Hello

I'm 22, recently divorced and I can't stop thinking about the older man I slept with while I was married. My ex-husband is now 25, we got married when I was 18. I've always liked older men though, but of course, being jailbait for a long time, I dated all younger men before I got married. Two years ago, we had a 57 (59 now) year old room mate. He constantly goes to the gym, and is in great shape (which is quite the opposite of myself). He has the body of a 30 year old, when he first moved in he lied about his age to me and told me he was 35, and looked young enough for me to believe it! I ended up having a relationship with him, and his age kept going higher and higher, lol. I eventually had to dig his passport out while he wasn't home. He was so much more considerate of my feelings, and treated me a lot better than my husband. Not only that, but killer in bed, lol. He took me out, took me on day trips out of town, bought me presents, and took me shopping. We had a falling out in which he left, went to Europe and came back a few months later. I live in a small town, and I see him sometimes, but I never talk to him. Since my divorce in January, I've found myself looking for him where ever I go. My ex-husband wants to start over and I just don't think I want to. I never look at a young guy around my own age and think "I bet he's good in bed" but I check out old guys all the time, lol. I don't know if this is a weird obsession that's going to go away, or something I'm stuck with for life. But I found this forum doing a search about it on google, and thought I'd come hang out for a while. See what happens, you know.

Welcome to Ageless. I think you will find this community to be full of great people, with alot of wisdom and experience to share. Enjoy the site.

Dae Welcome
Isn't it special to be sexualy with an older man ?
As an older man i am a lot more patient and make loveing
a celebration, and make it oh so special as I can everytime we make love .
So many young men really just don't get it that the woman has needs that you just skip right over if you aren't paying attention.
So many of the younger ladies that I have slept with have been anazed at how much time I will take with her to make her night and experience as great for her as I can and they always please me to the max when they are safe warm and Happy so to say .
Good luck on finding a new oolder man hon but I do think the one that you had has lost interest and going back with your younger EX-Hubby would only serve to point out his shortcomeings Plus sending the wrong signal if you really don't want to go back with him .

The ex is getting worried, I'm on a diet. :rofl: That ALWAYS makes him nervous. Hopefully I'll lose the weight that's making me depressed, and I'll get back out there. I haven't been anywhere at all besides home, work, and the grocery store for 6 months. I may end up moving back to my hometown to try and start over, but for now my whole life is here, and I'm too lazy to move.

atta great laughter I had..... thank you Jerry

Dear daeraelle,

Welcome!

After reading your post, in my humble opinion I think you are stereotyping young men/old men in such a way that you're not opening yourself to the possibility that a young guy might suit you as well. I don't think you're obsessed with old men, but you're just not wanting to open possibilities to young men.

If your ex wasn't what you expected is a particular case. Just think for a minute the fact that you had just joined a forum where there's more emphasis in age gap relationships between older women/younger men... how do you think these young men are? I'm pretty sure they are mostly mature, well-mannered, caring, thoughtful and very kind and chivalrous towards their older women... (or am I wrong ladies?)

Just keep an open mind, because the man of your dreams might appear anywhere, anytime (older or younger) in front of you and you won't even notice if you're looking the other way!

:yes:

I'm not looking for the man of my dreams. I just got divorced, I'm not jumping into something else right now. I may be stereotyping young men, but to me that's fine. I've always been attracted to older men, my whole life. I just think that's something I want to try out. After 7 bad young men, it can't hurt to go after an older man. At least I'm not a lesbian yet.