jegsoccerchk555
04-10-2006, 01:48 PM
I am 19 and I am dating a guy who just turned 29. he is everything that I love in a man, and for me, age is nothing but a number. I have a little problem...my parents like to meet the man I am dating, and I am a little nervous because if he tells them his age, they might flip out or they won't want me to continue to date him because of the age difference.
I know I am old enough to make my own choices, but should I go with my heart and continue to date him even though my parents may not approve? Or should I just wait a long time before he meets the folks?
I am stuck and need some advice!!
SummerBob
04-10-2006, 02:43 PM
I'm really sorry to hear that some people torment over such miniscule age differences. I've never dated anyone less than 10 years apart from my age. When I was 28 I met an 18-year old through a personals column and her parents wanted me to marry her more than she did. Two years later I met a 20-year old. At 30, I was exactly halfway between her and her mom, who was 40. No problem. Not even a mention about age!
At 33 I started writing young women in the Philippines where it is not unheard of for a girl of 20 to marry a man in his 50s. I was 36 and my wife 21 when we married, and three of our best friends are couples who are 24 to 30 years apart. None of us had any problem with the families in the Philippines. So you can see why 10 years seems small to me.
So I guess, tell them. It won't hurt. You never know, you might be pleasantly surprised.
YoungNCurious
04-10-2006, 02:53 PM
If it were me in your situation...frankly you both are adults with not too great of age difference....so it's not as if you have something to hide. We all sometimes get discouraged in our lives about things especially when it comes to sharing our relationships with our parents because we are always in constant search of their approval.
You are old enough now in life that you have to start making decisions that make "YOU" (not your OM, friends, your parents) happy regardless of what anyone thinks, esp..your parents......and you are their daughter so they will eventually have to learn to come to this understanding....and thus hopefully be the kind of parents to continue to love you no matter what.
You will respect them by being able to respect yourself not only as an individual but also as an adult.
I think you should talk to your OM and if "he" is ready.....not just you of course..... has the desire to meet your parents, then be proud my friend.....
Stand up and be the bold woman that you are and face them in confidence.
angelus
04-10-2006, 06:16 PM
So you can see why 10 years seems small to me.
17 seems like a much bigger gap, but that is the situation I am in. Is it as large gap as I think it is?
yellowrose
04-10-2006, 07:06 PM
How long have you two been dating? Do you still live at home? Are they paying for your college? :confused:
