Hi!!

I just wanted to say a quick hello...
I am 30 years old and I am dating a great guy who is 25 for just over a year.
I am also the mother to three daughters - ages 13,10 and 8.
While our age difference appears insignificant I believe that our true age gap comes from the different stages that we are at in our lives.
He has had no problems with our age or stage differences and never has - he has been our #1 supporter
I am totally happy and in love with him and I know he feels the same way. Anyways I have been lurking here for a while and I have read lots of great opinions and advice and I just thought I would make it official and become a member.
-CB-

It's nice to have somebody on the board who actually has less of an age difference than my wife and me (between 6 and 7 years). And I think you're absolutely right about the life stages point. When we first began dating, we were both working full time and going to grad school part time, and the age difference was a total non-issue. Then, she got to the point that she could retire and I still couldn't, and I was feeling somewhat jealous, which is how I found this place, although our age difference was so much less than others that I never even brought my personal situation up. But now I'm retired too (through an early retirement option), and we're both effectively "the same age" again.

Hello! Welcome.:)

Welcome :cool:

welcome, glad you're here

George

GREAT to see another Canuck join:)

Welcome aboard friend!



Attractive31

welcome to the group! you brought up an interesting topic about life stages/vs actual age. im in my late 20s currently dating someone in their early 40s. we are the same in alot of ways...we both have nonprofit jobs, she is going back to school, i just finished my masters...mentally and emotionally i think we are equal. but she also has children from a previous marriage....and one day i would like children of my own with her if possible. things that are important to her are hanging out with her family, and us alone, and things important to me are the above and hanging out with friends around my age. so my question is, how do you balance it all, realizing that not 100% of the time im gonna wanna hang out with the kids, and not 100% of the time she's gonna wanna hang out with people younger than she is. i realize we dont have to do everything together, but its important that these all blend if possible. thoughts?

Superteetlig....for my BF and I balance is often a tricky thing...however it may be easier for us because my realtionship with my ex is pretty decent and we share custody of our children...which leaves us plenty of "alone" time. And we both get along with one another's families famously.
Our issues have really only come from his friends....mine think that he is just amazing...but his just can't stand me (they feel like I'm stealing him - and yes they are adulst :P )- and if I'm being honest I really can't stomach hanging out with them too much either. So, we just take it one situation at a time - if it's a "guy" thing and he wants to go then he goes - if it's a couple thing and he really wants to go then I go along too. However, I have to say that he doesn't see them much (by hi choice becuase I never badmouth them to him)- mostly because he feels that by going he is being disrespectful of our relationship.
So, like anything - there is no cut and dry answer - do what works for you and in my opinion if something is unbalanced or needs your attention you will know it....
Good luck!!