Trying to figure out why I like it

So I'm in my early 20s, and I'm a guy. I just don't understand why I like older women. I have a girl, and she's in her early 20s, too, but sometimes, the stuff that turns me on the most about her is the fact that she's a bit softer, that she seems like she's aging a bit early, and the fact that she's got some early cellulite.

In fact, going back to my childhood, I've always been attracted to older bodies. Not old old (no offense anybody, please, this is tough enough to confess), but just older, like 40s or 50s. I've awlays been attracted to the first signs of aging - cellulite, a bit of sagging, a light weight gain, a pinch of gray hair. I think it's beautiful and sexy. I still appreciate younger, more firm bodies, but something about the older stuff is a super huge TURNON.

I want to understand why I'm like this, and if there are others. It's something that really turns me on, although I'd much rather think I like younger women in general and find them more attractive. until I joined this group, I'd joined some age progression groups online, unsure of myself. But now, here, I seem to think it's not so bad. maybe it's normal. Or kind of?

I've always wondered about butts (please, no offense.). But even younger butts. Maybe the reason guys stare at them is looking for that first jiggle of cellulite? That would mean that all guys kind of had a streak for that older woman.

Thanks for any help
Tree

you like what you like. if you like cheeseburgers AND hamburgers...that's fine, right? dangit, you like Burgers!

you like younger and you like older....that's fine, dangit, you like Women! ;)


and what is the classic cliche' of an older, distinguished, handsome man? the one that has that lil bit of gray in his temples and ...yes....Wrinkles!!!! yay wrinkles. woo. woo. lol

don't think you're weird. this is not weird. you like what you like...hey guess what? we are all the same way. :D

my best to ya!

Tracy

maybe you are as weird as all the women who like Sean Connery? did you ever think its been society that has brainwashed men to think older women are not as attractive? sure some are NOT, i am not saying being older makes you hot.

i think you are normal. maybe just a bit more honest then many other guys your age.

i never hung around young men until adam, well before we were friends one of his friends said to me, "baby's got back" to me, i guess i embarrassed the poor guy because i thought it was an insult and had to have the explanation dissected in front of a group of people, because of what he really meant, he did not explain it to me and i still thought it was an insult.

i hope things have not changed since then....its been over 5 years, now, i realize it was a compliment.

handsome or being beautiful does not always have an age limit to it!!

I agree with what the other 2 women have said. The only advice I can give is the same I've recevied myself.......

If you like something or are attracted to a certain type of person then go with it. Don't try to convince yourself that it's not how it is. Don't try to force yourself into liking this or that because society says you should. As long as it is concenting adults and they are both ok with it....how is it "wrong"?

I struggled myself with being attracted to and enjoying the friendship of younger men. Why? I'm not 100% sure. But I realize now, it's ok. There are younger men, more than I thought, that are fine with an older, full-figured woman.

So, no. I don't think you are weird and if you have read some posts here, you realize that you are NOT alone.

J.

I'm the same....I really like the look of an aged body, though I can appreciate a youthful body too.

I associate certain things with age which appeal to me...like strength, protection, character, and wisdom. I suppose youthful looks project a kind of innocent and full of enthusiasm for life. This can be really nice too.

Hence I have loved men ranging from 20 years older to 10 years younger:)

I am an OW and I think my attraction to younger men has something to do with recapturing lost innocence....like when I see youthful skin and dewy faces, it reminds me of who I once was...

I don't want to be young again myself, but I think I could stand to redevelop in some ways, and a younger man offers me the glimpse of the possibility to do such a thing.

It's very different to awaken to a face next to yours that isn't full of wrinkles and hardened emotions....it feels like freedom to me.

Variety is the spice of life my friend.

Why am I attracted to the older stuff that's normally not a turn-on. And are there women out there who would actually strive to be what I wanted? A woman my age who might try to gain a hair of weight to be what I wanted her to be? Who might actualy work for cellulite?

It's the stuff that's normally off that I find a turn-on.

There is nothing wrong with you.

What makes a girl perfect is her imperfections. You are not alone in noticing that.

Why am I attracted to the older stuff that's normally not a turn-on. And are there women out there who would actually strive to be what I wanted? A woman my age who might try to gain a hair of weight to be what I wanted her to be? Who might actualy work for cellulite?

It's the stuff that's normally off that I find a turn-on.

LOL . . . I doubt you'll find many woman who will want to look older than they are for you! :) That goes against the grain of most women's thinking.

