Don't we have people in LTRS????

C'mon guys I know we are out there!!!!!

me, you and kristin. no one will post here for some reason.

4 months yesterday!!!!!


that is SO not long-term but i'll be an honorary member!!!! :D

4 months yesterday!!!!!


that is SO not long-term but i'll be an honorary member!!!! :D
yaaaayyyy, wooohhhooooo!

4 months yesterday!!!!!


that is SO not long-term but i'll be an honorary member!!!! :D


YEP definatly!!!! :)


Kinda I dunno.... I think it's just us in LTRs then WHERE IS DAN ECHO!!!!

Going on 2 years international long distance, but only 56 days together in real life. Boo-hooooo!! :(
But we're trying to get there! Please keep posting, all you long-termers...you're my inspiration!

2 years here, 4 months living together. I know he loves me, and I love him, but somehow I feel that AGRs are fragile. I do not know when I will overcome this.

Yeah I knew you guys were around!!!!!!!!

C'mon guys there has to be more of our success stories!!!!

okay 2 years 3 months--does that qualify? not long distance, but we don't live together (except on weekends). both our houses are too small for 2 full time people--but, next year, if i get tenure, I'll probably buy something bigger and then the plan is to spend more time together

i'm with sheila tho--even though you know he loves you and vice versa, the relationship always feels fragile

One year in a LDR but we've know eachother much longer.

It'll be 2 years in July for us. We've lived together practically since the first month - even though we had seperate residences we were inseperable and slept together just about every night. We officially moved in together 1 year ago almost to the day!:D

I don't feel that our relationship is fragile at all. As a matter of fact, it's probably the most secure and comfortable and loved I've ever felt in a relationship in my life. Maybe living together helps with that fragile feeling? I dunno. :confused:

This is what I want to see!!

My husband and I have been together for 5 years married for 3 in August :)

we have been married for...*drum roll*.....13 years. our anniversary is in july. we dated a long time before we were married. i will add that we are very happy together:D

Yeah, we're here, Mer. But some us never come to the bottom of the page!! :p

If we're long-term, chances are we're happy and don't have any big issues to discuss.:D

Yeah, we're here, Mer. But some us never come to the bottom of the page!! :p

If we're long-term, chances are we're happy and don't have any big issues to discuss.:D
good points Peachy. i think thats true. as far as big issues, we hardly ever have anything like that to discuss...

Yep, gotta agree with Peachy on this one, too.

Only thing I've had a problem with is prolly the same in all LTRs - keeping it fresh and exciting for him/us! :p

Yeah, we're here, Mer. But some us never come to the bottom of the page!! :p

If we're long-term, chances are we're happy and don't have any big issues to discuss.:D


Oh I agree....maybe we should try and come up with Ideas for us to just boast about our happiness and help when maybe things are not so good :)

Any Ideas???

Well, we've been together for about 9 months now.

Yep, all is good - better than any relationship I could have imagined. Things are still pretty exciting for us too :D , so no problems there. But we don't live together (except on weekends) so I think that keeps it fresh.

Well...Alec and I have been together for 1 year and 3 months....and we've lived together for 10 months....so does that count as Long Term?

*grin* All's quiet on the western front.

Nadine.

We have been together 5 years, living together for 2.

We have been together 5 years, living together for 2.

TERI!!!!! You're still here . . . I was just thinking about you and Steve the other day. Hope all is well with you two! :D

Well...Alec and I have been together for 1 year and 3 months....and we've lived together for 10 months....so does that count as Long Term?

*grin* All's quiet on the western front.

Nadine.

Definatly counts as long term.. You and Alec seem very strong!

Definatly counts as long term.. You and Alec seem very strong!

Thanks hun! We just take it one day at a time. *grin*

Nadine.

Well, it's official - we're ENGAGED! :D We got my ring today!! WhooHoo! :cool:

Woohoo congrats...

Well, it's official - we're ENGAGED! :D We got my ring today!! WhooHoo! :cool:
CONGRATULATIONS KRISTEN!!!!!!!!

