visiting but still reticent....

Whew...okay...I am new to this and awed by my happiness..however I'm still holding a little something back. From me. I am 57 and he is 37. I am a so called "young looking" woman. I have a career..I have a son who is 17.
I am recently by my own decision separated from a 17 year marriage to a nice man my own age. I am now deeply involved with a YM who loves me and who (and here I struggle for the right words) who is loving me with care and intensity and consideration and declarations physically, socially, and even with his open accepting parents...loving me with everything in his beautiful soul..and yet I still have reservations. Soon I will be older older. We age faster physically now. Yes I am deeply concerned with body and yes I am far less than lovely without my clothes but he says he doesn't care. He says he has never felt so much in love and so good.
Together we have that "blue light". We don't argue..we have the same adventurist spiirit (we are avid motorcyclists) we are like "velcro" loving, affectionate and turned on all the time. He is wise, understanding and open. He showers me with kisses on the mornings we wake together. He calls morning and night when we are apart. We talk for hours and hold each other constantly when we are together. He cooks and cleans with me///fixes things and and I want only for his happiness. My god..even his mother loves me!
So what is wrong? I just cannot believe this can be. I am mostly concerned with body image. At 57 I do sag. Tall and slender though I am...strong and bright..and adventurous...I need to understand..how can such a lovely young man be so much in love with me...and more important...can it last past the next few years? 60 looms in my future. 60...and yet he loves. And despite my reservations..so do I.
Mystifying because I know my trepidation comes from conditioning. All our friends are open and accepting. I so don't want him to wake up one morning and say...Yikes..what am I doing her with this old lady?
He calls me dancing flame...I know I burn.. I know I am different from many women my own age...but I know many things and so I seek here some reality checking. Is opening myslelf to the love of this sweet passionate person as risky as hurtling along the highway on my motorycle at great speed and for long distance the same?
Rhetorical and metaphorical question...but fair too.
What....am..I ...going..to..do..?
Ah yes, I am dancing flame.

What is wrong with enjoying what you have for as long as you have it?

You have all of the signs of a successful age gap relationship - all signs say "GO!"

Did you read "The Old Body Thing" thread in Sexually Speaking? It's what helped me immensely!

Here:
http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?t=291

Just enjoy your lovely younger man!

I too am dating a YM and he is wonderful. He is 29 and Im 39. I too just got divorced after 17 years of marriage. I look alot younger and no one thinks there is a big gap in our age. He makes me feel so young and needed. We have so much fun. He is also good with my children who are 5 and 11years. I too have reservations, I cant see why a gorgeous younger man wants me, but he tells me all the time that I am everything he wants and he knows that I am the one for him. I completely understand how you feel, when you worry about sagging and age difference. But please enjoy, I believe he cares deeply for you, relax and let nature take its course.

Lesa :)

I relate so much to what you have described. I am a little younger-35 and he is 22, but still feel like one day he will wake up and want a young hottie. He thinks I am hot, which blows me away. We are so in love...so into each other...so attached. He has learned to accept and even adore my three kids, as much as a burden as it is at his young age...he is greatful to be with me. We have helped each other through difficult times in both our lives. We cannot let go of each other, even though logic tells us maybe we should. When you have that connection...you just do. I still find it hard to imagine myself with him 10 years down the line-will he still think I am hot then? I know he will be. But...we cannot imagine life at this point without each other....so how many years do we spend (already over 1 1/2) having fun? enjoying each day as it comes (we do!). At times I am just greatful for the time we have together, other times-hopeful that I can make everything "work perfectly forever" and other times doubting and wondering if I should try to find someone who is more in "my stage" of life, who can actually look to the future (like I do -unfortunately too much, I think)-but alas....I cannot let go-I love hime too much and am addicted to the passion that I never had in 15 years of marriage to a man who will always be my friend, but not my soulmate.

Dear Dancing Flame,

I read your post and through your words, felt your hesitations about body image, age, etc. I am 59, active, fit, "feel 39" [whatever that means], and have had a relationship with a younger man. I would like to say to you that love does not always come to us, in the way our society finds appropriate. Love is precious, and think of how precious your life is knowing this person. It is a gift. You deserve it!

sounds like he loves you which includes your body................ why the preoccupation with the future? Did your 17 year marriage last? I guess it is more about the fear of 'Yikes..what am I doing here with this old lady?'

I'm 57 and he's 26, 4 years together and our love is deeper every day. He sees me, who I am.............can't ask for more than that in this world, to be truely seen for who you are. You sound like a joyous soul............enjoy

Cheers

Carol