Tips on Keeping the Romance alive

I think this would be a great idea for people to give ideas on how to keep the romance alive. We know after that honeymoon stage we tend to get comfortable and sometimes things die down. What are suggestions on new things to keep it alive. ( I'm not talking sexually that would be in sexually speaking) I'm talking the romance and the emotional side of relationships

What works for us is to never forget to say I Love You often, and really mean it.

Also to take a weekend off and go to a nice hotel and have a mini-honey-moon.

To show your love in things you do, like being creative in the kitchen and preparing new and delicious treats.

great tips...

I think the other thing is to remember the past ( good stuff that is) think of your memories together and sometimes relive them :)

I know move out for a few months and then move in back with him! :rofl: Just kidding!
No, be serious! When I went to Venezuela for a week and then came back, he was at his most loving... I must leave town more often. :rolleyes:

Tell a person when things look nice...their eyes, their hair, their clothes... or even just remind them how much you love their smile.

If only people did things like that more often with each other. < sigh >

It just reminds me how much i loved it when the last guy i was seeing (and that i loved) laughed soooo hard...i loved to be able to make him laugh til he turned red... and i never told him that.

Mer, I just saw a show on this the other day. The main thing the couples therapist said to keep the romance alive was to -as much as possible- NOT do the mundane personal things in front of each other all the time. For instance:
1. not brush your teeth together
2. not use the toilet in front of each other
3. not always undress in front of each other
.....etc....

His point was that romance is all about "mystery". If you keep some things private and not share all of the mundane (or bodily-function stuff especially), you leave more to the imagination (and fantasy). The more you can see each other as lovers rather than share-everything roomates, the better for the long term. Sometimes, "too much" information kills the fantasy, ya know.

I get it.

Mer, I just saw a show on this the other day. The main thing the couples therapist said to keep the romance alive was to -as much as possible- NOT do the mundane personal things in front of each other all the time. For instance:
1. not brush your teeth together
2. not use the toilet in front of each other
3. not always undress in front of each other
.....etc....

His point was that romance is all about "mystery". If you keep some things private and not share all of the mundane (or bodily-function stuff especially), you leave more to the imagination (and fantasy). The more you can see each other as lovers rather than share-everything roomates, the better for the long term. Sometimes, "too much" information kills the fantasy, ya know.

I get it.


Thats interesting.. thanks for sharing that.... You know these are things you'd never think of!!!

That is very interesting, I wouldn't have thought of it myself

Here is one that just happened to me.
Warning, this could just have easily backfired :eek:
My poor husband went looking for a stuffed elephant to give me on my bday...he couldn't find one that he thought was "interesting" enough.
Well, yesterday morning I went out to get the mail and sitting on my porch was the stuffed elephant from "The Jungle Book". When he came home from work last night I said "thank you" for the adorable ele and he had no idea where it came from and WHO got it for me:confused: Yikes!!!!!
He was, however, very attentive towards me for the rest of the evening lol.
We still don't have a clue who put it there. Must have been one of my many admirer's :cool: lol. Kind of cool and scary at the same time.
Not sure if I should throw it away, put it in the closet, or display it on my window seat (for more "attentive" evenings lol)
Maybe I should just put up a camera and a few security lights :confused:

Here is one that just happened to me.
Warning, this could just have easily backfired :eek:
My poor husband went looking for a stuffed elephant to give me on my bday...he couldn't find one that he thought was "interesting" enough.
Well, yesterday morning I went out to get the mail and sitting on my porch was the stuffed elephant from "The Jungle Book". When he came home from work last night I said "thank you" for the adorable ele and he had no idea where it came from and WHO got it for me:confused: Yikes!!!!!
He was, however, very attentive towards me for the rest of the evening lol.
We still don't have a clue who put it there. Must have been one of my many admirer's :cool: lol. Kind of cool and scary at the same time.
Not sure if I should throw it away, put it in the closet, or display it on my window seat (for more "attentive" evenings lol)
Maybe I should just put up a camera and a few security lights :confused:

hmm weird LOL...but never know someone who knows him could have over heard him wanting to get you one OR hubby is playing it cool *wink*

"I LOVE YOU"....make these the last words out of your mouth before you go to sleep....and the first words you wisper in the morning while looking into his eyes....:D

Here is my 25 cents Canadian :D

I have been involved now for just over 4 months to a wonderful woman. We are on this incredible roller coaster filled with emotions and a never ending huney moon period believe it or not.

For the last 3 months, we have been treating ourselves once or twice per month to a night down town that involves a real nice restaurant and then drinks at some martiny bar, ending with a long and steamy night at some hotel suite!!
For the two of us, each time we see each other is like the first time. But we do little things for one another that keeps us both intoxicated.

I sometimes come out of the gym and i will find a note on my windshield from her, saying something like: ""My stud, thank you for the wonderful workout, I wish we could just jump in bed and make love to one another"

Or once per month I also send her a real nice bouquet of roses to her work, it is worth the 120 buck I spend on her, and I would do more If I could of course.

I often also buy her supplements. We are both real dedicated gym goers, she being an ex personal trainer, and I being a non-pro bodybuilder. Our diets are extremely important to each other.
She is great for that, not that she needs the support either.


She was away in New York for the Jewish passover, and while in New York we still chatted on the phone, she was only gone for 4 days out of town. While out of town, I received this wonderful card in the mail, she had sent it out the day she was flying down to the U.S. and I received it while she was still in New York...that left me totally in love hahahhaahha deeper and deeper that is.




Just a few things I (we) do in our relationship, that may perhaps help others :)


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Near the end of my last relationship I realized he had stopped noticing when I was naked or wearing very little.

In the beginning we always show how attracted we are to one another - but seem to take it for granted later on. My new beau always notices whenever he can get a glimpse of me with very little on. I hereby proclaim that I will always let him know it takes my breath away when he takes off his shirt, just like it did the first time.

NOT do the mundane personal things in front of each other all the time. For instance:
1. not brush your teeth together
2. not use the toilet in front of each other
3. not always undress in front of each other
.....etc....

His point was that romance is all about "mystery". If you keep some things private and not share all of the mundane (or bodily-function stuff especially), you leave more to the imagination (and fantasy). The more you can see each other as lovers rather than share-everything roomates, the better for the long term. Sometimes, "too much" information kills the fantasy, ya know.

I get it.

I read this with interest when you first posted it, K and it realllly made me start thinking. I've always been a very immodest person.... leaving the door open when I'm in the bathroom, not thinking twice about putting on makeup or brushing my teeth in front of my s/o. But I DID notice that my now-fiance always closed the door whenever he went into the bathroom for ANYTHING... even if he was just putting on cologne. lol! So after reading this post, I put 2+2 together... asked him about it. He agreed that some personal things should remain personal... and it DOES keep an air of "mystery" in an otherwise very close-quartered relationship. So I have now learned how to actually CLOSE a door! GO ME!!! :bow:
Anyway, just wanted to send you a belated "thank you!" for your posting!

I am sure I have posted this before on here. But one thing I do is I still fix up for him. Just like we are dating. Remember dating how you took a few extra steps to look your best? We both do that. Of course we see each other at our worst too. And thats fine but I think its important to take care of your looks too.
Also we leave each other special texts and emails very often to show affection.
We are very courteous and well mannered to one another too.