HOW WONDERFUL

Congratulations Kristin! Well, don't keep us hanging . . . when's the date . . . what kind of wedding . . . we want details!! :p

Marcy -

Worry about the here and now - not what "was."

Long term is whatever anyone considers it for them personally, IMO.

And "VYM" is a personal threshhold , as well.

At 25, I don't consider Jeremy a "VYM", but I'm 38. I'm sure someone at 50 could very easily feel ANY MAN in his 20's is a "VYM."

I know I would consider Devon a VYW on the surface, but that is completely personal and situational - I don't know him and it's based on my own biases and experiences. If Jeremy were 21 I'd prolly feel differently, ya know?

So, it's a LTR if YOU think it's and LTR and he's a VYM if YOU think he's a VYM.

There! It's settled! Empirical law proclaimed by her majesty, Kristin! ROFLMAO!:D

I, for one, would consider you and Devon LTR for sure!!!

My personal view of LTR is that you've made it past the typical romance or courting or "first flush" stage (does that make sense?) and settled into a "relationship" - with all the ups and downs of "normal" relationships. You know - past the stage where the SO is "perfect" and you still can't pee in front of each other! LOL! :p

But, again - that's just for my personal definition - it will be different for everyone. So, if YOU think it's LTR, THAT'S all that matters!

Thanks for the proclimation your royal highness, and best wishes to you on your engagement. (I'm from the old school where you wish the GROOM, Congrats and the BRIDE Best wishes, but anyways, lol)

Yeah and those of us in our 50's, we try hard not to think how young the younger partners are.

Phil and I will be hitting the 3 year mark toward the end of the year. He fights with me at the furniture store about furniture for the new house, so I guess that's a long term sign.

So Mera, you be the judge. I feel like Phil's been around forever, lol.

That is weird, the quote came up BEFORE the actual quote appeared. What the heck????

I know, I'm just magical ;-)

I'll post a picture of my ring if anyone is interested, though?

Ummmmm....yeah!!!! :D

Nadine.

I don't post here because my relationship is not over 5 years old. When this section first made an appearance at AL, I distinctly recall a number of posts (here in this section) indicating that long term relationships needed to be 5+ years. Which later became kind of odd because the mods for this section were not in 5+ years relationships themselves. At any rate, it totally made me feel a bit self-conscious and I do avoid this section. I wonder if any other folks feel similiarly?

I'll be 5+ years in 2 more years and even though I'm married, I guess it doesn't feel "long term" to me under that definition. Although my guess is that when I am 5+ years the definition for a long term relationship will be 7+ years. The definition of a vym around here used to be 18 to 21 and that was recently up'd to 25... so now that Devon has made 21... he still has 4 years to go to be taken seriously in this community.

Marcy -

Worry about the here and now - not what "was."

Long term is whatever anyone considers it for them personally, IMO.

And "VYM" is a personal threshhold , as well.

At 25, I don't consider Jeremy a "VYM", but I'm 38. I'm sure someone at 50 could very easily feel ANY MAN in his 20's is a "VYM."

I know I would consider Devon a VYW on the surface, but that is completely personal and situational - I don't know him and it's based on my own biases and experiences. If Jeremy were 21 I'd prolly feel differently, ya know?

So, it's a LTR if YOU think it's and LTR and he's a VYM if YOU think he's a VYM.

There! It's settled! Empirical law proclaimed by her majesty, Kristin! ROFLMAO!:D

I, for one, would consider you and Devon LTR for sure!!!

My personal view of LTR is that you've made it past the typical romance or courting or "first flush" stage (does that make sense?) and settled into a "relationship" - with all the ups and downs of "normal" relationships. You know - past the stage where the SO is "perfect" and you still can't pee in front of each other! LOL! :p

But, again - that's just for my personal definition - it will be different for everyone. So, if YOU think it's LTR, THAT'S all that matters!

CONGRATULATIONS KRISTEN!!!!!!!!

HOW WONDERFULWoohoo congrats...Congratulations Kristin! Well, don't keep us hanging . . . when's the date . . . what kind of wedding . . . we want details!! :p


Thank you!

