Shout out to Faith47!!!

Hey, girl!!!! How you been????

Hey, girl!!!! How you been????

Chatter :D
Well, sorry i am not around anymore. :o
Just work and tired. I dont know really.

But thanks for this message. I'm totally embarassed now lol

And you how you doing girly?

I am peachy keen, thank you! And I didn't mean to embarrass you - honest! I was just excited to see you! :)

Hi Faith and Happy New Year! And what a GREAT pic!:D

I am peachy keen, thank you! And I didn't mean to embarrass you - honest! I was just excited to see you! :)

I know you didnt mean to embarass me :)
Actually, thank you for noticing I was here. And i'm glad it was you

I'll try to be around abit more.

Hi Faith and Happy New Year! And what a GREAT pic!:D

Hey LADave! Happy New Year to you as well :)

And thank you :o

Great to see your pretty face again, Faith!! :) :D

Great to see your pretty face again, Faith!! :) :D

Awww...thanks Harrison

Also, its nice to see some of the old gang. I dont feel so out of place even if I havent been around for awhile.

Chatter, I have to say you are the one I miss the most. You are a funny and smart lady. I love your sense of humour. Never change.

Harrison, glad to see you are more around lately. Unless its because its school break time? I sure missed your insight. You smart man you ;)

Well LADave, I am still in mystery as what you look like lol

A few others I know are still around. thats cool.

You know its not because I didnt like it here anymore. Its personal. I just felt like I had nothing to contribute to and didnt know what to say. So I stayed away. But, I havent forget this place.

ML
Faith47

...You know its not because I didnt like it here anymore. Its personal. I just felt like I had nothing to contribute to and didnt know what to say. So I stayed away. But, I havent forget this place.

ML
Faith47

Thanks for the compliment, Faith :)

Just a gentle correction: Of course you have something to contribute. Everyone has something to contribute, even if it's only asking questions.

* Many YMs ask what they need to do to find an OW. I love to try to help them whenever I can.

* Many OWs ask what they need to do to get a YM to notice them. We try to help them too.

So, if you are already in an AGR, you can give advice to others.

If you are looking for an AGR, you can keep asking for advice. People love to help here.

Please stick around!! :D

Good to see you, Faith! And Happy New Year!

Dan

Thanks Harrison. I'll try to stick around. You are a sweetheart :)

One thing is that I am now 48 and I am in a phase where I feel old and unattractive. I am not saying this so people will say 'no you are not old' or 'yes you are cute'. I truly feel that way so I guess if I feel that way how in the world can I want a relationship. I am 48 now, going to be 49 in april. That is close to 50 and I am finding myself re-evaluating everything about how I see life, how I perceive myself.
I wonder if other women went through that too. If any women went through a similar situation or are going through it please let me know.

Knight Rider. Thanks for the wishes. Happy new year to you as well!

Faith47

Thanks Harrison. I'll try to stick around. You are a sweetheart

One thing is that I am now 48 and I am in a phase where I feel old and unattractive. .... I truly feel that way so I guess if I feel that way how in the world can I want a relationship. ...Faith47

Okay, see? That's a great question.

1. If you are old and unattractive, it's not coming across in your photo!! :D

2. Even if you were "old and unattractive" that is no reason to not want a relationship. We all need and want the same thing.

3. On your very worst day, try to imagine you are as charismatic as Donald Trump or Alan Greenspan (our former Chairman of the Federal Reserve). Nobody ever says "Those old unattractive guys! How do they do it??"

People just look at those guys with YW hotties hanging onto their arm and act like it's perfectly normal. LOL

4. Faith, I know you are WAY, WAY, WAY better-looking than guys like Donald Trump. If he can grab a young hottie, then so can you!! :D

Believe in yourself 100%, dress to kill, and you will have YMs beating down your door. ;)

P.S. You probably speak with a sexy French accent just like Aline. Once you make sure YM English-speakers in the USA can hear it, I'm sure they'll come running.

Okay, see? That's a great question.

1. If you are old and unattractive, it's not coming across in your photo!!

2. Even if you were "old and unattractive" that is no reason to not want a relationship. We all need and want the same thing.

3. On your very worst day, try to imagine you are as charismatic as Donald Trump or Alan Greenspan (our former Chairman of the Federal Reserve). Nobody ever says "Those old unattractive guys! How do they do it??"

