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I am a 35 y/o BF in a 20 mos. relationship with a 22 y/o BM. We are coming up on the two year mark and I am really questioning the commitment to this relationship. I have two sons, ages 10 and 14. I have been divorced for 7 years. I met my boyfriend two weeks shy of his 21st birthday. Started as a sex thing and then developed into a full blown relationship. We have met each other's families, he is at my house most of the time, though maintains his own place. We have purchased a car together (eek!!!). My concern is that he is missing out on the best years of his life by being so settled at such a young age. He is very street smart, on probation for drug charges, is a licensed barber and works two jobs, no kids of his own.

I would appreciate any and all feedback/questions/concerns.

Thanks!!

Welcome!

My concern is that he is missing out on the best years of his life by being so settled at such a young age.

That is his business. Don't create problems. Maybe he considers his time with you the best way to spend those years. If you feel insecure about it, have a talk with him to define your relationship goals. Otherwise, it sounds like you have a GREAT relationship (except for the drug thingy). So, congratulations! Enjoy yourself. :)

Thanks Patricia,

I think he has learned his lesson with the drug thingy and our relationship really does work well. You are right, I could be creating problems. I have expressed my concerns to him and he has told me that I'll be rid of him only on my deathbed (how sweet).

I'm going to try to relax and enjoy.