Orchid
03-23-2007, 07:23 PM
Hi, im new here and glad to find you all.
Well here goes......
Im 55 and my man is 26. We met a little over 2 years ago and have been living together 2years now. When it is just the 2 of us it is wonderful and we laugh alot. When others are around i get self concious and my kids (grown and gone) make me feel guilty. At those times i push him away and generally make his life miserable. HELP. He is sweet and devoted and funny and tells me we can work out the issues but im afraid to believe. Does any of this sound familiar to any one here? This is only ever young man relationsip and he is younger than my kids.
:o
Rozie
03-23-2007, 08:53 PM
Welcome to AL. Does it sound familiar? Lol. This could be the description of most of the OW/YM relationships here. I wish you luck and suggest you read as much as you can here. There are lots of wise women here and I think you may find just the support you need.
kindanice
03-23-2007, 08:55 PM
Hi and welcome.:) You will find lots of good information here.:yes:
Geo55
03-24-2007, 06:51 AM
you're among supportive friends here
sometimes there are no easy answers, but with friends behind you, its easier to have the courage to face the challenge.
my one comment for now, in any relationship, whether it is parent / child, family, friend, neighbor or soul mate, the way to solve problems is via communication of honest feelings in a non accusatory, non confrontational manner.
we're from the same generation. Do you remember the Moody Blues? Lyrics from a song of theirs:
"Wherever you go
Whatever you do
Whatever you say
Say, say, say
Say it with love."
Getting to this spot can be difficult, but it means working on ourselves, not on somebody else.
with care, George
Orchid
03-25-2007, 03:14 PM
Thought I was the only one. It is amazing how comforting just knowing your not alone can be. Yes Geo55 I remember and still love the Moody Blues. You have set me a challenge to be sure. Normally Im a nice person but this special stress seems to bring out the worst in me. A side I never knew existed. New mantra "Say it with love or don't say it at all"
Huggles to all
sassynurse
03-26-2007, 02:22 PM
I'm 15 yrs older than my YM. I used to struggle A LOT with it and was always worried about what other people thought, especially my family! It's gotten easier. They eventually saw him for the person he is and not his age. Ultimately, it's your happiness that counts. If you're happy the rest will work out. Welcome and good luck!:)
