moxieme
03-26-2007, 03:58 PM
This is the first time I am participating in this type of online communication. Several years ago, I was involved with a man who is about 10 years younger and of a different race. He has always maintained I was the first woman he ever had sex with. I have no reason to doubt him. He told me on more than one occasion he was in love with me. Of course, I, being logical and mature, loved him back through my actions, but always insisted we could never survive all of society's obstacles and judgement. As an older woman, I felt obligated to protect him. I always knew he would be very successful, and he is. Our parting was very sweet and very sad. I think of him often, I miss him often. I have never regretted our time together. Recently, I had this overwhelming compulsion to find him. He told me he's happy that I have found him and reached out. Now that I have, I don't want to bungle a rekindled friendship that I cherish with some foolish fantasy of a serious relationship with a significantly younger, semi-wealthy, man of a different race, who by-the-way, lives in another state. Hopefully, I will be able to better manage the relationship (however it develops) by participating in this forum.
special K
03-26-2007, 04:37 PM
mox...with an age difference of only ten years, I'd say you would be remiss if you didn't try to rekindle a relationship with this wonderful ym (of course only if HE wants to and is not in another relationship at this time).
Ten years is literally nothing...and we have several combined-racial relationships here on the boards as well. If you were the guy, ten years older than your gf, would you even blink an eye??
Drop the old-school social judgements....they don't really exist any more. Join us all in the new enlightenment (supported by Oprah, and countless celebrity women in the public eye, books, etc.) that older women with younger men is an EXCELLENT option for relationships for more reasons than not. Plus, remember, men die 7 years earlier than we women do statistically, so that means you two are only 3 years apart:yes: does that make it better?
My fiance and I have a 22 year age gap, and we've been accepted by literally everyone on both sides of the family, friends, etc. Our match is a good one and if I had rejected the thought of being with him in the beginning when I first had reservations, I would have missed out big time.
Seriously, your fears of being with someone younger as a women are outdated and have no base. He is a real adult. If he is a great guy, and you love each other, it would be a tragedy to reject him based on age or race.:welcome:
