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Allow me to indrotuce myself. My name is Karly, I'm 20 yo and I'm am engaged to a 46 yo. I am Canadian and he is American. We met online in May of 2005 and "in person" in July of the same year. Right now, I am not allowed to go to the States because Customs pulled us over in December when I tried to go back to Florida with him (I had spent three months with him *oct-dec* prior to this without any problems) and came to the conclusion that I was entering the country as an "illegal alien" without any intentions of coming back to Canada. Total bs, but they're Customs and have the power to do what they please so whatever. Anyway, we are now in the process of obtaining a K-1 Fiance visa so that I can move to Florida with him. It's a long process and hard being in a long-distance relationship. It's especially hard because I've spent three months living with him.

I also find it hard to even discuss my relationship with my friends or the general public because it's almost like taboo. I get the typical "isn't he a little old for you", "are you sure you want to do that" and of course, the weird looks on people's faces when they find out. It upsets me because if you look at celebrities, there are plenty of them who are in the same kind of relationship as I and many of you here. It seems to be ok for them to do it because they're "celebrities" but what I don't understand is they are human beings as well as we are. :mad: It's just upsetting to me. Anyway, I hope to find some kind of support through this place because no one in my everyday life (except for my family) seem to have the ability to be happy for me and support the fact that I have found the person I am going to spend the rest of my life with. :( It really is a lonely road and I just hope that relationships like ours will be accepted in our society as some point in time.

Hi there!

I am also new here, and fairly new to my relationship... I am 20 years younger than my bf. I have never been so in love, and I know what you are talking about. Yes, many people will say 'isn't he a bit old', or 'what about when you get older, and he is an old man while you are still young', but you know what? Life is funny, and things don't always work out as planned. You could get sick first, or he may live to be in his 90s.

What should matter to you is that you love eachother and have worked out the logical parts of the relationship in a satisfactory way. I have been divorced, and I'm the first to tell you that love does not conquer all. But if you can find mutual respect and appreciation, as well as love and communication, then you have it all! This is your life you are living, and live it like today is your last! That is all tha matters. If you want to chat just holler, it sounds like we might have some things in common! :) Good luck!

I found this site because I typed in Younger Men and Older Women. I'm 46 years old and have connected with someone who is 17 years younger than me. Believe me, it wasn't anything I was looking for. I'm still confused as to 'what it is.'

I am married and have been for over fifteen years - no children. My husband and I are going through very difficult times and I have been hanging in there with him because he's had a breakdown five years ago - and because I remember that I loved him. But the situation gets worse.

Complication, or blessing? There is a young man who rides the same bus every day with me. He didn't talk to others much and always looked for me and smiled. It wasn't just a friendly smile because I would understand that. It was a lightening connection that jolted my heart every time. He seemed quite down himself and it seemed that sometimes we were just getting through our stuff together. But then I noticed that he would get a look on his face. Like he wished he could be with me. And I felt the same.

I thought that maybe it was just a crush and that it will soon be over. But the situation, and my feelings, just intensified. I tried talking to him over the coarse of a year because - hell I wanted to clear this up! I've got enough emotional upheavals, and even if this was a 'funner thing' than what was waiting for me at home, it was taking so much out of me.

So, finally this year he has decided to talk to me. We've been talking for the last month and I find that he has strong religious convictions about marriage. Once married, always married. So, where does that leave me with his beautiful heart-stopping gazes? Now that he has learned about my problems with my marriage, he has all sorts of advice about how to change the situation. I'm like ready to throw my arms up in the air. I haven't talked to him about 'what was all that about last year?" Maybe I should....?

It should be interesting. I guess we'll 'just be friends' because he seems so determined to help me understand 'what it is that men want.' I have read up on a lot of this online and right now I'm too tired to care what men want! LOL! But I guess I will have to continue to give it the ol' college try...again.

As for the young man. Well, I guess I have to control my feelings around him. He sends SUCH mixed messages. But he's so much more mature than my husband is. My husband is three years older than I am.

So, that's my dilemma. Any comments? Intuition? Condolences? Kicks in the pants? Ridicules...sorry had to say that because I feel that my life is ridiculous.

Thanks.