Whom should I date ???

I’m a female student and I am seriously confused about my sexuality. I spend most of my social life getting drunk, so that I don’t have to face this problem. I have dated guys, but I never get very close to them. Girls make me feel safe and I can relate better to them. I may sound like I am straight and they are just best friend, but I recently met a girl at university and took an instant liking to her and dated her a few times –that’s different to the way I feel about my other mater; I just want to be near her. I’d love to tell her about my feelings, but I don’t know her well enough and she can blab to other and made my life a misery.

Should I date men only, am I straight?

Kate Jones

Going out with a female friend is different (I suppose) from dating a female friend. Did she know you and her were "dating"? I have a great friend I go out with and we enjoy each other's company and conversation but we are FAR from liking women.
If a girl friend of mine thought that going to the movies with me was a date, I would flip out.

I dunno whom you should date. But why are you posting this in the long-term relationships forum? :confused:

Hi there...

I'm not sure who you should date.. thats a decision only you can make...However I'm not sure you realized where you posted... this forum is for couples who are in LongTerm relationships with their OM/YM or OW/YW.

However is your Love interest Older or younger than you? and How old are you and the SO?

I would like to place your post where it would get more attention but since we are an Age Gap support Community I don't know if they are older or younger than you :)

Hi there...

I'm not sure who you should date.. thats a decision only you can make...However I'm not sure you realized where you posted... this forum is for couples who are in LongTerm relationships with their OM/YM or OW/YW.

However is your Love interest Older or younger than you? and How old are you and the SO?

I would like to place your post where it would get more attention but since we are an Age Gap support Community I don't know if they are older or younger than you :)
Ageless needs to open an OT/YT section* to put posts like this.

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*Older troll/ Younger troll

Your probably right!!

Have you ever had a lesbian relationship - encounter before?

Hello Jonekate, and welcome to Ageless.

Others have observed that we are an age gap relationship forum and that this is the LTR section. True enough, but the question you posed is still here awaiting responses, so until it is moved to a new home, I would like to offer you my thoughts.

Rather than concerning myself with your orientation, I would ask you if perhaps you have a fear of dating men, but feel safe with women because they're familiar to you. You are, after all, a lady, so of course you will relate better to women than to men. It is only natural. If you have spent most of your social life drunk to avoid the question, then you probably have little in the way experience with men on a level that would answer your question.

If you really want to know if gents are for you or not, you need to first decide what it is you want from a gent. If you don't know what you're expecting, then you will have a hard time finding it. If you can determine that, then you need to try and meet men who fall into the general category of what you're expecting. If you don't know what you're after, then you won't be able to tell a gent what you want, or why he may or may not be pleasing you. On the other hand, if you know what you want, then you can tell him, and if he is truly interested in a meaningful relationship with you, he will try to see you through in what you ask.

Guys or gals, I can't make that call for you, but everything I just stated above applies to any relationship you will seek, regardless of the gender. In this seeking of answers, I also suggest that you keep from being drunk most of the time; it is difficult to evaluate people when you're drunk, regardless of gender.

Hope that what I have said is of help to you,

DanE

I spend most of my social life getting drunkSee your campus counselor and talk about the drinking first. You can't get anywhere until that is dealt with.
Then let the counselor know that you are confused about your sexuality.

I think you sound really lonely (unless you are a troll). (But trolls need love too!).
Good luck with everything! :)

am i the only one that feels like this thread was created by a troll?

Mano, don't take the word Troll in vain :eek:
Trolls are cute! ;)

http://amysrobot.com/files/trolls.jpg

Dear Kate

I think you should date girls and invite me along to observe and make sure it is the right thing to do.

TH

Dear Kate

I think you should date girls and invite me along to observe and make sure it is the right thing to do.

TH

Remember this is Support and not Sexually speaking :)

;)

am i the only one that feels like this thread was created by a troll?

No, you're not.

RK