No plans yet! Probably after the baby is born. Legally, I have to wait 6 months, anyhow. I'll post a picture of my ring if anyone is interested, though?

:eek: :D I wanna see I wanna see I wanna see!!!

How did I miss this news!!!

I am soooooooooooooooooooooo happy Kristin!!!

YAYAYAYAYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

*CARTWHEELS THROUGH THREAD*..WEEEEEEEEE

:D I don't post here because my relationship is not over 5 years old. When this section first made an appearance at AL, I distinctly recall a number of posts (here in this section) indicating that long term relationships needed to be 5+ years. Which later became kind of odd because the mods for this section were not in 5+ years relationships themselves. At any rate, it totally made me feel a bit self-conscious and I do avoid this section. I wonder if any other folks feel similiarly?

I'll be 5+ years in 2 more years and even though I'm married, I guess it doesn't feel "long term" to me under that definition. Although my guess is that when I am 5+ years the definition for a long term relationship will be 7+ years. The definition of a vym around here used to be 18 to 21 and that was recently up'd to 25... so now that Devon has made 21... he still has 4 years to go to be taken seriously in this community.

Marcy I recall that thread.. I think it ws the one that said what do you consider a long term... but I'll tell you it varied.... Most said a year and up but I'm sure that was one perspective... but I would say yours is LTR!!! You don't have to be in an LTR Like Kristen said don't worry about that!

Hi.

I haven't been around much but have been back in the last few weeks to see what was going on, who was still around, maybe get some inspiration/support/advice . . .

YM and I are long distance (roughly Philly to NYC) and I guess long term - - three years, two months this coming Thursday (but who's counting).

I'm 47, he's 30 -

All relationships have issues, and age gap is not among our biggies. Maybe we made more other ones, or maybe neither of us sees it as an issue.

Hasan and I met online 5 1/2 years ago...have been married for 2 1/2 years...I guess that's long term. At least in this day and age of quick marriages and even quicker divorces. My first marriage lasted over 25 years....that's long term...but obviously not forever.

My lady and I are nearly to the three year mark:D :D

Can't wait for four:p

DanE

Hey again, y'all. I lost this place for a while, when it went down for a short time. D. and I have been together one year next month, but I definately consider us long-term. And hey- for those of you who remember me- we are pregnant! :D Finally!!!
I'm looking foward to catching up with everyone!

Hey again, y'all. I lost this place for a while, when it went down for a short time. D. and I have been together one year next month, but I definately consider us long-term. And hey- for those of you who remember me- we are pregnant! :D Finally!!!
I'm looking foward to catching up with everyone!
I remember! I actually remember your stories about your boyfriend's crazy ex wife. Sounds like you guys are doing much better! And congrats on the baby!

married two years next monday! together over four, my marriage is sacred if i have a personal issue i would never blab it over the internet, we are not perfect but i am in love and so is he and i realize that is more than enough for me.


adam 26 and me 47

I remember! I actually remember your stories about your boyfriend's crazy ex wife. Sounds like you guys are doing much better! And congrats on the baby!

LOL. Yep- That's us! She is still crazy as a loon, and getting more so every day... but we have since moved a couple hours north of her so at least she can't harrass us in person!

I knew there were more than just a few of us!!!

LJ WELCOME BACK AND CONGRATS TO YOU AND YOUR HUBBY ON A NEW BUNDLE OF JOY!!

married two years next monday! together over four, my marriage is sacred if i have a personal issue i would never blab it over the internet, we are not perfect but i am in love and so is he and i realize that is more than enough for me.

ditto that. we're here. Together 3 years, married a year and a half next Tuesday. More in love with each passing day. :)

Well, of course I am still here...

James and I have been together now for (counts on fingers)...5-1/2 years, minus a couple breaks in there of a few months at a time. No breakups in the past...two or three years..can't remember.

Our relationship has changed so much from when I first arrived on this website. I NEVER in a million years would have guessed how good things would end up being once everyone around me "got used to" the idea of me dating someone younger and accepted the relationship. Everything is like a gazillion times better... I honestly don't think we would have made it if I hadn't found this site, and people who had successful relationships, and who gave me such great encouragement and support.

