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Help!!
When i met a man, 42, and we started seeing each other. At the time we were working together and things were brilliant. Then he went away and things seemed to cool off, he said the age thing was a problem.

Well, three years have passed and i still haven't been able to get this man out of my system.

He phones me every Christmas, we go out together for a drink, nothing has changed - he still looks at me as though i'm his world - he's even said as much, saying that if he was younger he'd be with me every single day. He says the reasons for us to be apart are more relevant than the ones of us being together - he says he could only give me half a life with him.

It was my birthday on Tuesday and once again he phoned me, saying that we'll go out again soon.

Why can't this man either make his mind up to give things a go, or just leave me alone to get on with my life and get over him??
And why at a young age did the 'age thing' allow him to see me, yet now, at 20, i'm suddenly too young, and if i AM too young then when doesn't he just go and get someone his own age?!?!?!

I'm gong out of my mind here, the situation is so frustrating.

.......:eek:.........

Gotta be one of those guys who scams unsuspecting women and get them to send money.....

You got it Kristin!! ;)

OK, now this looks stupid because the guy deleted his post! :rolleyes:

Just to explain - we aren't talking about the OP, some guy from Africa posted on a couple of really old threads that he was "really interested" in the OP and gave his name, phone number and email address. Now he deleted it. Oops, here it is from the other thread:

Hehe.....well I'm glad you posted that Kristin, cause I was thinking "What!!!???? Poor girl is not getting a very nice welcome!" :p

Ok, so to answer the OP.....

I think that the best thing to do would be to have a heart to heart with this man and tell him how you feel, that you can't get over him as things are, that you are crazy about him but if he doesn't want a future together, then you HAVE to move on, and can't keep seeing him like this.

I'd do that, then leave it in his court....he needs to make a move on this and take that leap. I get the feeling that when you were younger, he probably thought that you would change your mind and that it was just a fling etc. Now, he probably sees that your feelings are more than that and he's being more cautious as a result.

Good luck! :)

Sorry guys that was me Deleting... Unfortunatly I'm at work and I t takes me a few minutes between customers and our computers went down!!

Unfortuntaly we can't post personal information like that and it's a personal ad so I have taken care of it...