Everyone is the same: Unique!

"Remember, you ARE unique! Just like everybody else!"

I can't remember where I read that for the first time but it has stuck in my head for years.

Yes, it's true. Some people are not mainstream in their thinking. Some people don't run their lives in what mainstream society would call a 'normal' manner. Some people have unique points of view. Some people dress different. Some people...

Here, many of us often make a funny little comment about our different or unique point of view on something. Totally reasonable.

We're all unique, and some are more 'different' than others, but why do some people need the world to tell them constantly how unique or different and special they are? When someone makes a big deal about how 'different' they are as opposed to the rest of the normal boring world, I want to barf. To me, these people are screaming for attention and have 'insecure' stamped on their foreheads. They are also telling me how much more 'special' they are then I am. Nice and flattering, eh? EDIT: Now that I think about it, do they really not realize that they are insulting everyone around them by thinking that they're so 'special'?

As we get older, don't we come to the realization that we are ALL unique? Or to more clearly make my point (if you can call it that), that everyone around us is just as unique as we are?

*rant*

Very unique perspective! :p ;)

And you're haranguing about this subject, because....?

Very unique perspective! :p ;)

*laugh* :p

Well Gina, I see it from a different perspective. I find that people tend to fit into groups and each group looks at the other with suspicion.

There's a dominant group and whoever doesn't fit into that category finds him/herself marginalised and the minority that belongs in the margin view each other with suspicion as well because then each one in that catergory sub-marginalises the other.

I don't know if I'm explaining this correctly, but there's always a mainstream and then there's a minority that does not fit into that mainstream. It's not about insecurity, desire for attention or uniqueness, it's about fitting into the rest of the society without automatically being noticed and marginalised.

I do agree however that some people go out of their way to get noticed and underneath there's nothing. They have to wear feathers on their heads to say "hey! look at me, I'm unique" but believe me some just carry on with their lives and constantly find fingers pointed at them in not such a nice way. They are shunned, feared and ridiculed, even locked up but often end up becoming part of the immortals.

Look at Robert Lowell, Edgar Allen Poe, Vincent Van Gogh, Lord Byron, they were all considered mad and yet.......

I don't know if we're talking about the same thing or if I'm being able to get my point through. But anyway .......

*laugh* :poh i could really point some contradictions with your post and past posts of you...lets say “discriminating”

but i won't say anything

I think truly unique people recognize that we are all unique, just like truly intelligent people recognize intelligence in others, truly beautiful people recognize beauty in others, truly good people recognize goodness in others, etc.

If you are confident of your abilities and who you are, you don't have to put people down. The only people that try to convince others that they are superior are the ones that don't really believe it themselves - OR they recognize that they are truly inferior to others in most ways, so they are compelled to point out what they feel is the area that they are superior.

Good thread!

Too many people, in my experience, seek "sameness" in everything. They aren't always open to other people's thoughts or ideas. And I'm surprised that adults can be like this. Surely as an adult you have the life experience and simple reasoning to recognise complexities.

Such an approach is always foolish, so no one thinks like you do! Everyone is unique in how they think and perceive the world.

One thing that makes me laugh is when you get people that strive so hard not to be mainstream because they hate being part of a group like that, and yet they've still attached themselves to another group, whilst at the same time maintaining that they're an "individual". A big example of this, for me, is in music... you see all these kids (worse even adults!) out their trying to be 'different', and yet they've managed to just attach themselves to another group. They try so desprately hard not to dress the same as everyone else in the mainstream, and yet they're all dressed almost identically! It's like they're saying "I'm different, I don't have to be like you", but they should have a discalimer after that that reads "but I have to be like these people". People just generally feel safer in groups, they need to feel a part of something, whatever that might be. Personally, I don't feel like I fit in any group, apart from the group that "feels like it doesn't fit in a group". lol. ;)