People just look at those guys with YW hotties hanging onto their arm and act like it's perfectly normal. LOL

4. Faith, I know you are WAY, WAY, WAY better-looking than guys like Donald Trump. If he can grab a young hottie, then so can you!!

Believe in yourself 100%, dress to kill, and you will have YMs beating down your door.

P.S. You probably speak with a sexy French accent just like Aline. Once you make sure YM English-speakers in the USA can hear it, I'm sure they'll come running.

LOL you sure know how to make a lady smile ;)

As for Donald Trump, he's got MONEY! That is why he's got young attractive woman all over him. duh!
We sure know its not his false toupet that attracts younger women :rolleyes:

But I do get your point
Thanks my friend

Thanks Harrison. I'll try to stick around. You are a sweetheart :)

One thing is that I am now 48 and I am in a phase where I feel old and unattractive. I am not saying this so people will say 'no you are not old' or 'yes you are cute'. I truly feel that way so I guess if I feel that way how in the world can I want a relationship. I am 48 now, going to be 49 in april. That is close to 50 and I am finding myself re-evaluating everything about how I see life, how I perceive myself.
I wonder if other women went through that too. If any women went through a similar situation or are going through it please let me know.

Knight Rider. Thanks for the wishes. Happy new year to you as well!

Faith47

Just to thow in my two cents.... make that five cents; inflation.

Harrison is right: your photo does not convey unattractive.

I think that ladies in their late forties or early fifties find themselves comparing how they look now to how they looked when they were younger. There is a perception that beauty and attractiveness are linked to youth, but in truth it is not. Beauty never leaves: it simply changes, matures, and refines.

If I'm totally off base, my appologies, but I think a lot of ladies get caught up in that perception.

Knight rider.... now I should have thought of that!

Dan

LOL you sure know how to make a lady smile ;)

As for Donald Trump, he's got MONEY! That is why he's got young attractive woman all over him. duh!
We sure know its not his false toupet that attracts younger women :rolleyes:

But I do get your point
Thanks my friend

You're welcome!!

You're right: Money helps. But it's not everything!!

I wish you could've read a post by a former member named Flanker.
He was laughing at his boss whom he described as a rich, old, ugly guy who was getting mad because he couldn't "buy" women to be his girlfriend. :D

I had to laugh too, because there is so much more to it than money....

Charisma is so powerful. So are other things: Self-confidence. Intelligence.
A 100-watt smile. Looking super-good in your clothes. Seductive perfume. Killer hairdo. Etc., etc.

You are gorgeous!! I know you can do it, my friend!!

Just to thow in my two cents.... make that five cents; inflation.

Harrison is right: your photo does not convey unattractive.

I think that ladies in their late forties or early fifties find themselves comparing how they look now to how they looked when they were younger. There is a perception that beauty and attractiveness are linked to youth, but in truth it is not. Beauty never leaves: it simply changes and matures.

If I'm totally off base, my appologies, but I think a lot of ladies get caught up in that perception.

Knight rider.... now I should have thought of that!

Dan

Oh gosh, I called you Knight Rider! :o
Sorry Rose Knight!
I sure wont forget from now on.

Its true what you say. Of course we tend to compare to when we were younger. Its normal. Its also tough to try to understand why a ym would be attracted to someone my age when obviously younger women are more attractive. No wrinkles or skin that start to be affected by gravity :eek:

The main point that I would say is on our side is experience (and I dont mean sexually). We understand more, usually more interested in what is going around than just being centered in our own little world, more compassion. I'm not saying all older women are like that but many I believe are much wiser as they get older. So,that is the positive side of it.

And you can be sure that when I have money I WILL fix a few things physically. Which will definitely help my self-esteem.

And you have nothing to apologize for. You are not off base. On the contrary.
Thanks :D

You're welcome!!

You're right: Money helps. But it's not everything!!

I wish you could've read a post by a former member named Flanker.
He was laughing at his boss whom he described as a rich, old, ugly guy who was getting mad because he couldn't "buy" women to be his girlfriend. :D

I had to laugh too, because there is so much more to it than money....

