hotguy41 03-27-2006, 03:31 AM New here, I am 25 just met a wonderful 39 year old, not sure if anything will come of it. Did a google search on age gaps and found myself here. She says she doesn't have a problem with it if I don't, but she seemed quite shocked when she first realized it even though we had been talking awhile.
I'm sure I'm nothing but a pup to most people on this site, but as young as I am I'm not into wasting my time, so I hope if she's not interested she'll let that out quickly.
Anyways, hello everyone and thanks for sharing your stories on this forum, many of which I've already read.
ajuma 03-27-2006, 08:04 AM Tell her about this site. Hopefully (for you!) it will help her to realize that there are a lot of us out here with OW/YM relationships...and they can be WONDERFUL!
Dolphin1974 03-27-2006, 08:20 AM Hi there,welcome!Hope you will love this community.
Japan 03-27-2006, 09:28 AM Not a pup.....always good to hear male perspectives.
Look forward to your posts....
hotguy41 03-27-2006, 01:09 PM Thanks for the welcomes, are you sure pointing this site out is a good idea? I don't want her to think its a big deal in my mind (it isn't), but I wonder what she might think of me visiting such a site.
I've had a lot of life experiences, and turn 26 shortly, so if I am a pup I don't think I feel like it anymore lol.
Later,
David
ajuma 03-27-2006, 04:34 PM Even though it's not a big deal for YOU, it probably is for HER! I think that most, if not all of us OW have had to overcome the mindset that even though the OM/YW relationship is ok, that there is something "not quite right" with the OW/YM one. (Long-time posters: correct me if I'm wrong! I'm fairly new here, but I've been lurking for a couple of years now.)
xited1 03-28-2006, 11:53 AM Even though it's not a big deal for YOU, it probably is for HER! I think that most, if not all of us OW have had to overcome the mindset that even though the OM/YW relationship is ok, that there is something "not quite right" with the OW/YM one. (Long-time posters: correct me if I'm wrong! I'm fairly new here, but I've been lurking for a couple of years now.)
What exactly is "not quite right" with the OW/YM relationship? Are you in an age gap relationship? Are you on this site for support - giving and receiving? I don't care what gender you are, or which end of the age gap you're on, love is love. I, for one, have never believed that there was something "not quite right" with my relationship with my YM. We (OW) may have insecurities about the relationship, but that happens in ANY relationship even those with no age gap involved. So, you said to correct you if you were wrong.....consider yourself corrected.
workaholickitty 03-28-2006, 01:15 PM Welcome! I am also new, except I'm the younger woman, he;s 20 years older. But I think the issues are so similar. Anyway, again welcome! :)
hotguy41 03-29-2006, 02:26 AM Hmm turnsout she undercut her age by three years, that doesn't bother me as far as chronologically speaking, but what do people think on the honesty aspect, obviously she wasn't truthful, but being she came clean relatively quickly should I be overly concerned about this or not?
ajuma 03-29-2006, 09:44 AM I wouldn't be too concerned about the "honesty" of shaving 3 years off her age, since she "came clean" almost right away. It DOES seem to say to me that she has some issues with the age thing. 39 "sounds" a lot younger than "42"!! :D
You seem like a pretty mature guy and that you care about her a lot. She's probably scared (of her feelings about you) and need some time and patience...
xited1: I've started a new thread to respond to your comments...
Frianne 03-29-2006, 10:30 PM Well, it would be nice to talk to someone of the opposite sex about the situation. I am 42 and my guy is 29. We having been dating for only 3 months, but it has been fun. It is definitely different. Sometimes I feel like he is better than me and it is only because of his age. He is not better than me. Just younger. I ask myself, why in the world would he want me when he could have some girl in her twenties. But, he chose me. Most of my friends say that I look 10 years younger than I am, so maybe he does too. What made you fall in love with your girl?
Donna 03-30-2006, 07:42 AM Donna here,
I want to appologize for using the term, Toyboy, in my last comment here. sorry about that, I will be more careful in the future.
Donna
Patricia 04-01-2006, 02:46 PM Hi guy. Welcome to Ageless!
Obviously, you are concerned about her lie, so please think seriously about that before starting a relationship with this woman. Like you, I don't like people who lie and would not be able to start a relationship with someone who had been dishonest right from the beginning. I would not be able to trust the person.
Camelotlady 04-01-2006, 04:03 PM I would like to say a couple of things. I have a boyfriend who is 24 and he is so wonderful and mature for his age. How he is, is better than anyone I have known before him. So if two people really like each other then age is just a number. Also yes he didn't know my age at first but I never lied and when he really wanted to know for sure I told him. It can be tempting to fudge a bit when you are older and not sure of how the other person might take it but honesty should always be considered above all else.
VenusDarkStar 04-12-2006, 01:24 AM Hey....congrats on your new love...and NO, you are NOT a "young pup"....just a "younger man" than SOME of us. I am older than your new love, and the man I am interested in is only a couple years older than you, so don't think about the years....just how happy you are. And always above everything else....pursue the joyful things in life.
Love & light.....
Valerie
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