bijou
05-10-2006, 04:08 PM
I've been a silent participator on this board for a while. When I first discovered it, I spent ages reading over old posts and new posts and feeling amazed that familiar issues were so commonly experienced. It's been a great source of support. In fact, reading about the number of happy people with similar age differences in their relationships has made me much more comfortable about being demonstrative in public and much less affected by any looks we might get.
I am 50 - 51 this June - and in a relationship with a wonderful young man, Rocco, who is 30. We have been together for two years and are very happy. He moved in with me in November and we have become even closer.
We met on an online dating site. He pursued me for a while wearing down my doubts, because while I had dated younger men before, he really seemed too young. We met for a drink and I really liked him - lots of laughing, fast moving conversation, flirting - but I still thought he was too young. He persevered and I chose the right moment to give in and we've been crazy about one another ever since.
I have a son who is 12 and I have never wanted to introduce anyone into his life if I wasn't certain they were significant, likely to be around for a while and able to have a relationship with him. Rocco didn't meet him until we'd been together for about 6 months. My son really likes him and was delighted when he moved in. Their relationship is a joy to me.
I've had three spouses in my life before Rocco and have never been so happy in a relationship. Much of the time, it feels like a vacation from reality when we're together: we're always laughing, kissing, staying up late talking, having fun and enjoying one another. But we've also helped one another through some difficult times and have a very strong, very solid bond that goes beyond the laughing and the sex (not that the sex isn't amazing in itself).
I have usually found younger men who are into older women to be somewhat unconventional in other ways, which is, I think, what makes for the connection for me.
Whatever the reason, it works, I'm happy and although I occasionally wonder just how I got so lucky, life is sweet.
I am 50 - 51 this June - and in a relationship with a wonderful young man, Rocco, who is 30. We have been together for two years and are very happy. He moved in with me in November and we have become even closer.
We met on an online dating site. He pursued me for a while wearing down my doubts, because while I had dated younger men before, he really seemed too young. We met for a drink and I really liked him - lots of laughing, fast moving conversation, flirting - but I still thought he was too young. He persevered and I chose the right moment to give in and we've been crazy about one another ever since.
I have a son who is 12 and I have never wanted to introduce anyone into his life if I wasn't certain they were significant, likely to be around for a while and able to have a relationship with him. Rocco didn't meet him until we'd been together for about 6 months. My son really likes him and was delighted when he moved in. Their relationship is a joy to me.
I've had three spouses in my life before Rocco and have never been so happy in a relationship. Much of the time, it feels like a vacation from reality when we're together: we're always laughing, kissing, staying up late talking, having fun and enjoying one another. But we've also helped one another through some difficult times and have a very strong, very solid bond that goes beyond the laughing and the sex (not that the sex isn't amazing in itself).
I have usually found younger men who are into older women to be somewhat unconventional in other ways, which is, I think, what makes for the connection for me.
Whatever the reason, it works, I'm happy and although I occasionally wonder just how I got so lucky, life is sweet.