New Here, Need Help!

I've found most of these posts here very helpful, but wanted to introduce myself here and see if any other comments can be made on my situation.

I'm in my early 30s and have always always always dated guys younger, and the rare occasional my age. My last break up was a tough one and possibly ruined my belief that younger men can be mature enough for me. They never were- hence none worked. Whatever.

Focusing on my career past couple years and just started working with an older man (not my boss, but someone at a higher position w/ a lot of influence on me being there) who I've become very attracted to, despite all intentions not to be (in his 40s). The other girls i work with did a lot of harassing me that he'd love me, he's single, he's looking, blah blah blah. I tried hard to not notice him much at first, and possibly led him to believe I'd never be interested.
He's sometimes outgoing and flirty, other times quiet and obviously 'thinking" of something. I get sarcastic a lot and though he knows this, think I may have overdone it. We're at the point now where we know each other well enough to talk privately (we've emailed) and I've flirted a bit but, do agree with previous posts here- I DON'T think he's gotten the point. I was not being open- was being subtle. Suddenly i feel like I'm 13 again- getting butterflies & too nervous to say something to him.

So- I fell for him. Obviously. He's attractive, he can be a pain in the butt which i find adorable, and i find myself thinking of him so much even when not at work. He's divorced- I've never dated someone divorced- and has a kid- another novelty to me. Yet i don't have a problem with these, like i thought i would. I've found him even more attractive the way his face lights up when he talks about his kid. What's happening to me?

So not sure what to do. Definetely don't want this to effect my job in a negative way. No one at work would care- except me (and him) if it didn't work, and not sure how I'll feel if he's not interested afterall. He has dated younger than me in the past, as well as older. All I know other than that is he does think I'm attractive. Just not sure if HE's attracted that much or was just saying it as in 'yeah she's cute, no big deal"

Advice?

hello,
About 6 years I dated a co-worker and the relationship lasted for about 2 years. even though it didn't last (I ended it) I can honestly say he was the best boyfriend I ever had. <sigh>
I can only give you advice based from my personal experience. Initially we were friends and I wanted to keep our dating friendship on a low profile for fear of gossiping co-workers etc. and people looking down on others that "mix business with pleasure". The only problems I had were all of a sudden a female from out of the blue got wind of our relationship and started acting jealous and snotty towards me...nothing major though, lol. I don't think she even wanted him personally, I think she was just envious of our rlp..because I had someone and she didn't. That's another risk you might encounter, another female wanting what you have your eye on too, so beware of that. Also, if your company doesn't have policy rules against work relationships, then I don't see the problem with co-workers dating (as long as you are both doing your job and keeping your personal rlp's seperate from the workplace). Some companies actually have rules against it co-workers dating each other.

If your interested in this guy, and he is available, just keep "suddlely" letting him know..the e-mails, flirting, talking to him etc. Don't go overboard though because guys get scared off from a pushy woman (they say it makes her look desperate).
And if he reciprocates the the same interest then your off to a good start. Show him your interested, then pull back and let him do the same. If he's interested in more than just friendly flirting at work, he will let you know. At my last job a gal dated one of our co-workers for about a year and now they are both engaged...you never know where you are going to meet your soul mate.

Good luck and keep us posted!