need to talk

I would like to talk with younger women who had to have several discussions with their OM about having a child. My OM is processing it but he is not discussing it with me. I know he is not totally against it but I need to know what he is thinking because the not knowing is driving me nuts. He makes little comments about me being pregnant but I don't know if that is a yes we will try to have a baby. He said a couple of months ago he felt like I was pressuring him into it and I told him that I wouldn't mention again until he was ready to talk about it. That has been two months ago. How should I handle this?

I would like to talk with younger women who had to have several discussions with their OM about having a child. My OM is processing it but he is not discussing it with me. I know he is not totally against it but I need to know what he is thinking because the not knowing is driving me nuts. He makes little comments about me being pregnant but I don't know if that is a yes we will try to have a baby. He said a couple of months ago he felt like I was pressuring him into it and I told him that I wouldn't mention again until he was ready to talk about it. That has been two months ago. How should I handle this?
How you handle it depends on your guy and what he responds to. When I talked to my guy about it, I told him that I wanted to have children, preferably more than one, and asked what he thought about that and what he wanted. Once it was just out there as a topic of conversation, not an accusation or a demand, he was more willing to talk about it.

For us, it was important to talk about options other than biological, because probably like most men he was a little reluctant to think about going in for a vasectomy reversal. After talking about it and discussing our options and our respective reasons for or against each option, we decided he would do the reversal. Now that its been all talked out, he's excited about it, planning what to name a kid, what to buy for it. We cant be around little kids anymore without him talking about wanting our own. Sometimes, guys just need to think it all through and be able to discuss it without feeling pressured.

btw, him making comments about you being pregnant is probably a pretty good sign he's thinking he wants to have kids with you. Just try to be calm about it before you talk to him about it.

Thank you for your reply. I afraid to say anything more to him because of him saying that I was pressuring him. I wasn't at all it was just him having all these questions that I was unable to answer so I would look information up on the internet and give it to him. That is when he said that I was pressuring him into it. We only have one route and that would be sperm retrieval. He doesn't want to have a reversal and I really don't want him to either. Because I am afraid to talk with him I have been praying about it non stop for days now. I am hoping it is a sign from God that because it is on my mind all the time and everything that pops into my mind about pregnancies is a good sign that we are meant to have one. I know that sounds hoky but oh well.

That is too bad he really doesnt want to talk about it at all. I hope everything works out for you as you hope it will.

There are other options for being parents, if being a parent is more important to you than physically carrying a child. Could it be the sperm retreival process freaks him out alittle? If you think thats the issue, and adoption is alright with you, thats always an option you could discuss.