At the end of the day yesterday, I treated myself to a manicure. The technician, who looked like a kid but stated she was 29, started telling me that her fiance was three years younger. I said "My ex husband was a few years younger than me, but that's nothing, I had a b/f for a few years who was 20 something years younger than me."
With that, she stared at me for a minute, and then she shyly confessed that when she was 25 she had an 18 year old b/f. She told me all the pitfalls involved with dating a man "that young." It was pretty cute. I just smiled and commissurated when necessary. When I left, she said, "Our conversation was the best I've had today!"
It's getting to be pretty funny out there in the world when we resonate with much younger women, about an OW/YM relationship!!!
Kristin 08-06-2006, 09:16 AM Cute story Kat.
Makes you think, though, how sad that even a 25 year old woman can feel weird about being an older woman in the relationship! A 25 year old man prolly wouldn't think twice about dating an 18 year old.
lencarol 08-06-2006, 10:16 AM The age difference seems much larger when so much younger. I dated a 17 year old when I was 23, but he was only a good friend. (We went to the same small religious college.) He however asked me to marry him. I just laughed, which was hurtful to him, and also hurtful that I thought it ridiculous. Now he's a Harvard man and a big success, but I didn't see it at the time. He would have been a good match for me if I had "waited", but just felt the age difference too great at the time.
I know.....I dated a 23 yr old man when I was 18 @ college.....the following year he wanted to marry me, but I said "no." To me, it seemed like my whole life was ahead of me, and he seemed like a weight around my neck at the time. Guess what? He turned out to be megasuccessful...has an apt. in Manhattan, a house in Maine, and one in the south of France.
Easy come, easy go I guess. :o
Jo-Admin 08-06-2006, 12:35 PM Kat, I hear ya there.
Last year my son dated a young lady who was 23 and he was 19. When he would mention the "age gap" I would just give him "the look".
It does seem much more significant when we are young, I totally agree. Shoot, when I was in high school as freshman I went to out to lunch a couple times with a senior and even THAT was a big deal.
And Kristin's right..a 25 year old man probably wouldn't even think about it. I still can't get my mind around the double standard that goes on there...
I have mentioned before I live in a really small town. My next door neighbor is 20 years older than his wife, two couples up the road a bit where the wife is in her 30s and the husband in his 50s, etc. But when I started dating James (I'm 14 years older) people went completely nuts on me. Suddenly people's children weren't allowed to play at my house with my children, I was called some pretty nasty names, and boy was I fodder for the gossip mill.
It just doesn't make any sense to me!
bubbleee 08-08-2006, 10:05 PM Kat,
Nice story. I got a pedicure tonight. We didn't talk about boyfriends, but the footrub was amazing!!!!!:cool:
ah, I'm getting one on Friday......can't wait!!!
Kat, I hear ya there.
Last year my son dated a young lady who was 23 and he was 19. When he would mention the "age gap" I would just give him "the look".
It does seem much more significant when we are young, I totally agree. Shoot, when I was in high school as freshman I went to out to lunch a couple times with a senior and even THAT was a big deal.
And Kristin's right..a 25 year old man probably wouldn't even think about it. I still can't get my mind around the double standard that goes on there...
I have mentioned before I live in a really small town. My next door neighbor is 20 years older than his wife, two couples up the road a bit where the wife is in her 30s and the husband in his 50s, etc. But when I started dating James (I'm 14 years older) people went completely nuts on me. Suddenly people's children weren't allowed to play at my house with my children, I was called some pretty nasty names, and boy was I fodder for the gossip mill.
It just doesn't make any sense to me!
That double standard bs ticks me off. I think it's worse in small towns like yours Jodi. My towns not quite as small but a lot of people know me and some of them don't treat me with quite the same friendliness as when I was married, or even single. I also don't get invited to a lot of get-togethers like before.
Ef 'em I say!
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