Do you feel like a trophy wife or girlfriend?

Generally speaking, most men want a pretty young wife or girlfriend.

If the age difference us wide enough.

Generally speaking, most men want a pretty young wife or girlfriend.

They do?

Nope don't feel that way... We both feel lucky to love each other... age? who cares... we don't even think of that... True Love doesn't see age True love also loves for the person not a number...

Yes there are definatly SOME not most but some men who want Younger women to have "fun" with but thats not LOVE thats Lust... and Same thing for men who like to just have "fun " with women of any age even the same....This is not an age issue.. I've known men who want to just be with women for the sex even if it's same age ....

Yeah, I don't feel that way at all. The only time I think of it is when strangers see us and you just know they are thinking that. I actually think it's kinda funny when we get those looks - I think the best way to deal with that is to laugh about it since there's no point in getting upset over it.

But yeah, we are in tune on so many levels, and our relationship is based on the love we have and the connection we share. I couldn't be with someone who was only interested in my age and looks.

Nah...

I'm not a trophy wife...Alec doesn't make enough money for me to be one.

I'm just arm candy. *GRIN*

Nadine.

Sometimes I do. When we are in public and especially when we go out to eat at high class restaurants. It doesn't help that I look 18 sometimes and he looks like he's in his mid forties. Now, people just gawk at us b/c I'm so,o,o pregnant.
I don't feel like he's using me as a trophy but I know he likes the response he gets from new friends and colleages when they see me. I can see it.

Absolutely!

After all, he's in his 20's and I'm in my 50's. Of course, I'm a trophy!!! :)

Sometimes I do. When we are in public and especially when we go out to eat at high class restaurants. It doesn't help that I look 18 sometimes and he looks like he's in his mid forties. Now, people just gawk at us b/c I'm so,o,o pregnant.
I don't feel like he's using me as a trophy but I know he likes the response he gets from new friends and colleages when they see me. I can see it.

Lilly, that's a good point...I look younger too. And yeah, when we're dressed up and out for dinner is when we get the most looks.

My BF pretends to not like the comments from friends about me, but I know he secretly does.

Nah, my OM doesn't treat me as a trophy girlfriend. He's sure lucky to have me though!! hehe I'm lucky to have him too. Good stuff!

Yep.......I feel like a trophy g/f..........and I don't mind it a bit. My OM is very high maintenance and loves the finer things in life (I didnt mean that towards me) but in saying that, he enjoys being seen with me out in public. He gets a kick out of people saying Im there for the money and I am his mid-life crisis........To each their own!

Absolutely!

After all, he's in his 20's and I'm in my 50's. Of course, I'm a trophy!!! :)

That is TOO funny!!!

I realize that it was not the intended definition... but I sure hope Loripop feels like a trophy... in the sense that... hmmm... tough to find a good example... in a fishing tournament a "trophy" bass is a real keeper... the best of the best...

I've "won" the most beautiful, loving, caring woman in the world. She is a trophy and I do not intend to let her forget it it.

While there is nothing wrong with a man wanting a pretty woman on his arm, or a woman wanting a handsome man at her side, I was a trophy wife and it sux'd. Sometimes *ok* things can be taken to the extremes, and that was my particular experience. He was/is an older man and I'm just grateful I was able to get out of all the dysfuction that went with that particular relationship.

Today, I've found my soul mate, and he is also an older man (14 years)...I've known him 5 years and we plan on marrying. Part of me wonders why I keep ending up with these older guys, I have no problem dating someone my own age (I'm 45 now, I was married for 20 years), but I just never found one that I clicked with...oh well. I know that he is proud of how I've taken care of myself, I know that it must make him feel good to have someone that he finds so attractive standing by his side, and THIS time, it's a give and take cause I absolutely adore him.

So yeah, I'm a trophy, but not a self engrossed one...all I feel is an honor to love and be loved by someone I hold in such high regard.


Shad.

THIS time, it's a give and take cause I absolutely adore him.

So yeah, I'm a trophy, but not a self engrossed one...all I feel is an honor to love and be loved by someone I hold in such high regard.

Shad.

These were some really good statements. Great way of putting it and I can completely relate!

I don't feel like that and I take care of myself nails done, designer clothes etc. and I still don't feel like that. The reason I don't feel that way is because we love each other and that's what our relationship is based on. Age, status etc. has nothing to do with it. When I think of a trophy wife, I think of when people marry for reasons besides love, kind of like an arrangement, maybe the woman gets money or status out of it and the man gets a pretty wife.

Nope. I don't feel like one at all -- because I'm not. We don't really notice the age difference and we're together because it just works.

I've never had anyone say anything to us about the age difference except online. But that's generally by creepy guys who want to cyber with me and when I tell them NO, I'm in a relationship, start saying rude things about me and my boyfriend. Essentially, I think they're morons and not worth my time. :rolleyes:

~Crysania

Maybe, sometimes I do when we are out somewhere nice and I am all dressed up. I look younger then 40 and we do sometimes get looks. Got a disaproving one yesterday that cracked us both up! Anyway I think it's fun to hang on his arm and feel young and pretty. But, for the most part I just feel happy and loved.

I answered sometimes, but I actually like the stares and strange looks we get. I just think in my head, "Yes people, we are involved, he's not my Dad". We are 19 years apart in age (him 53, me 34). At times I think it can look like more than 19 years difference, but not because he looks old for 53, but because I look young for 34 (being 4'11" doesn't help, I get carded all the time). We have been friends for 15 years and frankly he looks better at his current age than he did when I first met him. The only time I notice the age difference at all is when someone else notices it. The rest of the time I just see a beautiful man and one of my best friends.

Darn Straight I'm a trophy wife! He had to work hard to get me and I'm someone to be extremely proud of! :) When people look at me with my OM they automatically assume that I am a just a trophy, but when they get to know us, they realize we are about a lot more than that. Part of the reason that people sometimes assume this is because of the circles that we spend time in,where there are a lot of women who are just there for there OM's money and status. I once had to sit on a jet with some other "trophy wives" going on a shopping trip to NYC and when we all got to talking I realized that while there were two others happy and proud as clams like me the other three were miserable in there marriages and had no love and companionship, only credit cards and social events. :( So yes I am a trophy wife, but more often I think of my OM as my trophy husband. :D