Do you show PDA with your SO?

Hey guys,

Sorry I haven't been around too much lately! I've been working longer hours and have had some deaths in the family. I'm back, and alive and kicking though!! Things with my OM are getting MUCH better by the way! :)

I don't if this has been discussed before, but do many of you show PDA (public display of affection) with your older or younger SO? If not, is it because your uncomfortable, embarassed, or is PDA just not your thing? If so, to what extent do you do so?

I'm wondering because occassionally I'll see an AG couple in public and they'll be holding hands or kissing (moderate), and people will stare or make faces at them and such.

I'm not really into PDA, but my boyfriend and I occassionally hold hands in public, and people look at us if we're alien's or something. My goodness! I just don't understand. Maybe because it's not all that common to see AG couples.

I'm just seeking your comments and thoughts on this topic.

Happy Saint Patty's Day all. Please be safe if your on the road late tonight.

Mary Ann

Heck yeah, we do! I mean, nothing gross that would offend me no matter what age the two people involved happen to be...

...but we're rarely in public without holding hands. We're not all over each other or anything but we never part from each other (in private OR public) without a hug and a kiss.

For me, the only exception to this is in a professional setting. I don't do any of the above if Tim visits me at work. Not because of our age gap, though; it just seems very unprofessional to me when couples do that at work.

Walking holding hands is one of the joys of a relationship. When I was dating the woman in Scottsdale, she didn't want to hold hands or otherwise show any affection in public. Sometimes I'd reach for her hand when we were out and about, and she would pull it away while saying the word "public." I think she must have been somewhat insecure about the age gap. But it sure didn't feel right.

My YM and I are always holding hands which in his culture is not something people do.And we always do some hugging and kissing.

I love affection.And so does my YM.And I don't care what other people have to say or think.

If want to hug him I will and so does he.

Why should I stop doing that?Because other people might find it strange?Then they shouldn't look!!

I am not a PDA person, and I do find it a bit uncomfortable for anything longer than a minute.

My wife IS a PDA person and likes to hold hands, so usually I'll compromise and hold hands for a few minutes, or maybe a block, while we're walking. Then I'll pull my hand away. I've tried to figure out why it bugs me. I think it triggers childhood memories from when Daddy would hold my hand as we walked down the street. I would do the same with any little kid of mine, but it doesn't feel as "right" with a mate.

"Hello" or "Goodbye" kisses are fine with me. :)

About the staring from strangers --- you just have to roll with the punches, so to speak. If I catch people being especially rude, I'll just glare back at them until they break eye contact and look away. It's always males that offend, and I almost always "win."

I can freakin' outstare anyone. :D


P.S. I've always wanted to pull out a camera just for those hard-core "starers," and snap their picture. Just to, y'know, see how THEY like it. ;)

About the staring from strangers --- you just have to roll with the punches, so to speak. If I catch people being especially rude, I'll just glare back at them until they break eye contact and look away. It's always males that offend, and I almost always "win."

I can freakin' outstare anyone. :D




Oh my, I'll make sure I don't stare at you Harrison! And I truly believe you do 'win'... I don't think there's too many dudes wanting to mess with you. LOL :D

Oh my, I'll make sure I don't stare at you Harrison! And I truly believe you do 'win'... I don't think there's too many dudes wanting to mess with you. LOL :D

Hehehe.... If I get the feeling they're mentally deranged, I might look away first. ;)

We get some pretty interesting looks. I refuse to withhold my affection because someone watching might disapprove. Don't get me wrong, we don't do anything we could get arrested for :p Just some hugs and hello/goodbye kisses, etc.

I'm used to getting odd looks though. My youngest sister was born when I was 15 and we look so much alike that everyone thinks she's mine. My mom got really sick of people asking her how old her granddaughter was. I, on the other hand, would mess with people for being so nosey. One day a woman came up to us and said, "Aren't you a bit young to have a baby?" to which I replied, " What cha talkin' bout? This one's just my youngest, the other three are at home with their fathers!". :D By the way, I'd don't have any children.

Back to the topic. People will never accept something that they aren't exposed to. There are some people that I know that used to think that it was wrong to be with someone that was a lot older or younger. Now, they see how happy my OM and I are together, they aren't so focused on age. Whether or not that works with total strangers, I can't say. Comfort levels of PDA vary from person to person. Mine stays the same regardless of the age difference between me and the person I'm with.

Yep, we Do show PDA. Not the real mushy stuff. But to some extent. Although, sometimes we have been known to sneak a little more just for the thrill... :D
I guess it would depend on where exactly in public we are.

We almost always are holding hands or getting a quick little pop kiss in.

We just do the handle holding, kiss on the cheek, brief kiss on the mouth thing...no further. It's not because of the gap, it's because it's what I am comfortable with. When I was in my teens I used to make out in public, I kind of grew out of it, now I think it's tacky most of the time. I mean there are exceptions, if someone proposes to you in public of course I think you should embrace and if you get carried away so be it. But there are some people who walk around 24/7, 365...just like groping each other, I don't like that.

Heck, I don't know if I can stop myself from doing PDA. We waited 10 months to be together and I don't want to be separated from him for a second. We do try to keep it decent of course. Although last night we got yelled at by my teenager while waiting in line for dinner because we were being mushy and not paying attention to when the lady called us forward.

