MissyJ
04-01-2006, 09:26 PM
Hi Everyone :)
I am hoping you can share some wisdom on my situation. I am 25 and my OM is 45. We work together, which is how we met, but let me clarify. I work there 2 days a week, for 5 hours a day, as an admin assistant. This is not my career, as I am studying for my PhD, and neither is it essential finance-wise.
We have known each other for about 18 months and became close in September last year when he received a promotion and began working in the office with me. We went out together a couple of months ago, to a trophy presentation night for his sports club (so it wasn’t a ‘private’ date – a lot of his friends were there). Since then I have felt closer to him. He has called me and I have called him. He is very sweet to me and a total gentleman, which I am not used to as I have been treated quite badly in previous relationships. It has been pointed out to me by others that we obviously have feelings for each other.
However, we have not been out again since the first date and I do not know why. I feel I have made my feelings clear to him, although without stating them explicitly, and he certainly hasn’t been distant or discouraging. If he has a problem, he will come to me to talk about it. I can understand if he has an issue with the age difference. Perhaps he feels we have different goals in life? However, I feel that we won’t know this until we have a discussion about it. We haven’t really spoken about what is happening between us. I am quite shy and he can be too. I feel sometimes he has been about to say something, but then decides not to. Should I leave him to approach the subject or should I talk to him about it? And if so, how should I go about it?
I am hoping you can share some wisdom on my situation. I am 25 and my OM is 45. We work together, which is how we met, but let me clarify. I work there 2 days a week, for 5 hours a day, as an admin assistant. This is not my career, as I am studying for my PhD, and neither is it essential finance-wise.
We have known each other for about 18 months and became close in September last year when he received a promotion and began working in the office with me. We went out together a couple of months ago, to a trophy presentation night for his sports club (so it wasn’t a ‘private’ date – a lot of his friends were there). Since then I have felt closer to him. He has called me and I have called him. He is very sweet to me and a total gentleman, which I am not used to as I have been treated quite badly in previous relationships. It has been pointed out to me by others that we obviously have feelings for each other.
However, we have not been out again since the first date and I do not know why. I feel I have made my feelings clear to him, although without stating them explicitly, and he certainly hasn’t been distant or discouraging. If he has a problem, he will come to me to talk about it. I can understand if he has an issue with the age difference. Perhaps he feels we have different goals in life? However, I feel that we won’t know this until we have a discussion about it. We haven’t really spoken about what is happening between us. I am quite shy and he can be too. I feel sometimes he has been about to say something, but then decides not to. Should I leave him to approach the subject or should I talk to him about it? And if so, how should I go about it?