It's over for good

Hello all my friends at ageless,

This is a thread I thought I would never have to start but here we go. Late July Justin and I split up for good. It seems that he became smitten with an older women of 52 on Vancouver Island while out of town working. He claims that wasn't the reason on him breaking up with me, but the facts have spoken for themselves. I was crushed for the first couple of months which has caused me to now loose 35 lbs these past 3 1/2 months but god even I have to admit I'm a hottie now. I have moved to a more affordable place and have settled in nicely and have even mananged to find a place that I could keep my 130 lb bull dog. I have met a new guy who is younger as well but is only 7 years younger. He's fantastic and I've having the time of my life. Besides the weight loss I have changed my hair style and have went back to blonde. Went out and bought a load of new sexy outfits and feeling the best I have in many many years. Who would have thought this break-up would turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm going to see if I can attach a picture of me for you all to see. Best wishes to all of you!

Brenda

http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a105/bwarhurst/BrendaAfter.jpg

Most everything in life is how we see it or what we make from it and you made it good!!!

Toasty... I am glad to hear from you. You are such a wonderful person that I hate that you went through all of that. Definitely Justin's loss.

I am glad that you are still able to live and love again. You deserve it! You go Hottie! :)

Hi, Toasty!! :)

Sorry about the breakup, but glad to hear you're doing well. Nice photo and may you keep on enjoying being a hottie!! ;) :D

BRENDA!!!!

I just saw your birthday thread in chit chat and posted a note there...but, girl, I saw this post and just had to reply.

You and I both went through SUCH similar, traumatic things with our vym at the same time...Justin was a bit older than K, but their confusion, vascilation, leaving/coming back was similar...and it all hurt. But whining together with you back then was always a comfort to me and kept me SANE. Yep, those vym changed so much in the 5-8 years we knew them, they grew up and away....and now they are both out of our lives.

So, now you are single again:) I have to say that YOU LOOK AMAZING!!!! When K left, I lost about 30 pounds from the heartbreak of it all too. But that started a transformation in me that is still continuing to this day. Heck, I am one strong woman emotionally and in all other ways now as a result of all the introspection I did after the breakup. Just like you, I am in SUCH a better place now, and with such a great new guy, it was all worth it in the end.

I truly loved K...as I know you loved Justin..but I shouldn't have hung my hat on a relationship that started when he was just SO YOUNG. Lesson learned....

I'm happy for you, honey. I know that the self respect you have gained, and the sense of expectation for what the future holds is a tremendous outcome of this breakup. Like others have said, it's Justin's loss. You, however, have only good things ahead....an "older" younger man is PERFECT at this point for you, and I wish you the best in that situation.

God Bless, Brenda....stay in touch and keep us posted on new updates in your life, okay???

Love you,
Karen

Brenda, I am so sorry that you had to go through that! But, looks like you are a survivor who is managing to turn a bad thing into something positive for you. Keep moving onward and upward and good things will continue to happen for you.

((( hugs )))

Brenda, I'm so sorry to hear about the breakup, but happy to hear you are doing so well. Good for you. I hope your new relationship works out, and if not, sounds like you'll be A-OK anyway. You look fantastic!!!!

Good luck and big hugs
Kye

Gosh, sorry for the breakup. I am sure it was tough on ya for a while. Glad to hear you have been able to move own. Sounds like you have a good outlook on things.:) Let us know how things are going.

Reading your post I feel proud for you to have changed a bad situation in a new birth of you as a woman. You look very pretty. Good luck with your new love.

Hey Toasty,

It's so nice to "see" you and your new look. You look FABULOUS that is for sure.

Isn't ironic that Justin took up with an even older woman than you are? It speaks volumes about the quality of your relationship when times were good.

I admire your strength through the break up. Things always do turn out somehow the way they were meant to be, don't they?

Best,
Bub

Hi Toasty, congratulations of your weight loss. That was quite an achievement and the result is great! I am involved also in a 21 yr age gap relationship and I can imagine that going from that to a 7 yr old gap affords more compatibility. Best of luck in your new relationship and keep up the good work.

best wishes and congratulations on the weight loss, like special k, use it for only further self improvement, make it a launching pad for the START of taking care of YOU!!!!

weight loss is very important health wise, but also watch what you are eating and take vitamins!! keep buying the sexy clothes it really is a boost for your ego.

i am sorry for your breakup but when relationships give us this much difficultly it is best to leave them go.

you look calm and resolved in your decision and that is very good.

Girl! I'm so sorry I haven't posted in this thread yet. Seems like lately I'm always a day late and a dollar short! (well, actually Im lying about the dollar short cuz I am celebrating getting raise this week, woo hoo! lol). But yeah, a day late!

Hon, you look like a whole other person practically! I love the new hair! And the weight loss! You look awesome! If I was there right now, I'd just give you a big ole squeeze, because like Hibiscus said, you took a sad situation, your overcame it, and you reinvented yourself! I'm proud of you!

When you have some time, tell us a bit about the new guy. I'd love to hear!

I'm so glad your feeling the best you have in a good while....Dang, look at you in those skinny jeans! :)

((hugs))

Thanks all for the compliments, it's been a tough time the first couple of months but I must say that it does feel like a rebirth and I feel great about myself. When Justin up and left I felt like my world was falling apart. I am so proud of myself for moving on. As for the new guy in my life, I don't get to see alot of him as I always seem to pick the workaholics that work alot out of town, but he is a good guy. We celebrated my B day last Saturday. He works driving a big tandum dump truck delivering asphalt, salt and gravel all over B.C. I went up to Merritt with him which is about a 6 hour round trip, we even had a snowball fight up there, something I haven't done in a long time. Then that evening we went out to the local sports bar for dinner and drinks with some of my friends. Then back to my new place for a very romantic evening to say the least. I don't know if this guy is the one, but I know I enjoy his company very much. I'm just going to take my time with this one and see where it leads me. I will definately keep you all posted.