help!

Hey guys,
I used to post on here a while ago when I was in the middle of getting into my
OM/YW relationship, and thank god for the advice I got.

Now 2 1/2 years down the road, i've come to a rut.

My OM has serious anger / argue issues from his past, and its really been putting some big dampers in our relationship. To the point where we have lately just said it is over.

I have talked to him about his problems, and he admits he has them. But his answer is always basically to walk away from the problem rather than to face it.
I'm not trying to say i'm perfect but I know that my issues are not relationship ending. His are. And he keeps saying 'why is this happening to me again, why am I fighting like this again". I try to help him look in the mirror, but it backfires.

I have tried for so long.... all my friends who were very supportive before are now telling me that he needs to find himself before we can even try to be together again.

I dont want to let this all go, but i'm at the point where this is not worth it anymore..... its hurts so much but what should I do??

any advice? similar situations?

Hey Cheetah Welcome back...

I do believe I remember you!!!!

Personally I have not been in your shoes... HOWEVER I had anger issues that I had to deal with... My boyfriend died 7 years ago and I had gone thru some really heavy stuff... and I was angry at the world..... First I couldn't see it.. I just was in denial etc... then I realized that I was out of control.. I personally saw a therapist to help me get to the source of my anger and conquer it.....

I don't know if your OM is holding onto something that is making him angry.. but something has to be triggering this.... I honestly think the best thing to do is talk to him... try and help him and get to the root of the problem... Hopefully he's open enough to try and fix this... But unfortunatly if he's still in denial and doesn't want to help himself you can't force him either...... You can only take a horse to water but you can't make him drink..... After that YOu need to decide whether or not this is what YOU want... can you deal with this everyday? Do you want to lve like that? IS it getting worse and worse? Sometimes Love just isn't enough... both parties need to work at a relationship 100%....

Keep us posted ok.. and best of luck I wish you the VERY best