Charisma is so powerful. So are other things: Self-confidence. Intelligence.
A 100-watt smile. Looking super-good in your clothes. Seductive perfume. Killer hairdo. Etc., etc.

You are gorgeous!! I know you can do it, my friend!!

Ok ok Harrison. I'm out of arguments:p

Hey, sexy, have I convinced you already??!! :D ;) LOL

Seriously... I have complete confidence in you!! :cool:

Older ladies tend to be much better conversation, due to the experience they have. But one thing that I have noticed is that older ladies tend not to play the silly games that their younger counterparts do.

From a point of physical attractiveness, there's nothing unattractive about a lady who's older; quite the opposite (in my oppinion). The only thing lacking is the ability of a lot of people to understand that.

In the end, all ladies get older. So in the end, what difference does it make? If I'm with a lady who's young, she will eventually not be. Then what? If all that a man is after is youth, then he misses out on all of the wonderful things that a lady becomes as she ages. All of us mature and refine as we get older. We become better people than we were because we (hopefully) learn from our mistakes. Those characteristics are harder to develope than physical beauty and require more thought to appreciate. A lady's beauty becomes more subtle as she grows older, and more thorough.

People get caught up in the external because it is what grabs our eyes initially, kind of like wrapping paper on a present. But who wants wrapping paper? Nobody: its the gift inside that counts, not the wrapper.

As far as Knight Rider goes, no worries. I just wish I had his car!!

Dan

I think that ladies in their late forties or early fifties find themselves comparing how they look now to how they looked when they were younger. There is a perception that beauty and attractiveness are linked to youth, but in truth it is not. Beauty never leaves: it simply changes, matures, and refines.

Just an amen here--this is the gospel that I preach. Late forties is around the age of woman that I start noticing. Nifty and Fifty rhyme for a reason. My last serious relationship was with a woman in her sixties. One of my closest friends is a woman of 79, and I think she's pretty.

Hey, sexy, have I convinced you already??!! LOL

Seriously... I have complete confidence in you!!


Convinced me? nah :p

But you making me look at it from another point of view.

And thanks for the vote of confidence. BUT, if I have no one within a month, I am holding you responsible. LOL
:D

Oh no!! The pressure is on! LOL :p

We are all here to help one another, Faith!! We're gonna get you hooked up no matter how hard we have to try! :) Just be patient and have Faith. ;)

Older ladies tend to be much better conversation, due to the experience they have. But one thing that I have noticed is that older ladies tend not to play the silly games that their younger counterparts do.

Have you got that right! I have zero tolerance for games playing.

From a point of physical attractiveness, there's nothing unattractive about a lady who's older; quite the opposite (in my oppinion). The only thing lacking is the ability of a lot of people to understand that.

For that part I believe its a question of personal taste. I'm glad there is younger men that do like older women :D but I also understand that there is younger men that dont. And its ok.

In the end, all ladies get older. So in the end, what difference does it make? If I'm with a lady who's young, she will eventually not be. Then what? If all that a man is after is youth, then he misses out on all of the wonderful things that a lady becomes as she ages. All of us mature and refine as we get older. We become better people than we were because we (hopefully) learn from our mistakes. Those characteristics are harder to develope than physical beauty and require more thought to appreciate. A lady's beauty becomes more subtle as she grows older, and more thorough.

People get caught up in the external because it is what grabs our eyes initially, kind of like wrapping paper on a present. But who wants wrapping paper? Nobody: its the gift inside that counts, not the wrapper.

Very true Rose Knight, but again its a question of personal choice. Well, yeah she will get older eventually but let say there is a 20 years gap. Let say I meet a guy who is 28 (ouch thats young), well, in 20 years he will be 48 and I will be 68! THAT can eventually becomes a problem. I know there is exceptions but again, its exception rather than the rule.
You are one example of a man who really likes older women for who they are and dont see us as a 'challenge' which believe me I DO appreciate but you are an exception.

As far as Knight Rider goes, no worries. I just wish I had his car!!

LOL. yeah rub it in :p

Faith

Just an amen here--this is the gospel that I preach. Late forties is around the age of woman that I start noticing. Nifty and Fifty rhyme for a reason. My last serious relationship was with a woman in her sixties. One of my closest friends is a woman of 79, and I think she's pretty.

