jemma
03-15-2007, 08:11 PM
Hello all,
Does any woman here that's been involved with a young man suddenly find themselves having many opportunities to be with young men? Since my first age gap relationship ended recently, others have been crawling out of all sorts of woodwork! There were many positive, rejuvenating things (also negatives) about my a.g. relationship, but it wasn't as if it was going to make me then seek out younger men specifically and to the exclusion of all other aged men. The only thing I can think of is, with the hurdles of a first a.g. relationship cleared, my mind is more open and I must be subconsciously be putting different kinds of signals out there.
Anyway, I haven't been around this board for a few months, but I was in a 13 year a.g. relationship (me 37, him 24) for about a year. I've posted about him before... basically we lived together for the past 8 months, we said we loved each other a dozen times a day (and we showed it too), and we were exclusive, BUT, according to him, we were not "in a relationship". This always bugged me but I tried to ignore it because, as far as I or anybody else witnessing things was concerned, we *were* in a relationship, so I decided not to get too hung up on semantics. Eventually, this caught up to me though and I couldn't continue with someone who wouldn't acknowledge the relationship. This became especially difficult when it came to his flirting with girls, including ex-gfs. I have no problems with flirting and I am as sure as anybody can be that he wasn't cheating, but when you combine his flirting with his portraying himself as single, it wasn't very pleasant for me.
So, I broke up with him about 10 days ago. There's a problem though-- I have to go on a week long cruise with him next week which is going to be uncomfortable. I paid his fare and am more than happy to just lose the money and go without him, or to not go and just let him go, but it involves more people, namely his parents and mine-- all going. His parents are not going to want to go without him and they will lose their money. My parents will freak if I tell them because they were strongly opposed to me paying his fare in case it didn't work out between us. I don't want the "I told you so's." and I don't want everyone to be uncomfortable, so I guess we're just going to go and make the best of it and then I will tell all the family members when we get back.
Okay, on to the new YM-- I know it's ridiculously soon, but... while visiting an old friend about a month ago, I briefly met a guy (age 27), thought he was cute, but didn't make much of it. (And, NO, I wasn't flirting!) About 8 days ago, I was on the phone with my friend who asked me about my bf. I said something like "I guess we're on 'a break'." Apparently he told the other guy who was on a plane 2 hours later (they are 1,000 miles away from me) to see me! I was not very receptive at first and feeling guilty even though I was suddenly single, but his charms managed to wear me down on his second visit-- yes SECOND 1,000 mile visit in 8 days! He's coming again next weekend and then after that I guess I'm going there. He said that he can come to see me every weekend "if that's what it's going to take." Well, who knows what will happen-- I can't imagine that it is good for me to jump so quickly to another person, but, he is certainly a pleasant diversion who could develop into more.
Even though my age gap has become smaller (13 years to 10 years), this guy has such a baby face that I can already see public issues with it that I didn't have before with the other guy...
Well, sorry for rambling on. Due to various circumstances (for example with me sheltering my family from these developments for a few more weeks) I have no one to talk to about this situation.
Thanks for reading!
-jemma
Does any woman here that's been involved with a young man suddenly find themselves having many opportunities to be with young men? Since my first age gap relationship ended recently, others have been crawling out of all sorts of woodwork! There were many positive, rejuvenating things (also negatives) about my a.g. relationship, but it wasn't as if it was going to make me then seek out younger men specifically and to the exclusion of all other aged men. The only thing I can think of is, with the hurdles of a first a.g. relationship cleared, my mind is more open and I must be subconsciously be putting different kinds of signals out there.
Anyway, I haven't been around this board for a few months, but I was in a 13 year a.g. relationship (me 37, him 24) for about a year. I've posted about him before... basically we lived together for the past 8 months, we said we loved each other a dozen times a day (and we showed it too), and we were exclusive, BUT, according to him, we were not "in a relationship". This always bugged me but I tried to ignore it because, as far as I or anybody else witnessing things was concerned, we *were* in a relationship, so I decided not to get too hung up on semantics. Eventually, this caught up to me though and I couldn't continue with someone who wouldn't acknowledge the relationship. This became especially difficult when it came to his flirting with girls, including ex-gfs. I have no problems with flirting and I am as sure as anybody can be that he wasn't cheating, but when you combine his flirting with his portraying himself as single, it wasn't very pleasant for me.
So, I broke up with him about 10 days ago. There's a problem though-- I have to go on a week long cruise with him next week which is going to be uncomfortable. I paid his fare and am more than happy to just lose the money and go without him, or to not go and just let him go, but it involves more people, namely his parents and mine-- all going. His parents are not going to want to go without him and they will lose their money. My parents will freak if I tell them because they were strongly opposed to me paying his fare in case it didn't work out between us. I don't want the "I told you so's." and I don't want everyone to be uncomfortable, so I guess we're just going to go and make the best of it and then I will tell all the family members when we get back.
Okay, on to the new YM-- I know it's ridiculously soon, but... while visiting an old friend about a month ago, I briefly met a guy (age 27), thought he was cute, but didn't make much of it. (And, NO, I wasn't flirting!) About 8 days ago, I was on the phone with my friend who asked me about my bf. I said something like "I guess we're on 'a break'." Apparently he told the other guy who was on a plane 2 hours later (they are 1,000 miles away from me) to see me! I was not very receptive at first and feeling guilty even though I was suddenly single, but his charms managed to wear me down on his second visit-- yes SECOND 1,000 mile visit in 8 days! He's coming again next weekend and then after that I guess I'm going there. He said that he can come to see me every weekend "if that's what it's going to take." Well, who knows what will happen-- I can't imagine that it is good for me to jump so quickly to another person, but, he is certainly a pleasant diversion who could develop into more.
Even though my age gap has become smaller (13 years to 10 years), this guy has such a baby face that I can already see public issues with it that I didn't have before with the other guy...
Well, sorry for rambling on. Due to various circumstances (for example with me sheltering my family from these developments for a few more weeks) I have no one to talk to about this situation.
Thanks for reading!
-jemma