To outsiders does it look like?

Father and daughter? (or worse)

That has been one of my biggest worries.

If you love and care for your S.O. then it should not matter what others think. If you feel loved and cared for its your life. Right?



Mark

No.

And even if it does...you have to realize that you're not in a relationship with anyone but your SO...so it doesn't matter!!!

Nadine.

I have to admit this has come to my mind a few times but I have found that it really matters not what other people think. I have actually had a few people even call me Mrs.(insert OM's last name) or been called the wife before. This from strangers. Although I know that they must see the age gap. So what does this say to me? That my SO and I must be comfortable enough with each other in public that people DON'T guess and make assumptions.
You need not worry about those who wish to tell you what is right and what is wrong. You must figure that out yourself. Society, by and large, has enough predictions for our future, just leave love out of it.

-Nibbles

I don't think we look like father and daughter.....maybe but I guess it just doesn't cross my mind. When we were travelling, people that we met automatically assumed we were married too. Everyone referred to him as my husband, and no one seemed to think there was anything unusual about it. I think a lot of it has to do with how the two of you portray yourselves. I think that love is pretty obvious to pick up on, and if someone does give you a bad look, chances are they've been hurt or have their OWN issues about age gaps. So, I don't worry about it. Besides, like Nadine said, who really cares what they think anyhow?

We were at a theme park and this couple remarked how nice it was for that man (my OM) to go to the park with his daughter (me)! Once he went to the bank to make a deposit in my account and the clerk saw my info and said,"Your daughter huh?" My OM said,"No, my girlfriend". For us, if you're pure of heart you'll think we are father and daughter, if you are worldly, you'll think he's my pimp. I think he looks more like my pimp as I am a biracial model and he does the whole unbuttoned shirt w/ the gold chain deal (like in Miami Vice!!) :)

Here's a link to our pic. you tell me..

http://photos.yahoo.com/micheylachristine

We have eliminated the mustache.

Lilly, those pictures are great! Wow, someone is a really really good photographer. The one of you in the soft light by the window is so nice - the lighting is great.

Naw, your OM is too kind looking to look like a pimp, lol. But, he doesn't look like your father either....I guess I see couples through ageless glasses though. I can see how others would think one of the two since you do look really young.

You guys have such a cute family! :)

Thanks Cabinfever. That's nice to hear. :)

Lilly beautifull family.... He does not look like your father! :) Enjoy you life together, you all look great...

Much happiness to u'all! ;)

Geesh.............Don't complain about that...........with a 35 year age gap, I get grandfather / grand daughter......... I never laughed so hard in my life the first time I heard that. What an assumption to make.

Personally I think the individual that made the comment was a little twisted because I don't think close knit family members gaze across the table with silly laughter as we had........BUT......in saying that when the person arrived at our table the second time to take our order...lol......... I casually leaned over kissed my OM (the way a grand daughter WOULD NOT) and looked at the waitress with just a small smile and said "Boyfriend"..........After we helped her pick her jaw up off the ground, she took the order and we carried on with our evening. (Her face was quite red and we were smiling!)

You will give up some of the best things in life if you worry about what other people think about your choices.

i do know the feeling. my om is 25 years older than me. just the other day we went out to eat and the lady taking our order asked me if i wanted to have the same thing my father was having :rolleyes: . it was quite funny actually. we told her that i wasn't his daughter, but before we could say that we were dating she popped off and said "well you guys aren't dating are you?"

i thought to myself, my god how rude can you get. it was certainly none of her business. but she felt awful after she found out the truth; she was also quite embarassed. :o

but.. we got part of our meal for free ;)

Well my ex and I were sometimes mistaken for father/daughter - we just laughed and I learned to tease him when he'd tell me to do something by saying "Yes Daddy!" He was 34 years older - I was 21 and he was 55 when I lost him. However, I've also been mistaken for being my dad's wife! I don't know why... maybe b/c we were out alone without my stepmom- so who knows! and who cares...

when i was with my OW we went one time to a pier to watch the sunset, we sat on a bench cuddled and everthing and sweet kisses every now and then.Well after it was dark we left to go back home and this loud rude lady said are you guys done go get a room . and then she rambled on a mother and son shouldn't be doing things like that blah blah blah. Well I finally butted in and said mam we're an older woman younger man couple and in love what's the matter need to get some . sorry i'm taken. and with that she was at a loss for words. We went to the car and went home.

Heh, heh heh...

My OM is 41, but looks a bit older, having gone grey a few years back. (Rrrrowr.) Me, I'm 23 and still occasionally get mistaken for a high school student. The stares and remarks we get did make me a little uncomfortable, at first, but I'm learning to let it roll off my back. Taking a cue from my beau, I've even managed to find some humor in it.

Last weekend, we were out to dinner for our anniversary. We went to a lovely little place with a live band that takes requests for special occasions--so we requested a song, and proceeded to gaze all doe-eyed at each other across the table while it played. At one point, he glanced over my shoulder at the table behind me, then smiled at me wryly. I didn't turn to look, knowing exactly what I'd see if I did. So he leaned over the table, grinned wider, and whispered, "Quick! Kiss me while they're staring."

I love my life.

Lilly you have a beautiful family, and ummmm, is it me or does your hubby look like an ex football player???? LOL

I don't know for us personally. We're not far enough apart for that to be possible (about 12 1/2 years), but do people think that we could be? Hard to say. I've had a couple guys online say "oh I thought that was your father," which I always have a hard time accepting because my boyfriend looks very young (except for some prematurely grey hair) and I think some of them are lashing out because they went a cybersex partner and I won't do it. In real life, though, no one has ever given us a funny look that I've seen, so hopefully they don't think that. If they do, it's ultimately their issue and doesn't effect me.

~Crysania

Lilly you have a beautiful family, and ummmm, is it me or does your hubby look like an ex football player???? LOL
Thanks packrat. Close enough - After all these years he's still the talk of his town. He is 6'4" and like 300lbs which is good for me b/c I am 5'9" and it takes a big man to make me feel fragile!!

Lily,

The thought that came to mind when I viewed your pictures was...

What a beautiful family, what a happy family and it's so easy to see that Lily and her beau are in love.

What a beautiful gift your baby will be to his/her 3 siblings.

God bless.


Shad.

Lilly, your family is beautiful :)

I am 18, my OM is 53, and we haven't yet gotten the father/daughter line...I'm actually eager to see it come up, just for the humor factor. I don't worry too much about it though - with my ex, we had a lot of stupid comments about our religious differences, and I learned to laugh off things like this. He is not very into public displays of affection, but the way we talk and look at each other when we are out is, I think, definitely not reflective of a father/daughter relationship. Maybe that's why we haven't gotten any strange questions yet. I think I do resemble his youngest daughter, from the pictures I've seen, but I haven't met her yet.