Where Do They Go

I know some people are sensitive to defining relationship issues by age gap but....

If a younger man is interested in meeting older women, what kind of places does he check out/hang out in to find them? Where does he go, where does he look? If there is a predisposition for older women, might there be some kind of science to finding them?

I know I prefer younger men (although not vym) and wonder how I can increase my chances of being in places where they might be looking too.

Hopefully it is not the produce department at the grocery.....

Not really sure how you feel about the online thing...but myspace could be a good starting place if you don't have a page. Start one up. Add some great head/face shots. I am astounded at the number of young guys looking for women there. I mean, IMO, it couldn't hurt, right?

Hopefully it is not the produce department at the grocery.....

Funnily enough I had a part-time job in the produce dept of a supermarket at the time I met D. So that would be a possibility!!!

My personal view is that if you want to meet someone then you should just do the things you like doing. That way if/when someone comes into your life it's someone with who you have shared interests.

And why limit yourself to only ym? Why not just be open to men, who appeal to you, of any age, including ym?

And why limit yourself to only ym? Why not just be open to men, who appeal to you, of any age, including ym?

Ditto.

Nadine.

I've met the women in my life through shared interests; in other words, just living my life and being attuned to the women with whom I come in contact. My interests tend to put me in touch with OW (I'm into art museums/galleries, wine, books and bookstores, that kind of thing.)

A lot of people swear by online dating but it hasn't appealed to me. Online dating and the other, older kinds of dating services (personals ads, video dating, matchmakers) are too industrial and systematic for my taste. I'd like to meet someone in the daily course of my life. (Now as for here, this is a whole community that just happens to operate though a website, so I don't consider being on Ageless to be online dating.;) )

I meet younger men everywhere...shared interests, internet forums, on-line dating sites (although I also dislike these...tried it for a while, but no longer), work...bars/various places. I think it's because there tends to be more younger "single" men and since I'm single, never married, no kids and hang out at places where there tend to be men younger than me (I'm 47)...it's just inevitable...that somebody in the crowd will take a shining to you.

I think it IS hard to meet suitable partners these days...someone you can connect with, trust, feel comfortable with, have fun with...that men seem to be very, very open and flexible. Some may prefer OW, but many are just "open" and if they find a woman interesting and attractive, they will show you attention and may explore their attraction to an OW. They may be just a bit more cautious and careful...perhaps because if you are obviously older than them...they may think you are married or otherwise involved. So if they are interested in more than just sex, they will tend to try and befriend you first. I think that a lot of YM find the understanding and patience nature of the OW appealing and that alone can be a powerful draw to seek out her company.

And the guuuuuys have it!



My personal view is that if you want to meet someone then you should just do the things you like doing. That way if/when someone comes into your life it's someone with who you have shared interests.


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I've met the women in my life through shared interests; in other words, just living my life and being attuned to the women with whom I come in contact.

I agree completely. And face it: If a single person is in the mode of being open to dating or starting a relationship, most are "looking" to some degree or another wherever they are - even if they aren't actively "looking", a single person in looking mode is going to be open to the possibility of something good crossing their path!

I met my current boyfriend at the gym. (I'm a quasi 'gym rat' so I met my bf in the course of doing something that is important in my life.) But, the funny part is...

One of my knee-jerk reactions to finding myself 'suddenly single' or bored is to sign up on an online dating site, look around for a few weeks with my profile hidden, exchange half-hearted notes with a couple of guys, and drop off the site. I don't know why I ever signed up on sites...when I KNEW I wasn't going to wind up dating anyone. I think I just signed up with the teeniest of hopes that I might meet someone. :o

So, a week or two after I met my boyfriend at the gym, my membership on a dating site was just about ready to expire, and I don't know WHAT came over me, but I made my profile 'searchable'. I didn't do it because I knew he was there...I was always searching for younger guys on the site so I never even saw his profile until...he sent me a note and asked me on a date. :)

If I hadn't met him at the gym, I most likely wouldn't have accepted the date online. *laugh* I didn't like his profile at all! And in fact, I had seen him on a DIFFERENT dating site a few months earlier and thought his profile was terrible!

I probably would have accepted a date with him just having met him at the gym...because there was chemistry floating across the room between us before he even leaned over and introduced himself. :)

But...he admitted that he wasn't sure how to approach me at the gym for a date...and that finding me online was his 'break'.

So...the moral to my too-long post is: You never know where you're going to meet someone...and what combination of events is going to put you in the right place, at the right time.

And, while I'm not going to push you to not focus on YM:

My boyfriend is four years older than I am - negligible in the AG world. But if you look at it from the perspective that I hadn't figured I'd date anyone my age or older ever again...it was a very big deal to me at first.

Funny how I came to grips with the 'age doesn't matter' thing within the context of an OW/YM relationship, and then I had to turn back around and come to grips with it in the context of a same-age relationship! I wouldn't trade my 45 year old boyfriend for two 22.5 year olds any day. (For you, Angel-Angel.)

Keep yer options open!

I wouldn't trade my 45 year old boyfriend for two 22.5 year olds any day. (For you, Angel-Angel.)

You know, hearing how happy you are I think that it couldn't have happened to a nicer person!

Ageless has so many awesome women I hope each and every one of us finds a guy that makes us feel the way you are!

Ah....honeymoon love phase. Wish it could last forever!

You know, hearing how happy you are I think that it couldn't have happened to a nicer person!

Awww, aren't you sweet? Thank you...


Ageless has so many awesome women I hope each and every one of us finds a guy that makes us feel the way you are!

Me, too, AngelAngel...me, too.

EDIT: I just wanted to share my lesson about focusing on a certain age group. I almost missed out on the wonderful experience that I'm having because I was SO sure that dating someone his age was never going to make me happy.

No, at this point, I don't know how long this will last or where it will go but it's a wonderful experience that I'm richer for having.

Ah....honeymoon love phase. Wish it could last forever!

You mean it doesn't??? :confused: :eek:


***SG sticks her fingers in her ears and sings La-la-la-la-la...*** :p