Donna
03-30-2006, 07:36 AM
Donna here,
I have been on this site since about 8 months. Because for the first time I realized that I am attracted to younger men. They make me sweat from my mind to my knees. But I recently got interested in a younger man, he flirtedwith me, and I suddenly noticed him after brief hellos for month/s. I really don't know how long because he was there but I did not see him, if you know what I mean.
He does not even know my name, anyway a girlfriend suddenly appears. What I find in my mind, I am making the following comments, she is more his age, he is young and should have a family, he is Asian, I am from USA, I am heavier, I am older. Of course, I did not go back to the restaurant since I saw this girl. Just to make it clear we only firted lightly, and very informally. He manages the restaurant, so I decided it was best for me not to go go back, as this is his working territory, and his girlfriend somehow got the idea we were flirting. And good thing, because nothing happened. . And I don't need any complications in my life, I will be divorced in the next 2 month's. The good thing is he is the second man in the last 8 month's to pick up on my sexual energy, and to respond. And that is all (most likely) to it, just a stepping stone to moving forward to freedom for me. Easier to step back immediately when I find there is a significant other. That is one main point of this group, to respect unions of others. And that is a commitment I have made to myself, with kind support from this group. And it is an easier way to keep my life in balance.
The point is this: Do you other older women justify these thoughts, it seems the loving thing to do to a young man is to back off at the slightest indication that I am moving towards him in error. I have no idea in Asia what the general public would think about older woman younger man, it almost does not exist as far as I can see, unless the guy is a toy boy, and the woman is weathly. Don't quote me, and don't attack me on this generalization as it could be incorrect.
I just feel that I would be limiting a youngerman to having a family and a "normal life". I just don't want to be "normal"I want to find myself more, and it has been happening for month's now. I am changing so much, and feel so free. I don't want anyone pushing me down with a lid on me anymore.
Do any of you girls justify backing off of younger men? When really you want to
back them into a wall and press your body against theirs, kiss them then melt into the floor with them?
I am still a bit of a dreamer, I guess think I am a lover in training without actual training. Well, I am training for 8 month's now, dancing, exercising, and flirting with whatever looks at me as I walk by on the street. Got a good one two days ago, as we were passing on an escalator, one of us going up one going down. He must have read my mind, my mind was saying "hot baby"and our eyes locked, my face I thought was neutral, he smiled, and I smiled back, whew.... after composing myself, I looked back and he was gone. Brief, exciting, perfect...
Back to the point, I feel as if I am in a rut, yongermen make me feel alive, but i just can figure out in my mind how to put this excitement into my life, but do it with responsiblity and minimize pain, and maximize life (if it happens)with a younger man. I don't know, as I said I would not want another Asian man, I just suddenly felt attracted to one, so maybe I will end up with an older man, but I doubt it.
Bye for now,
Donna
I have been on this site since about 8 months. Because for the first time I realized that I am attracted to younger men. They make me sweat from my mind to my knees. But I recently got interested in a younger man, he flirtedwith me, and I suddenly noticed him after brief hellos for month/s. I really don't know how long because he was there but I did not see him, if you know what I mean.
He does not even know my name, anyway a girlfriend suddenly appears. What I find in my mind, I am making the following comments, she is more his age, he is young and should have a family, he is Asian, I am from USA, I am heavier, I am older. Of course, I did not go back to the restaurant since I saw this girl. Just to make it clear we only firted lightly, and very informally. He manages the restaurant, so I decided it was best for me not to go go back, as this is his working territory, and his girlfriend somehow got the idea we were flirting. And good thing, because nothing happened. . And I don't need any complications in my life, I will be divorced in the next 2 month's. The good thing is he is the second man in the last 8 month's to pick up on my sexual energy, and to respond. And that is all (most likely) to it, just a stepping stone to moving forward to freedom for me. Easier to step back immediately when I find there is a significant other. That is one main point of this group, to respect unions of others. And that is a commitment I have made to myself, with kind support from this group. And it is an easier way to keep my life in balance.
The point is this: Do you other older women justify these thoughts, it seems the loving thing to do to a young man is to back off at the slightest indication that I am moving towards him in error. I have no idea in Asia what the general public would think about older woman younger man, it almost does not exist as far as I can see, unless the guy is a toy boy, and the woman is weathly. Don't quote me, and don't attack me on this generalization as it could be incorrect.
I just feel that I would be limiting a youngerman to having a family and a "normal life". I just don't want to be "normal"I want to find myself more, and it has been happening for month's now. I am changing so much, and feel so free. I don't want anyone pushing me down with a lid on me anymore.
Do any of you girls justify backing off of younger men? When really you want to
back them into a wall and press your body against theirs, kiss them then melt into the floor with them?
I am still a bit of a dreamer, I guess think I am a lover in training without actual training. Well, I am training for 8 month's now, dancing, exercising, and flirting with whatever looks at me as I walk by on the street. Got a good one two days ago, as we were passing on an escalator, one of us going up one going down. He must have read my mind, my mind was saying "hot baby"and our eyes locked, my face I thought was neutral, he smiled, and I smiled back, whew.... after composing myself, I looked back and he was gone. Brief, exciting, perfect...
Back to the point, I feel as if I am in a rut, yongermen make me feel alive, but i just can figure out in my mind how to put this excitement into my life, but do it with responsiblity and minimize pain, and maximize life (if it happens)with a younger man. I don't know, as I said I would not want another Asian man, I just suddenly felt attracted to one, so maybe I will end up with an older man, but I doubt it.
Bye for now,
Donna