Break up because i love her ?

hello everyone,
i am new to this forum but after reading a few threads in here i realised this is the right place to come to for advice. i am 23 yrs old and my love is 28. i realise the difference might seem unworthy of a post in this forum given some threads i have read but i can asure you that for her it isnt so.

we have been together for 7 months now and not once have i regreted or preffered to be with someone else even for an instance ( including my best friends). we get along perfectly and feel that we are perfect for each other.Unfortunatelly despite the fact that she adores me and would like to allow her self to love me, she does not do so due to the age diffrerence. During the summer she got out of a long relationship (8yrs) of love because the guy did not want to marry her. every now and then he sends her msgs telling her he still thinks about her which does not let her move on.

in may i will go to the army for one year (mandatory in greece) and she fears that she will be loosing a yr of her life waiting for an uncertain relationship. thus she intends to break up in summer. needless to say that the pressure from relatives and friends on her side against this relationship is unbelievable and i can feel they are getting through. lately she prefers to do something else rather than be with me and disgards my feelings as the rantings of a young adolesence and avoids intimacy. I feel that this is a one sided relationship and i give more than she does.

i would like to tell her that i will be with her for the yrs to come but i am afraid that even if in one in a million i regret the decision in the futute i could not bear hurting her.

i love this girl more than anything and could never bear hurting her, but if the outcome for her is imminent is it worth hurting myself by wating until summer? knowing for all this time that she will break up with me at some point ? is this is all some adventure for her? some way of temporarily getting over the break up with the love of her life? i am sorry but i am very confused and hurting at this point...

can anyone help ???

i think she is using the 5 year age difference as an excuse to not have a relationship with you. move on, you deserve better. t.d. jakes has a message titled "let it go" he says if you have to beg for love, let it go! look it up on his website, for christians and non christians it is worth the time to read. it talks about the past, pain, lost love, rejections, it is really awesome. someone sent me that as an email, and it really set me on a path to healing, and in the middle of that healing i have found the love of my life, or rather HE found me, lol! t. d. jakes can be found at thepottershouse.com. trust me, this is worth your time!

Hi Maninlove

I have to disagree with the previous post.
I actually have a big age difference between
my boyfriend and myself but I understand how
she thinks that way. When you are younger,
just a couple of years seems like such a bigger difference.
How I was at 23 and how I was at 28 is a world of
difference. Maybe it was the same for her and she
thinks that you can't possibly be making a mature decision
about your relationship. I have no idea how you are but
it doesn't seem like you are the typical 23 year old.

If she wanted to be with the other guy, wouldn't she be with
him? i think , maybe subconscientiously (?spelling, sorry?) she
is using the other guy not to get close to you.
I said it on another e-mail. I did this with my boyfriend I have now(kept pushing him away) and he said good-bye. In about 3 days I realized how much I loved
him and missed him and I have never left him since.
that "distance makes the heart grow fonder" saying is true.
stay away a little and see how she feels.
it will give her time to see things a little more clearly.
I feel bad for you, I hope everything works out.
You must really love her to be desperate enough to search
for help and advice.
Good luck
Let me know what happens
Ruthann :) :)