He came back!

So he called me Saturday and asked me to take a hike with him up a mountain where you can see the city and the Pacific Ocean in the distance. When I pulled up in my truck and got out, he came and grabbed me and just kissed me for the longest time. Then we hiked to a spot with a bench conveniently located with the greatest view. It was late in the day, and storm clouds were beginning to form and the sun's rays filtered down between the clouds. It was beautiful! So, we just talked, regular chitchat, then, when I said, "It's getting dark, we better start heading back, he grabbed me again and kissed me and said that he can't let me out of his life, He can't imagine his life without me. I'm too important to him. He said that we will work it out. He's willing to do whatever it takes to help him get over his issues. He followed me home and made love to me for two hours! then, took me out to dinner. I told him I expected nothing less than a total committment to improving the communication between us so that whatever is bothering us, no matter what, is shared with the other. He says I will always be his life partner. He has been more romantic in the last 48 hours than in the last 4 years! It's like anything I want! He said the past week has been nothing but torment for him. I've been reading Dr. Phil's book, "Relationship Rescue: a seven-step strategy for reconnecting with your partner" and the workbooks that go with it. He is willing to do the workbooks with me. We had such a really good talk. I told him we would be doing a lot more of that and he said, "I know." I will still keep in mind, one step at a time; one day at a time.

Wow, that is great news! I am so happy for you. Thanks for sharing. :)

He followed me home and made love to me for two hours!Well that is certainly nice. :p

I am such a skeptic... keep your feet on the ground while your heart is in the clouds. I wish you the best. :)

Ditto what Yellowrose said above.

After reading GoldDust's thread, remembering my own experience with my exym vascilating for a couple of months, doing 180's (coming back, wanting to marry me, then leaving again, etc.), and re-reading your own words just a little over a week ago:
Translation-- he's a superficial, emotionally challenged and selfish middle-aged man who is going to end up alone one day and come running to me to pick up the pieces. Can you tell I'm getting madder by the minute? Re the other shoe-- let it drop!!! Hopefully, she's a lot smarter than I was and won't hand him 11+ years of her life to someone who is incapable of a real commitment. I realize now, he's no prize!

....I just want to say "go slow" and stay wise.

I wish you the best.

I think everyone deserves a second chance, especially after all the years of commitment he has given you already. It sounds like you are laying expectations, which is vital. And hopefully, he will keep his word and not let you down again. All the very best wishes to you both.

i hope the best for you, but keep your eyes open and maybe tell him how much you were hurt by his actions, be honest, he really messed up.

however, we all need wakeup calls in life, no one is perfect, we all screw up, i am happy for your good news.

Ditto what yellowrose and special k said above.

While I'm really happy for you, and I do hope that everything works out, I have to wave the "caution" flag.

I truly hope it all works out for you, but I consider inconsistency to be a big red flag. Just a couple of weeks ago, he's telling you he wants to be your friend but can't be romantic with you because you're 60 and a grandmother...and now he wants to make love for two hours. That seems rather unbalanced for a man of 43. He sounds like he's still 18. I hope this isn't a pattern of him doing this to you...leaving and then coming back like this...playing your emotions like a yo-yo.

Just be careful...keep your eyes wide open, please.:eek:

I just re-read the other threads/posts about your relationship....I can't believe our younger men are so similar - they could be twins....oh yeah, they're both MEN :rolleyes: . I truly, truly hope yours realizes what a treasure you are and works hard on the relationship!! Best of luck.

Hey, Flyer.....

Fantastic News!!! I'm happy for ya.... and just want to say "Keep on working on that communication thing...."

Sounds much, much better!! :)

Thanks for the encouragement, but, also wanted to let you know that I hear your words of caution. Be assured, I have both feet on the ground, and eyes wide open. Words are nice, but, I want to see some action to go with them. I'll keep you posted.