Wow! I'm speechless. Can I ask you why that much older than you?
Really, i'm curious.

Oh no!! The pressure is on! LOL

We are all here to help one another, Faith!! We're gonna get you hooked up no matter how hard we have to try! :) Just be patient and have Faith.


Yeah pressure my friend ;)

Oh gosh, ok, now you gotta send me a list of prospects. First step first. Than we'll discuss it.
lol

:D

Faith may I join your club? :D

I am 47 yrs old, and I will be 48 on October 26, and you know I have days like you, but like you, I say experience is what we have and as a result, we should be able to overcome whatever comes our way!

I feel I am attractive, (who knows one day I will do some plastic surgery but so far I have not felt the urge, even if money is not really the issue) educated, intelligent, independent, funny and worldly. But even with those attributions and so much going for myself, where I have the most difficulties, since my divorce 10 years ago, it has been in the relationship department.

For one reason or another, except for a one relationship (LD, non-internet) that lasted one year, the relations I have had in the last 10 years were all short lived. I ask myself if it is because I am too picky, or do I fear getting into a relationship, or because there is not a man for me out there? Who knows the answer...

Do I want to be loved? Indeed, I want to find the greatest love of my life, will I ever? Well, that is to be seen!

Anyway, who knows the point of all my rambling here, but just you know that I stay at AG because I like the people here, what we share, what we learn... I am not seeking a partner here, nor a YM, but here I am.

Hey Faith, ma cherie, welcome back and stay on, we need people like you and me here, just because! :D

Bonne année!

Faith may I join your club?

I am 47 yrs old, and I will be 48 on October 26, and you know I have days like you, but like you, I say experience is what we have and as a result, we should be able to overcome whatever comes our way!

I feel I am attractive, (who knows one day I will do some plastic surgery but so far I have not felt the urge, even if money is not really the issue) educated, intelligent, independent, funny and worldly. But even with those attributions and so much going for myself, where I have the most difficulties, since my divorce 10 years ago, it has been in the relationship department.

For one reason or another, except for a one relationship (LD, non-internet) that lasted one year, the relations I have had in the last 10 years were all short lived. I ask myself if it is because I am too picky, or do I fear getting into a relationship, or because there is not a man for me out there? Who knows the answer...

Do I want to be loved? Indeed, I want to find the greatest love of my life, will I ever? Well, that is to be seen!

Anyway, who knows the point of all my rambling here, but just you know that I stay at AG because I like the people here, what we share, what we learn... I am not seeking a partner here, nor a YM, but here I am.

Hey Faith, ma cherie, welcome back and stay on, we need people like you and me here, just because!

Bonne année!

Welcome to the club girl :)

Yes you feel the same I do and I had one 3 years relationship over 10 years ago, after my divorce and after that, just like you and I have been wondering the same things.

I also would like to find the right man for me but eh, if it happens great, if not it wont. I aint holding my breath but deep down, of course I would love that. Like Harrison said, we all need that ;)

And please dont be shy if you need to talk i'm just a pm away

Bonne année a toi aussi ma chère
Faith

Yeah pressure my friend

Oh gosh, ok, now you gotta send me a list of prospects. First step first. Than we'll discuss it.
lol



Oh, man!!

Prospects! :eek:

Well, lets start small. :) I will try to send you a PM link which is a contact.
Then I will maybe let you take it from there.... maybe ask some questions.... get back to us with any concerns...
:D

I'm sure the others will have good ideas for you too. *grin*

Thanks girl for this thread because if you wouldnt have started it I would not have posted. And now I'm sure glad I did.
I'm having a great time.
I love you girl! You rock.
BTW, where are you???
:confused:
Faith47

And please dont be shy if you need to talk i'm just a pm away



Merci ma cherie, I am seldom shy! jajajajaja Maybe too (the Scorpio in me) blunt for that matter. :D

But it is sure nice to know we are not alone in this search for true love...

Searching! Searching! jajajaja <-- My infamous laugh! ;)

Oh, man!!

Prospects! :eek:

Well, lets start small. I will try to send you a PM link which is a contact.
Then I will maybe let you take it from there.... maybe ask some questions.... get back to us with any concerns...

