I need help with my OW

I'm 20 and my sweety is 24 (I have 3 more years before I graduate and she's graduating soon). We've talked about marriage and it's clear that we both want to spend the rest of our lives together. I'm just worried she won't feel secure and that she'll have doubts if we get married soon but then I don't want her to wait too long for me either. Any thoughts and suggestions on when we should become engaged? or when a woman would most likely feel it's a little late to get married? ;) Thanks everyone.

with such an age gap, I think it should be soon, or she might start thinking you'll run off with a younger woman. :D
But I should think she'll be able to wait for a few years for you. :)

Any thoughts and suggestions on when we should become engaged? or when a woman would most likely feel it's a little late to get married? ;)

I don't think there is a magic age that's the most optimum for wedding. However, some men and women have their own ideals about marriage, babies, career goals and will adhere to a strict schedule if possible.

I think what babybee is trying to say is that your age gap is less of an issue than is your committment to each other in general.

If you're ready and planning to get married, then plan it. If you aren't ready, then planning a wedding isn't the smartest thing to do.

I've been married, I have children, but if I were to go back, knowing what I know now and that I'd meet this wonderful man I would have waited for him.

It's not the age of when you get married that's important but WHOM you wed that matters most.

Thanks! That's what I feel too... that we need the commitment.

I've been married, I have children, but if I were to go back, knowing what I know now and that I'd meet this wonderful man I would have waited for him.

Do you mean you would have waited a little longer for the person who you eventually married? or someone who you didn't marry? Is this wonderful man the man you married or someone who you met after you married the first person? If it was the person you married... why do you feel you should have waited longer for him? Sorry for all the questions...

Thanks! That's what I feel too... that we need the commitment.

Do you mean you would have waited a little longer for the person who you eventually married? or someone who you didn't marry? Is this wonderful man the man you married or someone who you met after you married the first person? If it was the person you married... why do you feel you should have waited longer for him? Sorry for all the questions...

What I mean is that: I would have waited forever to marry my fiancé, instead of getting married at age 21 to a man I was not in love with. I made decisions based on keeping up with the Jones' instead of following my heart.

I'm not in a rush to be married again and neither is my boyfriend.

As for waiting, we are engaged indefinitely and we will wait until we are both ready to get married.

I can and WOULD marry him tomorrow, but he's not ready yet, so I will wait 5, 10, 20 years if that's how much time he needs to feel ready. I'm not exaggerating; we plan to be married in about 5-10 years from now.

For the most part he just wants to make sure that I won't change my mind (he means well but in my eyes it's a non-issue).

He's worth the wait and I'm worth the consideration.

How long have you two been dating? Are you living together?