You should talk to Joe, but he doesn't post anymore. He, too, has always been attracted to older women, but he doesn't seem to find anything attractive about most of the women his age. But, unlike you, he doesn't dwell on it or think that he's weird . . . and surprisingly enough his friends don't think he's weird for it either. Maybe because he's always been that way and they have known it from the time they have known him.

As you can tell from surfing this site, you are certainly not alone.

yes peachy is right, adam is the same way, he knows what he wants and thats it, my picture was all over afghanistan when he was deployed, to him, i am beautiful, thats all that counts.

PS, Peachy's Joe was a marine, my Adam is ranger trained and now a specialist in the army. both MEN are very attractive, i have been with my husband when women have actually stood in front of me and flirted with him, (nightclub).

they could have who they want, they want us, both seem strong enough to stand up to any scrutiny. follow your heart.

It's your interest and attraction.
It's not up to you why, but only whether you will pursue it or not.
If you do, you stand a chance to find someone who will reciprocate your interest.
If not, you will pass any oppurtunity by.

It's just freaky sometimes. For example, when I'm with my girl, some of my most turned on moments are picturing her with more cellulite, or when I find a white hair in her, or when she gets little crinkly smile lines, etc, etc.

I'm afraid to tell her...that would be SO wierd for her.

Smart man not to. I really don't think anyone else can give you a why, only yourself, but the rest of what I said holds true

It's your interest and attraction.
It's not up to you why, but only whether you will pursue it or not.
If you do, you stand a chance to find someone who will reciprocate your interest.
If not, you will pass any oppurtunity by.

It's just freaky sometimes. For example, when I'm with my girl, some of my most turned on moments are picturing her with more cellulite, or when I find a white hair in her, or when she gets little crinkly smile lines, etc, etc.

I'm afraid to tell her...that would be SO wierd for her.

It could be that you simply like a certain body type and appearance and it has less to do with age than a look and what that look represents to you.

I'd like to point out that you mention "cellulite" a couple of times and cellulite has nothing to do with age. It is a dimpling of the skin and it can be genetic or particular to certain body types and races. It also is not necessarily related to weight gain either. You could be thin and have cellulite. You can be heavy and not have cellulite. This condition is more specific to post-pubescent females. Rare in males, unless they have some sort of hormonal imbalance. So please don't equate cellulite with older age and therefore older women, because one has nothing to do with the other.

I am a 47 year old woman and I have no more cellulite now than I did when I was 21.

Wrinkles are also not necessarily a function of age either. Some people have the sort of skin that appears more creased than other. This also is related to genetics and racial background as well. Those with Asian and African blood tend to have less wrinkling of the skin as they age chronologically than Caucasian, for example. But there are also certain pockets of Caucasian races that seem to have a high percentage of smooth skin even in older age. Things like over-exposure to the sun, smoking, and dehydration can also increase the likelihood of wrinkles.

The thing that bothers me about your comments is that they are not really based on fact but your stereo-typed ideas of how "older women" look. You see some of these "features" on your same age GF and you somehow attribute it to features of an older woman, when it's not the case at all. She is your age and she has these features. Are you then going to use the same logic and say if you ran across a woman who is say age 40 and has very little wrinkles, no cellulite, a great figure with little excess weight, and has the physical features one might typically attribute to a younger woman, you would NOT be attracted to her? If that is the case, then you are NOT attracted to older women, you are attracted to a certain body type and appearance.

I believe that being attracted to older women has more to do with an interest in what she can bring to the table emotionally and intellectually than her physical appearance.

I believe that being attracted to older women has more to do with an interest in what she can bring to the table emotionally and intellectually than her physical appearance.

HEAR!! HEAR!! :D

You know, I'm sitting here trying to understand WHY he is trying to understand why he is attracted to a certain kind of woman.:confused:

We all have different tastes, whether it be in food, hairstyles, clothing, cars, whatever . . . that's why there are so many choices in this world. And do we sit around and try to understand why we like steak and not fish, or long hair versus short hair, or Lexus instead of Kia?? I don't think so.

So, why would we sit around the try to understand why we are attracted to certain people and not others??

As long as a person knows what they like and they are happy with what they like, then just go with the flow! :rolleyes:
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I wouldn't worry why you are that way. Sometimes it has something to do with when we were very young... probably something innocent. But this makes you unique and in a good way.

Just remember there is more to a lasting relationship than looks. One must connect emotionally, personality, and value systems as well. So if you and your girlfriend connect otherwise and have fun together, I wouldn't worry about it! :)
PS... don't tell her that you like those things about her unless she hates those things about her. ;)