I'm sure the others will have good ideas for you too. *grin*


What do you mean maybe and will try? no no no. Send me that contact:D

lol
Really, I'm just playing along Harrison but I wont stop you either if you mean it
*grin*

Aww, I'm sorry Faith.

I hit a dead end. I WAS going to send you a PM containing the link of the dating website where my wife and I met.

I thought it was a SUPER place. But, sadly, they've closed since then. I last used it back in 1999. :( That's why I said I would try to send you a link. Wasn't sure.

I'll keep an eye out for the latest and greatest dating news though. :)

Aww, I'm sorry Faith.

I hit a dead end. I WAS going to send you a PM containing the link of the dating website where my wife and I met.

I thought it was a SUPER place. But, sadly, they've closed since then. I last used it back in 1999. :( That's why I said I would try to send you a link. Wasn't sure.

I'll keep an eye out for the latest and greatest dating news though. :)

Its ok Harrison. And thanks for the link.
You know, I'm not that desperate. No worries.

One thing is that I am now 48 and I am in a phase where I feel old and unattractive. I am not saying this so people will say 'no you are not old' or 'yes you are cute'. I truly feel that way so I guess if I feel that way how in the world can I want a relationship. I am 48 now, going to be 49 in april. That is close to 50 and I am finding myself re-evaluating everything about how I see life, how I perceive myself.
I wonder if other women went through that too. If any women went through a similar situation or are going through it please let me know.

I know I'm late chiming in, but absolutely you are not alone in these feelings. From the time I hit my mid 40's I DREADED turning 50. Our office did this "cute" thing when personnel had their 50th where they made you dress up in an old lady outfit complete with a white wig. It was funny and cute (sort of Aunt Bea) but I was so bothered by that birthday that I actually requested they not do it on my birthday. I felt like a total party pooper, but try as I might, I couldn't laugh about it. My office was great and kept the celebration low key...we had a lovely "tea" instead.

My husband, out of fear I suppose, did not acknowledge the day nor a 20 lb weight loss. I actually spent the day with my parents and my Dad kept hounding me about how great is was "to be old." He truly meant to be encouraging, but it made be feel even worse, because not only did he discount my feelings but left me feeling like I was ungreatful for his sage advice. The one person who really did seem to understand a YM half my age, with whom I corresponded and gamed online. He listened patiently and attentively and responded with a rare combination of objectivity and sensitivity.

It took several years for me to figure out exacly what was missing in my life and how to fix it, and at least another year to get the courage to make changes. I divorced, moved, had some minor plastic surgery, began a relationship with that same YM, resumed painting and ballet (two of my passions) and found the woman I used to be. :)

I used to say 40 was the perfect age....now I honestly would say 50. 50 was freedom! 50 was discovery! 50 sowed the seeds that grew into love! :)

P.S. I hope you aren't as angsty as I was at 49...that feeling sucked!

I know I'm late chiming in, but absolutely you are not alone in these feelings. From the time I hit my mid 40's I DREADED turning 50. Our office did this "cute" thing when personnel had their 50th where they made you dress up in an old lady outfit complete with a white wig. It was funny and cute (sort of Aunt Bea) but I was so bothered by that birthday that I actually requested they not do it on my birthday. I felt like a total party pooper, but try as I might, I couldn't laugh about it. My office was great and kept the celebration low key...we had a lovely "tea" instead.

My husband, out of fear I suppose, did not acknowledge the day nor a 20 lb weight loss. I actually spent the day with my parents and my Dad kept hounding me about how great is was "to be old." He truly meant to be encouraging, but it made be feel even worse, because not only did he discount my feelings but left me feeling like I was ungreatful for his sage advice. The one person who really did seem to understand a YM half my age, with whom I corresponded and gamed online. He listened patiently and attentively and responded with a rare combination of objectivity and sensitivity.

It took several years for me to figure out exacly what was missing in my life and how to fix it, and at least another year to get the courage to make changes. I divorced, moved, had some minor plastic surgery, began a relationship with that same YM, resumed painting and ballet (two of my passions) and found the woman I used to be. :)

I used to say 40 was the perfect age....now I honestly would say 50. 50 was freedom! 50 was discovery! 50 sowed the seeds that grew into love! :)

P.S. I hope you aren't as angsty as I was at 49...that feeling sucked!

