new ym/ow realtionship.....NEED HELP!!

hey all, im kinda new to this sceen so im just gonna spill it and you guys/gals can let the advice flow. i have recently entered a relationship with a woman 15 yrs older than me. i am 20, she is 35. i met her by hanging out at a friends house. she is the mother of a friend of mine. we ended up talking alot, and it was always fun. but i was clueless of her attraction towards me until one night earlier this week. after her kids went to sleep and everyone else left we stayed up talking for a couple of hours. and when i went to leave she followed me to the door. when i turned around to say goodbye, (by this time i was starting to have feelings toward her) she had this look in her eye and i couldnt resist. i stepped in closer to her and we kissed. IT WAS GREAT. since then we have talked about it, and neither of us regret it. but its getting to the point where were going to start talking about making it official and taking our feelings to the next level. i want to, and i know she wants too. but there is just so much confusion in my mind about things we will have to deal with. and also the ever approaching time when we will have to start revealing our selves to her kids, and our friends and family. i need some words of wisdom. if ya got any, let me have them.

thanks all and much love.

I'd probably talk about it a bit longer and spend some time with her to see how you both really feel. If you decide you definitely want to be together though, then personally I would tell people about it. I can't remember who said on this forum "you don't deserve to be anybody's dirty little secret" but I think that was a good point... IMO, if she doesn't want to tell anyone about you then it's more like an affair than a relationship... I'd think it means she's not serious about you.

That's just my 2 cents though... It depends a lot on how she feels I guess, and also the consequences it could have on her kids, etc... I don't really know what is the right thing to do but anyway good luck!

Personally I wouldn't take this relationship any further. She is your friend's mother and your friend will be horrified. Is it worth losing your friend over something that will most likely turn out to be a fling?

so, is your friend like, 17? he or she must be unless she had a kid when she was younger than 18. and i would think it would pretty weird for them....

you're basing all of this on one evening and one kiss? seems a little over the top to me. usually women fast forward into the future like this way before it's time.

see how things go. don't jump the gun here.

Wow..i Think You Two Should Definatly Talk About All The Aspects Of What You Are Getting Into...if You Plan On Getting Serious, But If Not A Fun Lil' Fling Is Just That But You Must Take Into Consideration Your Friend.he Is Her Son Too And That Could Lead To A Boat Load Of Problems For You Both...godd Luck And God Bless....