Rambling on.....

How is everyone and a Happy New Year

Well, all of you guys are a really intersting bunch. I guess i can't really relate to anything that goes on in here because i am not in a relationship. I hear all the great stories of love truimphing over adversity and it is great. I guess i am really missing out on something. I have seen that you guys really have to put in alot of effort for the relationships that you have had. I just hope that one day i can have what alof of people have on this site.....take care.

Gonzo

Hey, Gonzo...


You hang in there, pardner... Texas is a HUGE place with a lot of love, I'm sure. Just keep plugging away, never give up, and keep stopping by here to talk!!

Happy New Year!! :)

Thanks Harrison....

My problem seems to be that the women find me very "nice guy". Someone once told me that i was too nice to go out with. I guess women want men that need some sort of rescueing......or have some sort of problem like drugs or womanizing.......i think i am a nice guy but don't seem to know what i have to offer a woman.

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Thanks Harrison....

My problem seems to be that the women find me very "nice guy". Someone once told me that i was too nice to go out with.

Gonzo,

Don't let people talk that mess to you. I am a nice guy in person, and I'm here to tell you that ladies DO like nice guys.

Now, it may take you a little bit of extra-searching to find Ms. Special but she's out there.

My advice:

1) Don't turn a girl down just because she doesn't seem pretty enough or because she is too chunky. Some "plain" girls have hearts of gold and are sweet as pie.

1a) Everyone knows my beliefs: Chunky gals make the world go round! :)

2) If you're nice, go to where "nice" is. I've heard that CHURCH is a great way to meet ladies. Can't say for sure, but that's what I've heard.

3) You HAVE to have something to offer a woman. We all have something. ;)


I guess women want men that need some sort of rescueing......or have some sort of problem like drugs or womanizing.......i think i am a nice guy but don't seem to know what i have to offer a woman.

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Think positive: You can DO IT!!

Someone once told me that i was too nice to go out with. I guess women want men that need some sort of rescueing......

I think quite the opposite Gonzo. I think most woman want a man who is confident and self assured, and sometimes they confuse ****iness and arrogance with those traits, so they end up with guys who are not so nice. What they really want is a guy who IS NICE, but also independent and knows what he has to offer a woman.

My YM didn't have a wealth of dating experience, but he is a total geek in certain areas. He bowled me over with his sense of humor and his knowledge of animated media, comic books and action figures. He is just fun!! Despite a very obvious birth defect, or maybe because of it, he has a better sense of who he is, than any person I have ever known. And the idea that he wants to share all this with me, just blows me away!! :D

LOL. This automatic editing thing is sometimes ridiculous!! The word is:
C O C K I N E S S :D

LOL!! :D Great post, Rozie.

I like the part about the "birth defect" -- to me that's a good reminder to be open to ALL people.

I dated a deaf girl briefly. Didn't work out, but that was not related to her deafness.

I am one of those gals that was always attracted to the "rowdy" looking guy...lol. The look, the attitude. I dunno. Brownbear kind of looked like he was a little on the wild side when we met. BUT, I was one of those church goin' gals that Harrison referred to. LOL. I dunno if you can sum up what a gurl likes by the church goin' thing. I was asked out by all the single suit and tie guys at my church but Brownbear with his rough around the edges look won me over. Funny. I wouldn't have EVER been attracted to a guy with a drug problem or if he was a womanizer. Just that rowdy look...teehee:D. I have had friends over the years tell me about men they have dated that were "tooo nice". When I asked what it was that they didn't like, strangely enough it was the extra good manners. Like, one girl didn't like the fact that her date put his coat on her while they were waiting in a movie line in the cold. Or one girl hated getting the doors held open. So, indeed, there are some women who don't enjoy the good manners....I don't get that. I think it's very appealing in a man if he is putting the lady first. Although I did go out with this guy one night who went overboard with the "nice" thing. We went to a movie and he covered my eyes at the scary parts. ummm. yep, that was a turn off.
I would say you haven't met the right lady yet. It will happen though. There is someone JUST for you. Don't give up looking for her. :)

Yea Gonzo, play very close attention to what Harrison wrote. Especially 1 & 2 ;)

Hang around here this year. As a lot of people will tell you this is not a matchmaking site, but people have made connections on here. Treat it like a community in real life. Take note of what women say about themselves. Don't make moves on women who indicate that they are in relationships, but if you see someone who appeals to you who is evidently single, don't hesitate to send a friendly, polite PM and take it from there.

Texas has always been well represented on this site. There might be available Texas women on here, or you might wind up making friends (not bad either) with some of your fellow Lone Star Staters. Don't hesitate to post, post, post! That's how people get to know each other on here.

Best wishes for the New Year! Dave

I don't think any woman is looking for a guy who is "not nice." She wants someone who knows how to treat her and care for her.

But I also think women want a man who knows who he is and what he is about. A man who is his own person and has his own ideas. Not one who is always agreeable about everything she wants and doesn't have his own opinion about it.

I know I do better with a guy who is somewhat of a challenge. It certainly makes life much more interesting.

And, of course, we all want a guy who has some communication skills. Probably the number one complaint most woman have about their guy is that they don't communicate.