Thank you Rozie. Your message is insightful. I cant say yet how I would feel at 49 but its about 3 months and a half away.

I hope to be where you are when I am in my fifities. You seems really happy. Thats wonderful!

Thank you :)
Faith47

Well hi there! I haven't heard from you in so long I thought something had happened to you!

I know I'm more or less just echoing here, but I still think you are an amazingly beautiful woman. And more importantly, you're a wonderful friend, too. :)

Take care. ;)

Thanks girl for this thread because if you wouldnt have started it I would not have posted. And now I'm sure glad I did.
I'm having a great time.
I love you girl! You rock.
BTW, where are you???

Faith47

Where was I? I had to sleep!!!! LOL

Thank you, sweetie pie! And thanks for your previous kind words.

As far as not feeling young --- I don't feel "young" - I feel like a mature woman. I don't look like I did when I was younger --- well duh!!! I'm like a classic car, older but still good looking - styles may change, but quality is always quality!

You pop in anytime to hear how beautiful you are, how much we missed you, how much we like you, care about you, and are happy to see you - it will always be the same! ;) Staying away from Ageless when you're not feeling really great about yourself is like not drinking water when you're thirsty!

Well hi there! I haven't heard from you in so long I thought something had happened to you!

I know I'm more or less just echoing here, but I still think you are an amazingly beautiful woman. And more importantly, you're a wonderful friend, too. :)

Take care. ;)

Pat!
Thank you my friend. that is so sweet :D

Have you got that right! I have zero tolerance for games playing.



For that part I believe its a question of personal taste. I'm glad there is younger men that do like older women :D but I also understand that there is younger men that dont. And its ok.



Very true Rose Knight, but again its a question of personal choice. Well, yeah she will get older eventually but let say there is a 20 years gap. Let say I meet a guy who is 28 (ouch thats young), well, in 20 years he will be 48 and I will be 68! THAT can eventually becomes a problem. I know there is exceptions but again, its exception rather than the rule.
You are one example of a man who really likes older women for who they are and dont see us as a 'challenge' which believe me I DO appreciate but you are an exception.



LOL. yeah rub it in :p

Faith

Well, for me, most people are the rule and I was looking for the exception. I have been dating a lady almost 20 years older than myself for about three years now, and I gotta say, she's wonderful. She's every bit as gorgeous as any twenty year old. The biggest challenges for us are more situational in terms of me being the custodial parent of two teenagers and she being unencumbered. But that is what it is and has no bearing on how we feel about eachother.

In the end, if a gent is honest, it is the person inside who counts. But it is equally true that age does not diminish attractiveness. It certainly hasn't in milady's case and judging by your photo, it sure hasn't in yours either.

And I wasn't rubbing it in; I really do wish I had his car:D A black Trans Am with T-tops... whats not to like? Though if pressed, I'd much rather have the new Cadillac XLR-V.

Anyway, just throwing out my thoughts on the subject.

Dan

Thanks Rose Knight. I understand what you mean. I once was in love with someone with an about 15 years age gap and we didnt feel the age difference. So I totally know what you mean and I'mhappy for you :)

as for the rub it in, i was just teasing. I didnt take it personal at all!

Faith47

Welcome Back Faith!!!

You know , I can honestly say that you are not unattractive by any means but I can understand as a woman we go thru those feelings... I can't speak for men lol... BUt I know I'm younger but I felt the same as I turned 30 I had a very hard time doing that... but it was also after the birth of my son to...
but you are beautiful!!!

Where was I? I had to sleep!!!! LOL

Thank you, sweetie pie! And thanks for your previous kind words.

As far as not feeling young --- I don't feel "young" - I feel like a mature woman. I don't look like I did when I was younger --- well duh!!! I'm like a classic car, older but still good looking - styles may change, but quality is always quality!

You pop in anytime to hear how beautiful you are, how much we missed you, how much we like you, care about you, and are happy to see you - it will always be the same! ;) Staying away from Ageless when you're not feeling really great about yourself is like not drinking water when you're thirsty!

There you are! ((hugs))

And thank you for such kind words. It makes me uncomfortable. NO kidding lol
But it warmth my heart. Thank you my friend :D

And you are definite quality.

And...I love your dog. Totally adorable :)

MML
Jocelyne