Normally I don't notice any looks, except for one time while we were eating dinner and this woman walked by and turned and looked right at us in a disapproving way. Made me want to slobber all over my OM! :D

Heck, I don't know if I can stop myself from doing PDA. We waited 10 months to be together and I don't want to be separated from him for a second. We do try to keep it decent of course. Although last night we got yelled at by my teenager while waiting in line for dinner because we were being mushy and not paying attention to when the lady called us forward.

Normally I don't notice any looks, except for one time while we were eating dinner and this woman walked by and turned and looked right at us in a disapproving way. Made me want to slobber all over my OM! :D

YAY!! Pita, you're back! I've been wondering how things have been going for the two of you! (((hugs)))

Ok, back to PDA. We do the hand holding, sometimes he walks with his arm around me, we sneak a few kisses here and there and always have a goodbye kiss and hug. It does feel weird though when we're in meetings together, and have to keep things completely professional. But yeah, even when he visits me at my office, we don't do any PDA there.

LOL . . . sure we do! Joe is likely to grabb my a$$ in any Walmart we go to :eek:

And ya know what ?? I never see anyone looking at us any differently than they would any couple . . . regardless of age :)

We hold hands sometimes, and hug, but tht is about it. I am shy in this regards.

We do PDA, holding hands, some kissing and hugging, ect, but then I'm from Europe, so it's perfectly natural :D :p

I've never seen our PDA creating much attention, but I think what is strange, is a couple not showing each other any affection, just because they are out in public.

one time while we were eating dinner and this woman walked by and turned and looked right at us in a disapproving way. Made me want to slobber all over my OM! :D

That's just the kind of thing I'd do with my OW, and I love to disgust people like that :D


LOL . . . sure we do! Joe is likely to grabb my a$$ in any Walmart we go to

LMAO :D

LOL . . . sure we do! Joe is likely to grabb my a$$ in any Walmart we go to :eek:


Walmart, casino lobby... same dif! ;)

Haha -- I was just thinking of Joe when Harrison said he could outstare anyone; I *think* I'd place my money on Joe in a contest between those two! Although I haven't met Harrison in person yet so... yanno... my bet would only partially educated! LOL!

Yes! We are publicly affectionate with one another....not overly mushy or slobbering....lol

Jerm will come up to me in the store from behind and put his arms around me and kiss my neck........just melts me........lol

nobody really stares at us or says anything.......we're just two people in love, a couple........

we're like any other couple, we use our discretion...........

but in the privacy of home.......we love love to kiss and hug and cuddle.......lol....

love,
sora

Yes, my OM and I do show moderate PDA. Its funny because he is actually very affectionate. He is a self described 'hand-holder'. It makes me love him that much more! So we hold hands in public and kiss occasionally. I haven't noticed any looks (maybe there have been some, not sure- i'm just so wrapped up in my SO, I didn't notice) but then again I live in Los Angeles where it might be kind of more normal to see OM/YW relationships.

Anyway, I loved to read all of your inputs! ;)

I don't if this has been discussed before, but do many of you show PDA (public display of affection) with your older or younger SO? If not, is it because your uncomfortable, embarassed, or is PDA just not your thing? If so, to what extent do you do so?

I'm wondering because occassionally I'll see an AG couple in public and they'll be holding hands or kissing (moderate), and people will stare or make faces at them and such.

We are quite subtly affectionate in public, such as stopping to kiss on a covered bridge or sitting side by side and holding hands in a restaurant, stealing a little kiss and basically just enjoying each other's company.

We hold hands everywhere we walk and my boyfriend finds it HIGHLY ANNOYING that passing motorists honk at us, to the point where he doesn't even want to hold hands while walking on the sidewalk after about the fifth motorist does it.

I guess I don't really blame him but...what the heck? Why are these people honking at us for holding hands?

Is holding hands in public taboo in Germany or something? :rolleyes:

I might be a weirdo, but I like to SEE PDAs.....it warms the heart, and makes me feel like there's still hope for love...

when i was with my YM, he immediately told me he hated PDAs, but by the second year we were together, he was even holding my hand at restaurants, even if we were with another couple. he must have bumped his head!

soon, he didn't care who saw us. i never pushed the issue, he just sort of "came around." it was nice.

I haven't noticed any looks (maybe there have been some, not sure- i'm just so wrapped up in my SO, I didn't notice) but then again I live in Los Angeles where it might be kind of more normal to see OM/YW relationships.

Absolutely it's more normal in our town! (Welcome to Ageless, neighbor! :) ) I'm on the OW/YM side of things, and when I've been out with OW, I've never noticed any stares or received any nosy comments. Los Angeles is so big and diverse that any type of person, relationship, et cetera can be found here. I think the diversity is just really neat, and I'm proud to be part of it! :D

Yep - we show plenty of PDA. Not the kind that would make people turn away and be like "Get a room already!" But holding hands, hugging, arms around each other. We certainly look like a couple in public.

~Crysania

Me and my OW (sally) defiantely dont hold back on PDA, we act just like any other couple would, AG or not. There have been moments where someone has looked at me weird, but i usually just say something along the lines of "youre jealous"... :D but with a few other choice words inserted in there.... but generally we never get any weird stares...we just look like a 'normal' family unit, cus we usually have the 2 kids with us, so ppl just think its mummy and daddy.... and dont bat an eyelid.....

yes we show pda she gets mad when i fondle her breast in public but I always make sure no one is looking :D
I like to mess with her like that