He arrives in two days!

Hi all, I'm new.
My sweetheart arrives in 2 days! We met last August, in his town (we enjoyed each other for a month and then I went home 7 hours away) We have met for the weekend twice since. He has been consistant in his daily calls and words that he wants to be my man. We are 15 years apart in age. I'm 50 he's 35. He is comeing here for a week and then we drive back together to his town where I stay each summer. We are moving in together, at least for the summer. I haven't made any commitment past that. He's sure he'll make me so happy I'll want him to follow me back here when I go home for the season.
15 years is a lot! My last (10 year) relationship was with someone 8 years younger which now seems like nothing by comparison. I'm very nervous. Over the last 6 months that we've talked (and talked and talked) on the phone I think I know him and he seems mature beyond his years and someone I could love forever. I guess I'm writing for reassurance. Until I came to this site I thought we were very wierd. He wants me to meet his friends and be a full fledged partner in his life in everyway. Reading here - that seems possible. Will the insecurities about my looks/age ever go away?
Thanks very much to all who share here.
Goldengrl

oops, double posted....sheesh how did that happen? see below for my real post

Welcome, goldengirl!:welcome:

Good for you! It sounds like you have a wonderful guy there, and that you match really well. Don't give your age gap another minute of thought, really. At 35 and 50, you are both well into adulthood/maturity:bgrin2: , and can make decisions based on life experience and be solid in them. I think it's WONDERFUL that you two are going relatively slow with this...getting to know each other well during the past several months...moving in together "just for the summer" to get to see how you mesh in that situation, etc. , rather than moving in permanently right away, or getting married without having been together IRL for at least a year or more. Going slowly never hurt any relationship that is meant to be.

I wish you the best...35 and 50= that's perfect in my eyes!!! (my fiance is 28 and I'm 50, a bit bigger gap). You two have just the right age dif., and are at solid ages to be sure of things. Your age gap is probably not even noticeable in public, and you were basically raised in eras that were juxtaposed, and since women outlive men by 7 years, you two should be FINE:yes: . You should have a great future ahead with this wonderful guy. I wish you the best!

Special K your mailbox is full or I'd thank you personally. That was a really supportive response. I should print it out and read it every day. Also, loved your photos.

I'm feeling like I can do this.
Goldengrl

Make that one day, now:)

I know! OMG! and I haven't seen him since New Years.

As of tomorrow we'll be living together. Along with our children (3 dogs and 4 cats! lol).

I do feel calmer after reading this board and see that we are not that unusual. Love is love no matter the age. Besides, 35 is a man not a boy - he knows what he wants. Every time he calls his words are so confident that this is right - so I'll have faith and believe him. I hope I can stay in the moment.

There are no guarantees that a relationship will work out just because you're closer in age.

I know my nervousness will melt away when he arrives and holds me.

This time tomorrow.......

Thanks to all
Goldengrl

Hi Golden!
Welcome to Ageless and to the absolute wonder-ride of dating a man 15 years younger. That's the age diff between me and my b/f. I'm 42 and he's 27. It was a bit of an issue for me at first (didn't EVER seem to be an issue for him), but now I honestly hardly ever think about it. We're just so compatible and seem to be the same "emotional" age (i.e., wanting pretty much the same things, having the same interests and responses to handling situations, etc.) that the actual physical age diff seems soooo non-important now.
Just remember, when those little insecurities creep in (and they WILL), that he has fallen for YOU, not the number of candles on your birthday cake. There's few things more appealing in a partner than self-confidence... hang on to that. I'm sure it's one of the many, many things that attracts him to you! And HAVE A GREAT TIME!!!! You deserve it!!!!
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He has been here 4 nights and already I feel so close and loved and cherished that our age difference rarely comes into my mind. He says he wants to be my man always. I hope I'm healthy enough to stay in love with this great guy. He is a quality human being and I'm now happy this relationship happened.


Those of you that posted to me were right. His love for me includes my age - it's not in spite of it.

Thanks to all that helped me to be open to this. It is truly a gift to be loved this way.

Goldengrl

Glad to hear that you guys are getting together again, I wish you well!

Hope all is going well and you're enjoying your time together.

Have a great summer together and enjoy this new relationship! :yes: