question for all!

I am new to the board..

Here is my story...

I am 21 and he is 38 and I have been talking to this guy over the net for over a year! He is a great guy, he is from Scotland and I am from the US! We mostly talk as friends, and he feels more for me than just friends. But I am also engaged to another guy I have been with for 3 years. I have strong feelings for the Scotland guy and would not want to hurt either of them!

I would love to have the opportunity to be with him and move to Scotland..what should I do?

Any suggestions :rolleyes:

well I think the problem is that more than likely it wouldnt work out with the guy from scotland its too far but you never know. With your boyfriend now that you are about to marry before you go ahead with that you need to ask yourself if you truly loved him you would not even think about being with someone else it wouldnt even cross your mind. I think what you need to do is just relize what you want from a man and go from there but you cant be with someone if you are not 110% for sure he is the one
I hope everything works out Danielle_21_d

I am new to the board..

Here is my story...

I am 21 and he is 38 and I have been talking to this guy over the net for over a year! He is a great guy, he is from Scotland and I am from the US! We mostly talk as friends, and he feels more for me than just friends. But I am also engaged to another guy I have been with for 3 years. I have strong feelings for the Scotland guy and would not want to hurt either of them!

I would love to have the opportunity to be with him and move to Scotland..what should I do?

Any suggestions :rolleyes:

My first suggestion is for you to asked yourself why you embarked on a new relationship/correspondence with a guy when you are engaged to another guy. What's that all about? If you don't want to be engaged, it's only fair that you tell your fiancee that you really don't care for him as much as you once did -- and call it off. Seems like you're being quite unfair and selfish.

So have you met Mr. Scotland? It's a tough call because sometimes over the internet or on the phone you can talk to a guy and think he's the most wonderful guy on earth, and then you meet and well...there's alot to be said for physical chemistry too. I'm not saying you don't have a genuine connection with the guy, but you may want to address the novelty factor. As in it sounds terribly romantic to be whisked away to a far off land. Have you ever been to Scotland? If not how do you know you'd like it? I hear it rains alot. Also what is Mr. Scotland offering you? It sounds like your fiance loves you enough to make a lifelong commitment to you. It's alot to think about and I guess you have to figure out if sacrificing the love you share with the 'real' man in your life is worth it for the chance at a relationship with someone you really don't know that well. Could it be that maybe you have cold feet? Sometimes the grass seems greener on the other side, but when you get there you realize that it has been spray painted flourescent colour and that underneath it's crusty and brown and has no nutritional value-haha!
Hope you work it out sweetie! Let me know.
Jem