Dare I say I'm a little sketchy?? :S

I'm new here so bare with me:P
I recently, well a few months ago, i ended things with my ex who was 2 years younger then me(acted like a 16 yr old mind you) due to him cheating on me and lieing and really just too much BS!
so while i was getting over him, I met this guy online(he's from the same city im in) and he's 19. I had no idea his age at first, I just assumed he was my age.
Well we have gone on 2 dates this past week and wow. He compliments me, holds doors open for me, pushes my chair in for me, etc etc. something that I have never encountered in my life. He has his own car, a good job, wants to be a firefighter(going to school for it next year). only downfall is he lives with his rents(so do i tho and really, that doesnt even bother me!) I've only dated 3 other ppl in my life. one was my age(back when i was 18), one was a year older then me(terrible relationship. he abused me in every single way!) and the last was the one 2 yrs younger(same, if not worse then the abuser). Now this 19yr old is the most mature guy ive ever dated. He actually has his head on his shoulders and such. I am just a little iffy that it's just an act and that he just wants to sleep with a 25 yr old....I mean i have a lot of trust issues due to my ex and he knows that. i don't know...
Anyone else know waht I'm talking about and understand??
Any help would be GREAT!
Thanks!:)

Now this 19yr old is the most mature guy ive ever dated. He actually has his head on his shoulders and such. I am just a little iffy that it's just an act and that he just wants to sleep with a 25 yr old

Although six years may appear not to be a significant age difference when a lot of us are in relationships with a larger age gap on this site, you are dating a very young man, which is in itself not a small undertaking!

If he is behaving maturely and you both have a mature understanding of the boundaries and expectations (from each of you) of your relationship and decide to have a sexual relationship together then it seems you're both off to a good start.

The best way to find out how he feels about dating an older woman is probably just to ask him. He may not have even really considered your relationship to be an age gap relationship. Maybe he considers you his equal partner as an adult in a relationship between two people without labelling you as a "25 year old."

Well, for all intents and purposes, as mature as he might appear, he's still a teenager. He might be acting and he might not. My take on this is that he doesn't have an issue with the age as much as you do. I can understand your hestitation. He may be mature but we've all known some ym who we considered mature and whatnot and he hasn't exactly been the pilar that we expected.

So what to do, take it slowly. Enjoy the time you have with him without any expectations whatsoever. Learn to be friends first before being bedmates. Believe me sex isn't going to go out of style anytime in our lifetime, it will be there when you both are emotionally and spiritually ready to bond physically. It will be that much better.

In the meantime, don't think so far ahead then right now. Love/sex shouldn't be rushed just so you can make a statement, there are other ways. Find out who he is and who you are when you're with him. What do I mean by that, I don't think we should pay other guys for our trust issues, we're apprehensive because we're afraid of what we'll become with this other person and if this other person will use it against us. So its more of how to trust ourselves within a relationship, and not how the other person is going to take advantage of us in the relationship, that is our burden if we allow that. This is why going slowly, cultivating a friendship works better in the long run. You both can assess the person who you are and want to be within the realm of friendship with no pressure and then should the relationship change to one more seriously base, then the trust should be there to guide you with eyes open wide.

Paris

Well I went over to his house last night after work and it was nice. We cuddled and such. Talked about everything really. It was nice. Talked about our pasts, how many partners we've had(and I must say, he is the first guy I've dated that I've told my real number to - it's not alot or anything I just was always timid and told my past ex's taht it was 2 or 3 ppl vs the real 8). We talked about past relationships and I asked if he's ever dated an older woman before and he said yes, a 27 yr old and it was last year, when he was 18. So that kind of eased my mind a bit!
now Im not rushing into anything. I want to take things slow jsut bc of how horrid my last relationship was(and he knows all about what happened there too). Just part of me is still sketchy about the age. I mean we all have our immature moments, hell, I have alot myself:P I'm just sketchy bc I've never dated someone so young before adn I know how I was when I was 19......I just hope he's not hiding his real self...
BAH!

I'm just sketchy bc I've never dated someone so young before adn I know how I was when I was 19......I just hope he's not hiding his real self...
BAH!

I was an out of control woman for about three year at around that period in my life.

I am grateful that the man I fell in love with isn't a younger, male version of me! Part of what attracts us to each other is that we share the same values and have as similar of a lifestyle as possible, considering our age and cultural gaps.

Even if your boyfriend does begin to evolve, that doesn't necessarily mean that he was hiding anything from you. Just remember that as you grow and evolve together and both change over time ;)