There are so many of you on here in LTRs that I have had the joy of knowing for years now, and reading about the good times and the hard times in your relationships...read along as you married, bought houses together, had babies...

Just wanted to let you know I really value this site and the things I have been able to learn from you all and that you have shared....I'm honestly honored to share this site with such a great group of people.

Well, after a VERY rocky road as far as life issues and a 6-month break-up during which Robin slept with an ex-friend of mine and lied about it, we are back together (with our friends' and families' blessings) and in couples therapy. We are approaching 7 years together (except for the break up).

It is absolutely AMAZING what counseling can do! Our relationship is so much better now, and at a level I don't believe either of us ever even imagined existed! We are learning things about eachother that were formed in childhood and paved the way for dysfunctional behavior which triggered a negative response from the other person, among other things. We have a newly formed trust and intimacy that exceeds anything we had before. It is humbling and awesome.

We planted a garden together and have taken great joy in watching it grow. It's kind of metaphoric of our relationship. We're weeding out the bad and harvesting the good.

I'm glad I gave this another shot and gladder still we took it to a professional to help us sort out 7 years of junk. I believe we have a really bright future together to look forward to...all in the name of love. :)

Okay, your beginning paragraph still makes my tummy feel sick...the ex-friend part BUT

I'm so glad y'all are getting some counseling and that you are actually are BOTH getting something out of it. I know when I did marriage counseling...my ex was only there because I made him, and he looked annoyed the entire time we were there, checking his watch, looking out the window...couldn't wait for it to be over.

It sounds like you are both going and listening and contributing and really getting something from it.

Sometimes relationships are just hard, period. And hey, if I could just choose who I loved, I would have fallen in love with a multimillionaire brain surgeon whose entire goal in life was to make me happy and said "yes dear" a lot. But hey, I didn't, and now we have to work through things.

James and I had to work through something like this three or so years ago...We had broken up for three or four months, only I was the one who slept with someone else. I didn't lie about it, but I did do it..and it did some serious damage to what we had. In the end he was the one who started counseling first...

People CAN change, but they have to want to..and relationship dyamics can change if you identify the problem and your both work to fix it. It sounds like your both willing to put in the time and energy in tending your garden, so to speak...

Sooo..I wish you and Robin all the best Polly, and it sounds like you have some real positive stuff going on. I'm glad your happy... :)

Glad to hear you are in a good place and it is very good to see you back here. If the things we wanted were easy to come by and keep, then we would not be so keenly aware of their value. Huzzah to you and your guy for the bravery of counseling and the commitment to find the value in your relationship.

Thanks guys!:) I know people have mixed feelings about Robin's and my reconciliation, but from my standpoint, trying one more time, with professional help, couldn't hurt. I mean, if we don't make it, the world won't end. Life will go on, I will be productive, and eventually, I'm sure I'll meet someone else, as will Robin. The thing is, we both very much want this to work, we see that what we have is so very special and exceeds anything either of us experienced with someone else, and we don't want to give it up without a good fight. It feels completely right to be doing this.

Robin is so into counseling it's obnoxious! He talks ALL THE TIME, he won't shut up, the counselor has to politely remind him to let me talk or to let her ask me something. There's something very attractive about someone who wants to fix themselves. We're bringing the kids in next week...that should be a real interesting hour!

I wrote a friend of mine that just the other night, I woke up around 4 a.m., and put my arm around Robin's chest. He sighed contentedly and said, "This is exactly where I want to be." and then he kissed me. I felt this warm rush of happiness just wash over me. It was one of those moments that you hold your breath, because you want to savor every second of it. We've had a lot of moments like that lately, and I think one of the reasons is because we're learning to appreciate eachother again, like we did way back in the beginning of our relationship. We have this golden opportunity to put things right, and we're so grateful for that, we're not taking anything for granted.

It's a shame that it took a seperation to get us here, but we're here now, and we're running with it.

