were beginning to want different things. Almost everyone I talked to told me to stay. I ultimately was the one to make the final decision, but the response was so overwhelmingly in one direction, that it was hard to ignore.

I thought about changing my mind at first, but I'm convinced now that I made the right choice. In the future, I'm sure things will be different for me, but at this point in my life, I believe it was the right thing to do. But thanks for the input. :)