BTW Marcy, anyone who is MARRIED (such as yourself) is considered to be in a LTR because it's not like marriages come with expected expiration dates! :D It's "'Til death do you part"...that's pretty much long term to me! *Polly looks skyward as she still waits for an engagement ring* If it takes him this long to give me a ring, I won't be married until I'm 60! Hey, we probably won't have the money for it until then anyway. :D

We've been married for almost five years and together for close to six. Our relationship just keeps getting better and better. There are 26 years between us, and we still don't really notice the age gap.

Polly, it looks like good things are happening for you and Robin, and I hope that that continues. It seems as though your relationship has had some challenges, but it also seems that you are both doing your best to work through things and make the relationship go the distance. In the end, all relationships require work and dedication, especially through the tough times. In fact it is the tough times in which we must love our partner the most; its easy to love when things are smooth. And so a big thumbs up to both of you.


Whisper I know what you mean about not noticing the age difference, because I sure don't notice it with my lady. What makes a person special really has nothing to do with age anyway.

My best to all,

DanE

We've been married for almost five years and together for close to six. Our relationship just keeps getting better and better. There are 26 years between us, and we still don't really notice the age gap.

Whisper, this really gives me hope! I'm saving your post to reread anytime my own age gap fears get me down...we also have a 26-year gap and sometimes it really scares me. But we're going on 2 years together now, and getting better and stronger as we go forward. :)

We've been married for almost five years and together for close to six. Our relationship just keeps getting better and better. There are 26 years between us, and we still don't really notice the age gap.

Mell!!!!! It's so great to see you . . . I hope all is going well with you! :)

Bob and I have been a part of each other's lives for 4 1/2 years now. :)

He and I met online in December 2001 and chatted and talked on the phone for the next 14 months. We seperated in April 2003, got back together little by little starting June-October of that year, and finally met in person in June 2004.

Since then we have been together (from 5 days to 14 days) 9 times and our next time together is coming up soon.

Whisper I know what you mean about not noticing the age difference, because I sure don't notice it with my lady. What makes a person special really has nothing to do with age anyway.



That is so true, Rose Knight.

Faith, I am 53, and my husband will be 27 this month. You and I are almost the same age, and my husband and your boyfriend (husband?) are almost the same age.

Peachy, it's great to see you, too. :)

Our 2 years annivarsary is tomorrow!!

Never been happier!!

PS. Mel - awesome to see you here! :cool:

Polly, " I woke up around 4 a.m., and put my arm around Robin's chest. He sighed contentedly and said, "This is exactly where I want to be." and then he kissed me. I felt this warm rush of happiness just wash over me. It was one of those moments that you hold your breath, because you want to savor every second of it."

That is SO SWEET!! I'm glad you gave it another chance.

5 months TODAY!!! woo hoo dangit :cool:

Yay for anniversaries!

I don't get one until January! :mad:

If we're long-term, chances are we're happy and don't have any big issues to discuss.
True, you usually don't hear much from the happy couples on forum like this. Which is really a shame. We should be sharing our stories of success and encouragement all day long!

We have been married 4 years and are still in love.

We will have our first year anniversary on the 22th of July :D

I don't know if that counts for long term, but we are certainly aiming for long term... :D

we have been married for...*drum roll*.....13 years. our anniversary is in july. we dated a long time before we were married. i will add that we are very happy together:D



Just had our 13 anniversary the other day YEEEEHHHAAAWWW what a blast we had a big party (just us of course) and it was FANTASTIC. Today is my brithday and we had another big party ( just us of course) and I can't wait for the kids to go to bed WOOHOOOOO:p :D
Older women know how to ROCK YOUR WORLD!

March 2006, was our third anniversary of when we became a couple. We have been married just a little over six months. We married January 4, 2006. It was pretty cool to have our six month wedding anniversary on the 4th of July! We pretended the fireworks were just for us. ~lol~

We pretended the fireworks were just for us. ~lol~

~smile~ as they should have been ;)

Hey Red's Daisy, I'll bet you two make your own fireworks anyway! :D

Congrats on the six months! :)